Ever get the sneaking suspicion you might be straight?

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    Dec 11, 2010 10:35 PM GMT
    So I figured out I was gay a while back and was comfortable enough to accept it and tell people around the age of 19/20.

    But I recently started dating a guy seriously for the first time (been about 3 months so far) and I've noticed I've been doing something pretty uncharacteristic of me.....checking out women. I find myself thinking about them when I'm gettin off, which I guess is where it really is starting to freak me out. Its not like I'm purposefully focusing on it, it just tends to pop into my head.

    I'm thinking I might just be freaked out at the prospect of dating someone without a real end in sight which with every other guy there always has been. But I can't explain it; my sexuality was something I never really questioned or thought about....I had a surprisingly easy adjustment if you want to call it that and an even easier time coming out to my family (immediate family that is).

    I'm just wondering if anyone has ever experienced something like this and if so what you think it comes from. Even if it's not something that has crept into your naughty time thoughts, all conjectures welcome!

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    Dec 11, 2010 10:38 PM GMT
    whatever you do, don't tell anyone, stay in the straight jacket, uh closet...it could ruin your life if it ever got out....

    seriously, take your sexuality as it comes to you, accept whatever your dna throws up from time to time...like em both? good, enjoy!.......Keithicon_cool.gif
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    Dec 11, 2010 11:16 PM GMT
    Listen to Keith. he has given you some good advice. It sounds like you may be bisexual. Often, we assume nearly everyone is one way or the other and expect them to fall into one of those and forget about the large number somewhere in the middle.
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    Dec 11, 2010 11:22 PM GMT
    If I go to a gay bar, I tend to be drawn to any attractive women there. If I go somewhere with a lot of hot women, I tend to notice any good looking guys.

    Half the time, I think I just like the novelty of it. You know, the whole forbidden fruit thing. Once I start drinking or go somewhere where it's socially acceptable to like guys, I start to lose attraction quickly.
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    Dec 12, 2010 1:45 AM GMT
    Date a tranny!
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    Dec 12, 2010 2:28 AM GMT
    I've always been the type to "check out" women myself, but it was only to admire their beauty. Even at some point, I became obsessed with Victoria's Secret models and the fashion shows (past and current). But I know for a fact that my admiration for their beauty doesn't come with any sexual attraction whatsoever.
  • laxdude25

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    Dec 12, 2010 2:32 AM GMT
    after being exclusively hetero through college, i have been attracted to men and women since my early 20's. happily married now to a woman who is aware of and cool with my attraction to guys. i stopped trying to fit someone else's "label" a long time ago, and am a lot happier for it. good luck, but just be yourself, treat your partner with respect, and u'l be just fine.
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    Dec 12, 2010 2:35 AM GMT
    You should ask advice to our friend who started the "I might be straight" thread a while back icon_razz.gif
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    Dec 12, 2010 2:38 AM GMT
    AvadaKedavra saidDate a tranny!


    This!
  • wellwell

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    Dec 12, 2010 2:38 AM GMT
    Certified (honestly) Bisexual Here . . .


    I Say: GO FOR IT !
    (Just remember, "mistakes-make-people.")
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    Dec 12, 2010 2:42 AM GMT
    Whatever floats your boat, man. icon_smile.gif And join the club.
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    Dec 12, 2010 3:17 AM GMT
    My Motto:

    Whatever happens, happens.

    I frequently toy with the idea of sleeping with one of my girlfriends. It hasn't happened yet, but we discuss it frequently.
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    Dec 12, 2010 3:28 AM GMT
    hauptstimme saidMy Motto:

    Whatever happens, happens.

    I frequently toy with the idea of sleeping with one of my girlfriends. It hasn't happened yet, but we discuss it frequently.


    Nah Haupy, you're way too gay sweetheart....icon_wink.gif..............Keithicon_cool.gif
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    Dec 12, 2010 3:30 AM GMT
    vetteset said
    hauptstimme saidMy Motto:

    Whatever happens, happens.

    I frequently toy with the idea of sleeping with one of my girlfriends. It hasn't happened yet, but we discuss it frequently.


    Nah Haupy, you're way too gay sweetheart....icon_wink.gif..............Keithicon_cool.gif


    You've never seen the way me and my friends partyicon_smile.gif It's a little intense.
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    Dec 12, 2010 3:33 AM GMT
    It doesn't makes you straight, it makes you interest in woman.

    If you were not dating a guy, it would be interesting for you to 'explore' that unexpected side of your sexuality.

    If you do the right thing, and tell your potential partner you start to feel interest in girl, he will likely think you are trying to find a reason to drop him. Complicated spot.

