Monogamous (sp?) But You Post Racy Photos?

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    Dec 11, 2010 1:24 AM GMT
    K, what's the deal with monogamous guys who post racy, even nude, photos of themselves. To me that's about the biggest "mixed message" you can send. Looking--nudes away! Monogamous--clothed and "platonic" is probably the least hypocritical way to go...
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    Dec 11, 2010 5:53 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidComing from someone who only has adult photos (and is showing his dick), that is rather funny.


    It's not the same... He's not in a 'monogamous relationship,' unlike the ones he's complaining about.
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    Dec 11, 2010 6:28 AM GMT
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    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidComing from someone who only has adult photos (and is showing his dick), that is rather funny.


    It's not the same... He's not in a 'monogamous relationship,' unlike the ones he's complaining about.


    Thats right, he is not in a relationship at all and looking for hook ups too.

    But I do think it's a right pisser guys saying they are in a monogamous relasionship, have a hot list a mile long, and expose themselves tooicon_rolleyes.gif
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    Dec 11, 2010 6:32 AM GMT
    I think it has a lot to do with guys being insecure and needing constant validations of... "you're hot!" from others to make them feel good about themselves. But then again, I tend to see good in people when there isn't any, so maybe they are trying to fuck around on their partners.
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    Dec 11, 2010 6:33 AM GMT
    Some way... some how... I feel Fearthefall will come blasting on this thread about "you cruise, you lose" icon_neutral.gif
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    Dec 11, 2010 7:39 AM GMT
    Olympian saidSome way... some how... I feel Fearthefall will come blasting on this thread about "you cruise, you lose" icon_neutral.gif


    Either that, or he'll say "I do it for the lulz!"
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    Dec 11, 2010 8:11 AM GMT
    Naw, validation isn't the point, hypocrisy is...Monogamous? Then why you showin' me the nudie? Single (like me?)....Bombs away! ;)
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    Dec 11, 2010 8:17 AM GMT
    Pauly72 saidK, what's the deal with monogamous guys who post racy, even nude, photos of themselves. To me that's about the biggest "mixed message" you can send. Looking--nudes away! Monogamous--clothed and "platonic" is probably the least hypocritical way to go...


    Monogamous here, with one adult pic.

    hypocritical ? only if you are uncomfortable with you sexuality.

    IT's not about what feel right or wrong for you, it's about what feel right or wrong for me and my partner.

    Since when is it ok to tell other what they should feel ?

    Would you be ok with someone telling you you should feel like a pervert because he feel that gay sex is a perversion ?

    It's about personal integrity. Naked pic in the adult section of a gay fitness website don't make me feel uncomfortable. Just like I don't feel uncomfortable to be seen nude in a locker room, fully aware that some look at my body in a fitness point of view, some other with sexual thought, and none offend me, it's natural.

    I don't force people to click on the adult section.
    I think my body look far better in full than in parts, something about the torso, belly, ass and legs blending into each other.
    I do appreciate compliment form people liking my shape or finding me sexy. And I don't need to be insecure to enjoy validation.
    And just the same, if I tell someone I find him sexy, it doesn't mean I want something, it just mean I find him sexy.



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    Dec 11, 2010 8:46 AM GMT
    KardioKing saidI think it has a lot to do with guys being insecure and needing constant validations of... "you're hot!" from others to make them feel good about themselves. But then again, I tend to see good in people when there isn't any, so maybe they are trying to fuck around on their partners.


    I hear your point, but think about it :

    Who is insecure ? Someone who find cool to be found sexy even when monogamous, or someone afraid his partner will fail to resist temptation if he gives or receive sexual appraisal from others ?

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    Dec 11, 2010 9:32 AM GMT
    Pauly72 saidK, what's the deal with monogamous guys who post racy, even nude, photos of themselves. To me that's about the biggest "mixed message" you can send. Looking--nudes away! Monogamous--clothed and "platonic" is probably the least hypocritical way to go...


    What do you consider 'racy' shirtless? As far as nude pictures, definitely not on on Real Jock. If it's pertaining to RJ than a shirtless pic isn't necessarily inappropriate whether you are single or in a relationship. The site does tend to lean towards health/fitness for Gay men does it not?
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    Dec 11, 2010 11:35 AM GMT
    Is "monogamous" like the pox? Am I to procure a high collar shirt and a pitch fork and post just one photo that looks like I stepped right out of American Gothic?

