It can't hurt... right?

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    Mar 19, 2008 3:13 AM GMT
    I'm going on a date with a guy tomorrow night that I'm really not all that interested in. Honestly though, I don't know him. It can't hurt to go on one date, right?

    If he turns out to be fairly cool, that's good. If not, I can call it off and have a solid reason why, right?
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    Mar 19, 2008 3:15 AM GMT
    right....you might find there is something about him that you like....if you treat him like a human being and not a piece of meat. .... icon_rolleyes.gif


    oh...nebraska....you're lucky somebody is willing to go out with you....quit your bitchin'
  • MikemikeMike

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    Mar 19, 2008 3:26 AM GMT
    why not- you might just make a new friend-or expand your O of friends.icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 19, 2008 3:37 AM GMT
    Have fun and remember you have nothing to lose by going out on one date.
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    Mar 19, 2008 3:51 AM GMT
    It's good practice for dating unless oyu really aren;t feeling it. I've done a couple of those and managed to have a good time though.

    Just don't do anything too expensive.
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    Mar 19, 2008 1:22 PM GMT
    Is there something wrong with not being enthusiastic about a date with someone you don't find attractive or appealing?

    There's a big span between being totally shallow about people and viewing them purely as meat, and being totally blind to their physical attributes.

    I see nothing wrong with people having a good dollup of "shallow" in them as long as they have a healthy dollup of finding the inner beauty of a guy too.
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    Mar 19, 2008 1:24 PM GMT
    This is what dating is all about. Go out, get to know him, you never know.

    I think guys today get so hung up on titles and stuff, I think you should go out with guys, relax and see if you could possibly see more with them. You never know until you try!
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    Mar 19, 2008 1:44 PM GMT
    Be sure to tell him upfront that you're not interested in him. If nothing else, it'll get the conversation going.
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    Mar 19, 2008 2:15 PM GMT
    as long as he doesn't look like a rapist....then by all means, go out..dont let him touch you!

    gays have the tendency to want to fuck on the first date...i make sure that my dates dont even get a kiss or a touch....i mean, sex is great and all, but its a first date for fucks sake!
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    Mar 19, 2008 2:18 PM GMT
    You should totally go, dude. I can think of several dates who I wasn't all that enthusiastic about and I ended up having a great time and we ended up becoming close friends.

    In on case, he also was waaay cooler and waay hotter than I remembered, and we were together for over a year.
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    Mar 19, 2008 2:18 PM GMT
    as long as he doesn't look like a rapist....then by all means, go out..dont let him touch you!


    btw...what the hell does a rapist look like?
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    Mar 19, 2008 4:24 PM GMT
    "btw...what the hell does a rapist look like?"

    Oh, didn't you know? They walk around with big neon signs on their foreheads. Makes them easier to spot than cartoon villains, where you have to wait for them to twirl their handlebar mustaches.

    As for the original post...it's one date. Unless it's going to break your budget or you have something else that evening you'd much rather do that can't be rescheduled, there's not likely to be much harm to it. I just ask that you not lie to the guy; don't tell him you'll call if you don't actually plan to.
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    Mar 19, 2008 4:45 PM GMT
    Stay in and watch TV! Thats what i would do if i was not interested?
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    Mar 19, 2008 4:49 PM GMT
    Moudi saidi make sure that my dates dont even get a kiss or a touch....i mean, sex is great and all, but its a first date for fucks sake!


    Um, even straight people kiss on the first date.
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    Mar 19, 2008 4:51 PM GMT
    I think it's great that you are willing to give the guy a chance. You really never know what someone is like until you spend some time with them. I know I've met several guys who did not interest me right off the bat but after spending time with them found that we had a great deal in common. Some became friends, some became lovers, some became friendly lovers... icon_confused.gif

    I agree with MSUBioNerd, make sure you're honest at the end. If you are still not interested, just say so. It's not easy but you'll feel better about it later. Unless he cuts you up and hides the pieces in which case this was MSUBioNerd's advice and not mine! icon_eek.gif
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    Mar 19, 2008 4:53 PM GMT
    Just go! You never know, might get a new friend out of it....
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    Mar 19, 2008 4:59 PM GMT
    Gwgtrunks saidI'm going on a date with a guy tomorrow night that I'm really not all that interested in. Honestly though, I don't know him. It can't hurt to go on one date, right?

    If he turns out to be fairly cool, that's good. If not, I can call it off and have a solid reason why, right?


    You would be surprised who you end up liking. "Nothing ventured nothing gained" is a cliche but an accurate one.

    I would not recommend making up some excuse for getting out of it, that is how gay men get cynical and bitter about other gay men.icon_evil.gif
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    Mar 19, 2008 6:11 PM GMT
    Dating is like any other sport, you have to practice to be good at it. So even if you aren't into him now go on the date, see how it goes. At the very least you get that much better at dating.
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    Mar 19, 2008 6:47 PM GMT
    Hey, dating is great. Having someone lese buy you dinner is nice!icon_razz.gif
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    Mar 19, 2008 8:24 PM GMT
    Go for it. icon_smile.gif Yup, it won't hurt. You'll either win a new friend or have something to vent about. All the best!
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    Mar 19, 2008 9:06 PM GMT
    jprichva said[quote][cite]Moudi said[/cite]i make sure that my dates dont even get a kiss or a touch....i mean, sex is great and all, but its a first date for fucks sake!


    Um, even straight people kiss on the first date.[/quote]

    I dont icon_smile.gif i like to keep hands to myself until i know the person
  • Squarejaw

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    Mar 19, 2008 9:36 PM GMT
    If you don't like him then tell him, "Let's pick up a guy to have a threeway." And once you've found the guy, turn to your date and say, "Okay, you can go now."
  • Squarejaw

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    Mar 19, 2008 9:38 PM GMT
    No sex on the first date? If the guy's hot you need to have sex with him right away before you find out you don't like him.
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    Mar 19, 2008 9:43 PM GMT
    Squarejaw saidNo sex on the first date? If the guy's hot you need to have sex with him right away before you find out you don't like him.


    so ur basically saying that u like/dislike the gay based on sex?
  • Squarejaw

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    Mar 19, 2008 9:50 PM GMT
    No, I'm not saying that at all. If you're going to make me explain it...

    It was a joke based on the idea that immediate attraction based on appearance usually involves a fantasy of who that person is. If you don't have sex with the person right away, you run the risk of getting to the person well enough to discover you don't want to have sex with him after all. So better avoid the risk by having sex right away.

    This whole thing is meant facetiously.