Shyness wont pay my Bills!

  • MrNomis

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    Dec 11, 2010 3:37 PM GMT
    icon_evil.gif So i lost my job back in May.. I did mortgage training and development for a somewhat small bank out of Oklahoma.. So since i have experience as a loan officer and i spent the last 5 yrs training the sales staff and the operations teams i figure i should give it a shot at being a loan officer as well. So i've joined the Wells Fargo team as a mortgage consultant but i am having a very Difficult time talking to realtors/builders and over coming their objections. Any advice because my biggest fear has always been rejection.
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    Dec 11, 2010 3:43 PM GMT
    Go at your promotions to these businesses, and people as if the product your promoting is yours, kinda like its your baby, like your hearts in it, and its something they need too. But if you meet rejection flip a switch, get a divorce from the product, Ha !! and realize that its not you their rejecting, Its a product of someone elses. Learn from each contact how you may do better at connecting their need for that product. Good luck !!!
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    Dec 11, 2010 3:46 PM GMT
    Realifedad , is very wise , follow his advices ....icon_biggrin.gif
  • MrNomis

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    Dec 11, 2010 4:04 PM GMT
    Agreed! it is something i just began to do and i do find it they like the confidance when i am sure of what i am talking about and have to offer.
    The problem is on the fact many previous to me have burn them and they have this bittersweet attitude about wells Fargo.. I love the company and trust me i feel safer knowing i am a gay man in the idustry because Wells promotes diversity and means it.. My previous job actually fired me once the rumor began to surfice i am gay and they found some stupid loop hole to fire me. I love what i am doing and so far not so bad.. but again i just been taking the no personally or the fact they already have a preferred lender and they are willing to me a try but i end up being 3rd in place or getting the bottom of the barrel.. Point taken i have to pay my dues right..
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    Dec 11, 2010 4:08 PM GMT
    You need to bone up on your writing / communications skills. If what you've written here is any indication, you have a ways to go with the written word. You're (got me... it's "your") writing is terrible.

    Rejection is part of the sales cycle. If you can't handle it, and, some folks can't, you need to consider another line of work. It doesn't make sense to be in an occupation that has you stressed all the time. Stress is a killer.
  • DCEric

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    Dec 11, 2010 9:03 PM GMT
    chuckystud saidYou're writing is terrible.


    Please tell me this was a joke.
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    Dec 11, 2010 9:10 PM GMT
    Can you prepare beforehand for the type of objections that you are likely to get? That way you can overcome the objections much more easily and not get rejected.

    Also, are you an introvert? There are books on how to manage your introversion in many situations.
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    Dec 11, 2010 9:18 PM GMT
    DCEric said
    chuckystud saidYou're writing is terrible.


    Please tell me this was a joke.


  • MrNomis

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    Dec 11, 2010 11:20 PM GMT
    OP? who is OP? or what is an OP?

    Chuckystud i am not so sure why you have to be so rude and point out my writing/communication skills...If we will discuss those two subjects then you my friend is incorrect usingh you're instead of your....I dont mind the constructive criticism but i dislike any attack where you make mistakes yourself...to my defense when i first wrote the blog and then comment i was using my Android phone to type.. I didnt ask for grammer or syntax corrections but advice on how to overcome objections.
  • MrNomis

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    Dec 11, 2010 11:25 PM GMT
    Caslon16000 saidCan you prepare beforehand for the type of objections that you are likely to get? That way you can overcome the objections much more easily and not get rejected.

    Also, are you an introvert? There are books on how to manage your introversion in many situations.


    i won't say i am an introvert but i admit i have a tendency to be a little quiet or just scared of rejections at first. Once i know the person i tend to do great. I do prepare well for marketing flyers, e-mails, and speeches. I always make sure i have someone else check my work since i tend to make plenty of mistakes since i tend to type the way i speak or think the information in my mind.. See English is my 3rd language and so it has always been my weakest subject.. I suppose i take things too personally and i dislike hearing "no"... i doubt i be able to sell a vacuum cleaner if i was selling them door to door..
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    Dec 12, 2010 3:26 AM GMT
    Introversion isn't shyness. Quietness is part of introversion. Because Introverts don't just shoot off at the lip. They pause to prepare to speak. Having your feelings hurt more easily is part of introversion. Introverts have a greater sense of the personal and will take things more personally.
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    Dec 12, 2010 3:27 AM GMT
    MrNomis saidOP? who is OP? or what is an OP?

    OP = Original Poster. That be you in this case.
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    Dec 15, 2010 5:52 AM GMT
    MrNomis saidOP? who is OP? or what is an OP?

    Chuckystud i am not so sure why you have to be so rude and point out my writing/communication skills...If we will discuss those two subjects then you my friend is incorrect usingh you're instead of your....I dont mind the constructive criticism but i dislike any attack where you make mistakes yourself...to my defense when i first wrote the blog and then comment i was using my Android phone to type.. I didnt ask for grammer or syntax corrections but advice on how to overcome objections.


    If you look, act, think, speak, and write, like an idiot, then, that's the perception others will have about you.

    Anything worth doing should be worth doing well, particularly communications, if you work in a field that communicates with people, as part of the job description. E.g., sales. The possibility of rejection, or failure, is always part of that. If you can't handle that, and, you communicate poorly, as well as get defensive easily, you are in completely the WRONG line of work.

    Speaking properly is part and parcel of how folks perceive you. If you write in a way that makes you look illiterate, folks will treat you as such.

    Understand, honesty, and integrity, are never rude. They're just honesty and integrity. Judging your reaction to constructive criticism, my advice is to get a thicker skin, or seek a new occupation. Your current plan is a plan for failure.