    I guess I have some pics that the OP would object to. Think about it, guys--muscle development doesn't stop at the brief line. I tend to think of the pics in totality as providing one data point for that universal question--what can I be at that age? Or more specifically, what can I be if I avoid alcohol, work out regularly, eat intelligently, and maintain an overall healthy lifestyle? I have posted about this stuff many times since I joined RJ and I tend to think of the pics as putting my money (shots) where my mouth is. icon_lol.gif

    I believe in look good at any age and be all you can be. That probably shows in my choice of pics, but it doesn't mean that I want to date you. What I would appreciate is your encouragement and support and friendship. In my opinion, that's what RJ is about. If I wanted to be on a dating site, I would join one.

    There is no ambiguity in "monogamous." Here's a simple fix if you got a problem with what a "monogamous" guy is doing on this site. Just leave that part of his life alone. That way you force him to change his designation if what he really wants is some action.
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    Dec 11, 2010 9:29 PM GMT
    True_blue_aussie said
    A1EX said
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidComing from someone who only has adult photos (and is showing his dick), that is rather funny.


    It's not the same... He's not in a 'monogamous relationship,' unlike the ones he's complaining about.


    Thats right, he is not in a relationship at all and looking for hook ups too.

    But I do think it's a right pisser guys saying they are in a monogamous relasionship, have a hot list a mile long, and expose themselves tooicon_rolleyes.gif


    Says the man who claims in his profile he is in a 20 year relationship, but still has a hot list himself. Hypocrite.
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    Dec 11, 2010 9:51 PM GMT
    HeartRobb said
    True_blue_aussie said
    A1EX said
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidComing from someone who only has adult photos (and is showing his dick), that is rather funny.


    It's not the same... He's not in a 'monogamous relationship,' unlike the ones he's complaining about.


    Thats right, he is not in a relationship at all and looking for hook ups too.

    But I do think it's a right pisser guys saying they are in a monogamous relasionship, have a hot list a mile long, and expose themselves tooicon_rolleyes.gif


    Says the man who claims in his profile he is in a 20 year relationship, but still has a hot list himself. Hypocrite.


    Possums, but where has one stated one is in a monogamous relasionship? This is what this tread is about, people claiming to be in a monogamous relasionship, yet still acting and promoting as if they where single.

    My partner of 20 years, is a companion, where our relasionship is not based on sex. Now when yo can maintain, a long term relasionship, that is not all about sex, come talk to me.

    One also promotes polygamy too!

    Nor has one ever said I am are here for hook ups either.

    No hypocrisy at all hearlessrob. But keep spreading your democratic love, and diversity.icon_rolleyes.gif

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    Dec 11, 2010 10:00 PM GMT
    True_blue_aussie said
    HeartRobb said
    True_blue_aussie said
    A1EX said
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidComing from someone who only has adult photos (and is showing his dick), that is rather funny.


    It's not the same... He's not in a 'monogamous relationship,' unlike the ones he's complaining about.


    Thats right, he is not in a relationship at all and looking for hook ups too.

    But I do think it's a right pisser guys saying they are in a monogamous relasionship, have a hot list a mile long, and expose themselves tooicon_rolleyes.gif


    Says the man who claims in his profile he is in a 20 year relationship, but still has a hot list himself. Hypocrite.


    Possums, but where has one stated one is in a monogamous relasionship? This is what this tread is about, people claiming to be in a monogamous relasionship, yet still acting and promoting as if they where single.

    My partner of 20 years, is a companion, where our relasionship is not based on sex. Now when yo can maintain, a long term relasionship, that is not all about sex, come talk to me.

    One also promotes polygamy too!

    Nor has one ever said I am are here for hook ups either.

    No hypocrisy at all hearlessrob. But keep spreading your democratic love, and diversity.icon_rolleyes.gif



    Yes, you are all about hypocrisy, true_blue_asshole, from the moment you made the statement about what is right for others to have in their profile.
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    Dec 11, 2010 10:08 PM GMT
    HeartRobb said
    True_blue_aussie said
    HeartRobb said
    True_blue_aussie said
    A1EX said
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidComing from someone who only has adult photos (and is showing his dick), that is rather funny.