    If you tell him, make sure to highlight you are telling not as a reason to break up, but because you are very serious about what's going on between you and feel compelled to be completely honest. And ask him advices about how to handle it. Work it out as a team.

    I can relate to what you experience. I grew up thinking I was homosexual, and it's at 15yo that I discovered that I got horny fooling around with girls, and a bit latter that I enjoyed hetero sex.

    30years later, I still checkout girls, and never men. my Partner checkout men, and never girls. We keep teasing each other about how we can miss to spot some really attractive persons.

    But despite 'seeing' only girls, I'm far more comfortable being only gay. I can have the same emotional involvement with both men and women, and just happen to prefer both male sex and male friendship.

    But I know it because I had the opportunity to explore and understand what kind of 'bi' I was

  • mybud

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    Dec 12, 2010 4:25 AM GMT
    My straightness is a curse....
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    Dec 12, 2010 4:41 AM GMT
    I don't think it's anything to worry about, honestly. It appears to be nothing but curiosity at the least and bisexuality at the most. I've had my bi-curious moments truth be told, be they checking out a hot girl or having a hetero-erotic dream. It's okay, as a gay man, to notice attractive, sexy women; it's just noticing them and nothing more. Hell, a few of my gay friends have confided in me that they have wondered what it would be like to be with a woman.

    If you want to use the fabled Kinsey Scale, you may very well be a 3 (purely bisexual), 4 (moderately bisexual), or 5 (slightly bisexual). I consider myself a 5 since I've had my share of crushes on women, hetero-erotic dreams/fantasies,and fascination with the female body.

    And honestly, what arouses you the most? For me, it's men; it could even be as something as simple as a glance from a good-looking man and 'It' happens. icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 12, 2010 4:44 AM GMT
    OMG you are STRAIGHT!!!! i knew it
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    Dec 12, 2010 4:53 AM GMT
    Hahaha Heck Na'Ah! icon_lol.gif
    Ive had sex with girls before, and lately ive been having bisexual 3some fantasies with sexy blonde girls and guys...
    But I know deep inside, strictly Dickly.
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    Dec 12, 2010 4:53 AM GMT
    are you kidding me? I left a 10 year relationship with a man to marry a woman. after sneaking around with her and getting her pregnant and marrying her - all behind his back.

    My gay friends dropped me like a hot potato. when i went back to men, my straight friends accepted me.

    if you go straight just dont tell your GAY friends because they will NOT accept it at all.

  • dionysus

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    Dec 12, 2010 4:55 AM GMT
    cali. show them your new back picture and im sure they'll take you back.
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    Dec 12, 2010 5:26 AM GMT
    Sometimes I get a little titillated by something a woman does or her choice of clothing. But I often suppress such arousals. Also, I know I could absolutely NEVER do it with a woman. I wonder, however, if it's possible for me to fall in love with one. I have over the past year, for example, indulged in a VERY STRONG crush on Leona Lewis. I listen and check for updates on her every friggin day! Love or fanaticism?





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    Dec 12, 2010 5:27 AM GMT
    I think this feeling is normal. I find women to be very attractive. The feeling of pussy and the touch of tits is great and one can not deny. When I go out I find myself looking at women more than men. I love to see a woman in a gay bar it kind give me the possibility that this women is looking threesome with two gay guys hoping i'm one of them. I don't care how old vanessa williams or beyonce gets i would go straight for them any day. lol
  • JonPk

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    Dec 12, 2010 5:30 AM GMT
    larryc88 saidSo I figured out I was gay a while back and was comfortable enough to accept it and tell people around the age of 19/20.

    But I recently started dating a guy seriously for the first time (been about 3 months so far) and I've noticed I've been doing something pretty uncharacteristic of me.....checking out women. I find myself thinking about them when I'm gettin off, which I guess is where it really is starting to freak me out. Its not like I'm purposefully focusing on it, it just tends to pop into my head.

    I'm thinking I might just be freaked out at the prospect of dating someone without a real end in sight which with every other guy there always has been. But I can't explain it; my sexuality was something I never really questioned or thought about....I had a surprisingly easy adjustment if you want to call it that and an even easier time coming out to my family (immediate family that is).

    I'm just wondering if anyone has ever experienced something like this and if so what you think it comes from. Even if it's not something that has crept into your naughty time thoughts, all conjectures welcome!



    Do your boyfriend a favor and break up with him well you find yourself.
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    Dec 12, 2010 6:21 AM GMT
    There are many things about some women that are attractive...but at the end of the day, I almost always come back to guys.

    Someone here said that one way to know is by what you masturbate to.