Confused with a teammate

  • NashRugger

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    Dec 09, 2010 11:01 PM GMT
    Since I started playing rugby in October, one of the guys on the team took a liking to me pretty quickly. Since then, we've been regularly having sex and enjoying just being around each other.

    There are some feelings there, and he even admitted to loving me, and I really like him back. 2 weeks ago he clearly stated that we're beyond fuck buddies/ friends with benefits, which made me happy. There is one wrench in it though, he is "with" a guy in Orlando, over 650 miles away, and see each other at most once every other month.

    Last Sunday he caught me making out with another, truly hot, teammate at the bar after we've had a bit to drink. We left together and the first thing out of his mouth in the parking lot was "I'm not jealous", but I could clearly notice jealousy in the tone of voice. He laid on me the entire 45min back to his place outside of town.

    We're both sick with the crud right now and he asked me specifically to come over and just keep him company before I went to work. We had sex, and then cuddled and napped for the next 2 hours.

    I'm getting so many mixed signals and enjoy what we have right now, but is wanting more in the future bad? If not, how should I approach this w/o losing a close friend or making it akward?
  • barriehomeboy

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    Dec 10, 2010 1:43 AM GMT
    I clearly need to take up playing rugby.
  • Vaughn

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    Dec 10, 2010 2:02 AM GMT
    barriehomeboy saidI clearly need to take up playing rugby.

    Right?


    He needs to break up with the guy he is "with" or maybe there is another team member you can have sex with before work.
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    Dec 10, 2010 2:26 AM GMT
    What do you mean mixed signals? You're being played is all.
  • mybud

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    Dec 10, 2010 3:13 AM GMT
    You deserve each other....but remember the player always gets played......BUD
  • DKnight

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    Dec 10, 2010 8:13 AM GMT
    I just wanna say maybe he would do the same thing to the next guy when he goes to another 650-miles place.
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    Dec 10, 2010 10:02 AM GMT
    He can't commit to the guy he's already "with" so he's messing around with you. This is fine for him; I suppose he expects you to be ok with the fact that he's allowed to have multiple relationships on the go. But as soon as you treat him to his own medicine he gets defensive and touchy, then sleeps with you just to keep you on his side. Toxic, narcissistic behaviour. Look up Narcissistic Personality Disorder and see if this guy matches any of those traits.
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    Dec 11, 2010 7:16 PM GMT
    sound like drama queen right there
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    Dec 11, 2010 7:18 PM GMT
    recognize GAME before game recognizes you!

    He's a player... on to the next!
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    Dec 11, 2010 7:21 PM GMT
    He has another dude. Of course your getting mixed signals, he's confused. I wouldn't take it any farther with this dude other than fuck bud. If you get emotionally involved with someone who has confused feelings, you're gonna get burned.
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    Dec 12, 2010 9:59 PM GMT
    He has a guy.
    You made out with a guy.
    You regularly have sex and like each other... a lot.


    Sounds like you need to ask him what his true intentions are... I mean, love can be polygamy but you have to ask yourself if you want to share him with some guy you don't even know who may be doing the same thing.