    It's not the same... He's not in a 'monogamous relationship,' unlike the ones he's complaining about.


    Thats right, he is not in a relationship at all and looking for hook ups too.

    But I do think it's a right pisser guys saying they are in a monogamous relasionship, have a hot list a mile long, and expose themselves tooicon_rolleyes.gif


    Says the man who claims in his profile he is in a 20 year relationship, but still has a hot list himself. Hypocrite.


    Possums, but where has one stated one is in a monogamous relasionship? This is what this tread is about, people claiming to be in a monogamous relasionship, yet still acting and promoting as if they where single.

    My partner of 20 years, is a companion, where our relasionship is not based on sex. Now when yo can maintain, a long term relasionship, that is not all about sex, come talk to me.

    One also promotes polygamy too!

    Nor has one ever said I am are here for hook ups either.

    No hypocrisy at all hearlessrob. But keep spreading your democratic love, and diversity.icon_rolleyes.gif



    Yes, you are all about hypocrisy, true_blue_asshole, from the moment you made the statement about what is right for others to have in their profile.


    Yet hearlessrob you are the one claiming to be in a monogamous relasionship, yet publish pitures of you in your underpants, that promote something sexual, you also have a hot list too; thus the hypocrisy belongs to you darls. Thus your sensitivity to this topic.

    Albeit the foundations of our almost 21 year relasionship was not built on lust, nor is sex that keeps it alive either, and I'm sure we will be together until death do us part. Come back when you have achieved a relasionship that strong mate.

    keep spreading your democratic love, and diversity.

    Issues and they all belong to you.
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    Dec 11, 2010 10:23 PM GMT
    True_blue_aussie said
    HeartRobb said
    True_blue_aussie said
    HeartRobb said
    True_blue_aussie said
    A1EX said
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidComing from someone who only has adult photos (and is showing his dick), that is rather funny.


    It's not the same... He's not in a 'monogamous relationship,' unlike the ones he's complaining about.


    Thats right, he is not in a relationship at all and looking for hook ups too.

    But I do think it's a right pisser guys saying they are in a monogamous relasionship, have a hot list a mile long, and expose themselves tooicon_rolleyes.gif


    Says the man who claims in his profile he is in a 20 year relationship, but still has a hot list himself. Hypocrite.


    Possums, but where has one stated one is in a monogamous relasionship? This is what this tread is about, people claiming to be in a monogamous relasionship, yet still acting and promoting as if they where single.

    My partner of 20 years, is a companion, where our relasionship is not based on sex. Now when yo can maintain, a long term relasionship, that is not all about sex, come talk to me.

    One also promotes polygamy too!

    Nor has one ever said I am are here for hook ups either.

    No hypocrisy at all hearlessrob. But keep spreading your democratic love, and diversity.icon_rolleyes.gif



    Yes, you are all about hypocrisy, true_blue_asshole, from the moment you made the statement about what is right for others to have in their profile.


    Yet hearlessrob you are the one claiming to be in a monogamous relasionship, yet publish pitures of you in your underpants, that promote something sexual; thus the hypocrisy belongs to you darls. Thus your sensitivity to this topic.

    Albeit the foundations of our almost 21 year relasionship was not built on lust, nor is sex that keeps it alive either, and I'm sure we will be together until death do us part. Come back when you have achieved a relasionship that strong mate.

    keep spreading your democratic love, and diversity.

    Issues and they all belong to you.


    No, not hypocrisy on my part, because I was not the one crying there was something wrong with it. I am not the one who first came in here making a judgment on others based on what was in his profile when you do not know the dynamics of the relationship (a word I know how to spell, darling) of any these people.
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    Dec 11, 2010 10:38 PM GMT
    I've done some modeling, so the photos are already out there - why not put a couple of them up? I don't show anything really though because of the whole mixed messages thing, and I even captioned my photos to encourage creepers to think with something other than their dicks.
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    Dec 11, 2010 11:31 PM GMT
    Personal opinions aside, if their patners know about it and are ok with it thats their choice.

    If they don't know about it icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Dec 11, 2010 11:32 PM GMT
    I have a shirtless picture up, because I'm proud of what I've accomplished.

    I have a pic of me in the bathtub, which basically shows nothing, because it's a great glimpse of my personality. That IS me. Playful, nearly always smiling, and enjoying WHEREVER I'm at.

    I don't know what you consider racy, but I don't have anything to be ashamed of. My partner occasionally reads the forums with me. He knows exactly what I do, and what pics I post. As long as I'm communicating with my partner, anyone else's views on the matter are irrelevant. But, I'm also of the view that anything that two consensual adults do is their own business, whether that's in their relationship dynamics, in life, or in the bedroom.
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    Dec 12, 2010 12:58 AM GMT
    looking at a picture isn't the same thing as fucking someone
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    Dec 12, 2010 1:26 AM GMT
    Pauly72 saidK, what's the deal with monogamous guys who post racy, even nude, photos of themselves. To me that's about the biggest "mixed message" you can send. Looking--nudes away! Monogamous--clothed and "platonic" is probably the least hypocritical way to go...
    What's the big deal? They're just naked.
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    Dec 12, 2010 3:07 AM GMT
    HeartRobb said
    True_blue_aussie said
    HeartRobb said
    True_blue_aussie said
    HeartRobb said
    True_blue_aussie said
    A1EX said
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidComing from someone who only has adult photos (and is showing his dick), that is rather funny.


    It's not the same... He's not in a 'monogamous relationship,' unlike the ones he's complaining about.


    Thats right, he is not in a relationship at all and looking for hook ups too.

    But I do think it's a right pisser guys saying they are in a monogamous relasionship, have a hot list a mile long, and expose themselves tooicon_rolleyes.gif


    Says the man who claims in his profile he is in a 20 year relationship, but still has a hot list himself. Hypocrite.


    Possums, but where has one stated one is in a monogamous relasionship? This is what this tread is about, people claiming to be in a monogamous relasionship, yet still acting and promoting as if they where single.

    My partner of 20 years, is a companion, where our relasionship is not based on sex. Now when yo can maintain, a long term relasionship, that is not all about sex, come talk to me.

    One also promotes polygamy too!

    Nor has one ever said I am are here for hook ups either.

    No hypocrisy at all hearlessrob. But keep spreading your democratic love, and diversity.icon_rolleyes.gif



    Yes, you are all about hypocrisy, true_blue_asshole, from the moment you made the statement about what is right for others to have in their profile.


    Yet hearlessrob you are the one claiming to be in a monogamous relasionship, yet publish pitures of you in your underpants, that promote something sexual; thus the hypocrisy belongs to you darls. Thus your sensitivity to this topic.

    Albeit the foundations of our almost 21 year relasionship was not built on lust, nor is sex that keeps it alive either, and I'm sure we will be together until death do us part. Come back when you have achieved a relasionship that strong mate.

    keep spreading your democratic love, and diversity.

    Issues and they all belong to you.


    No, not hypocrisy on my part, because I was not the one crying there was something wrong with it. I am not the one who first came in here making a judgment on others based on what was in his profile when you do not know the dynamics of the relationship (a word I know how to spell, darling) of any these people.



    lol, Heartrobb, ask True_blue if his husband(s) are free to go get more husbands of their own. Only True_blue gets that privilege, I think. icon_wink.gif

    Remember, he's promoting his form of polygamy, which is not equality such as polyamory.

    -Doug .
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    Dec 12, 2010 3:19 AM GMT
    My man took my profile pics and I wouldn't post nudes even if I wasn't "married."

    He and I occasionally argue over my hot list, though. He says I have strange taste in men. I say he tastes strange. icon_twisted.gif
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    Dec 12, 2010 5:11 AM GMT
    Horsepower saidMy man took my profile pics and I wouldn't post nudes even if I wasn't "married."

    He and I occasionally argue over my hot list, though. He says I have strange taste in men. I say he tastes strange. icon_twisted.gif
    Last time I had a boyfriend tell me I had strange taste in men, I said "don't be so hard on yourself, dear...just be glad someone found you hot enough to date."
    He STFU after that. icon_lol.gif
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    Horsepower saidMy man took my profile pics and I wouldn't post nudes even if I wasn't "married."

    He and I occasionally argue over my hot list, though. He says I have strange taste in men. I say he tastes strange. icon_twisted.gif
    Last time I had a boyfriend tell me I had strange taste in men, I said "don't be so hard on yourself, dear...just be glad someone found you hot enough to date."
    He STFU after that. icon_lol.gif

    +1 - that'd be MY response as well... LOL!