Should i bother trying to be attractive?

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    Dec 12, 2010 6:55 PM GMT
    Okies, since I was little i've always had self esteem issues... However now i'm older, have a boyfriend of two years and unfortanetly about 10 kilos overwight...

    I'm short at 5'3 and i weigh exactley 70 kilos... And my biggest ambition is to be a slut lol, i unno why... but i've always just wanted to go to partys get really drunk and have lots of sex... I know most of you will judge me on this, but it's always what i wanted, im not a lazy or dirty person... I just, just wanna have fun... And i see all the hot fun gay guys out and im sooo jealous... So my question is... Should I? Me and my boyfriend are breaking up... And i just wanna live, im 18 and i just wanna have fun... The question... Am i attractive enough to do it? I don't wanna sound like i know its gonna sound... But could you guys please look at my pics... they're not good, but i unno... I feel so ugly, and... im just so lost...
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    Dec 12, 2010 7:03 PM GMT
    Should this guy be considered hot?

    I think so.

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    Dec 12, 2010 7:06 PM GMT
    So i should just give up? I know... icon_sad.gif I can't wait to die. Life is so unfair.
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    Dec 12, 2010 7:25 PM GMT
    attraction is mostly having confidence and belief in yourself. have those two in place and you're good to go.
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    Dec 12, 2010 7:38 PM GMT
    Chrisbycream saidSo i should just give up? I know... icon_sad.gif I can't wait to die. Life is so unfair.



    Good golly, from wanting to be a slut to wanting to die that fast?

    How about giving yourself a chance instead? Learn to separate your fantasies from reality. icon_wink.gif

    -Doug
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    Dec 12, 2010 7:39 PM GMT
    Most likely your hormones are roaring and its understandable that you just need go out and do everything that moves....

    BUT

    To have a life ambition in being a slut is really in poor taste. You won't get very far in life with that sort of goal. Do your bf a favor and have a frank talk with him. He very well may not like the idea of a break up, but I believe that you'll be doing him a favor by sparing and cheating streak you may develop because of the decision of staying together and the build up resentment.


    Plus the most important trait of being attractive is having confidence in yourself and being able to show it to others.
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    Dec 12, 2010 9:18 PM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor said
    Chrisbycream saidSo i should just give up? I know... icon_sad.gif I can't wait to die. Life is so unfair.

    What is it Exactly in life that you want that you are not getting right now?

    I'm not quite sure. He's young and attractive (maybe if he did something with his hair, lol)... It's not like he couldn't get it eventually...
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    Dec 12, 2010 9:19 PM GMT
    AvadaKedavra saidShould this guy be considered hot?

    I think so.

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    This is why we should be each others wingmen.
    Jus' sayin'.
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    Dec 12, 2010 11:28 PM GMT
    I used to be a slut.
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    Dec 12, 2010 11:34 PM GMT
    You state you feel "ugly" and want to be a "slut".

    When guys have sex with you it will still leave an empty void. You need to gain self esteem and realize you're more than just your body/sex.

    You should work on your appearance eat healthy, exercise, groom, learn what clothing brands fit you best etc. But you really imo need to work on your confidence. It's much better to make love with someone who cares about you vs. being a slut. If you decide to be a slut be careful you think your life is hard now imagine having to take a crap load of pills everyday and doctor visits.

    Also my reason for working on your appearance is because although it's not the most important thing in life it’s often the first thing we use to judge another human being. If you see someone with messy hair and ripped clothes vs. someone who’s groomed and in nice pressed clothes for example it sends a message about their personality. Whether people like to admit it or not appearance is important.
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    Dec 12, 2010 11:43 PM GMT
    You're not ugly at all, you just need a little self-esteem.
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    Dec 12, 2010 11:49 PM GMT
    you're 18 and have already had a relationship, which beats out a lot of us. If you want to run in the fast lane understand that your fuel is going to run out early. Life is like a good wine. It is meant to be savoured, and enjoyed and taken slowly. Gulp it, and the memory is gone with the wine.........Keithicon_cool.gif
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    Dec 12, 2010 11:50 PM GMT
    It's not for me to say whether you should or should not be a slut, but I will say that it'll be a whole lot easier to accomplish your goal if you're not packing an extra 10 kilos of body fat. With the right diet, you could lose that in 6 months or less. At the same rate that I lost weight using fitday.com earlier this year (eating 500 fewer calories per day than I had been), you'd shed 10 kilos in 17 weeks.
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    Dec 13, 2010 3:43 AM GMT
    AvadaKedavra saidShould this guy be considered hot?

    I think so.

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    He has a really good haircut .....lol...icon_smile.gif
  • LuckyGuyKC

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    Dec 13, 2010 3:50 AM GMT
    Before you become a slut and possibly contract one or more std's - please read "The Velvet Rage" and find out why you seek validation from the attention you would get by being a slut.

    It's a great fast read and my change your life.
  • jrs1

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    Dec 13, 2010 3:52 AM GMT
    Chrisbycream saidSo i should just give up? I know... I can't wait to die. Life is so unfair.

    if you're looking for people to coddle you ... watch Dr. Phil and have some recently frozen M&Ms.
    if you're actually asking for advice ... the answer is simple: be yourself.

    spend time getting to know yourself because by the time you're older and wishing you'd done the things you could have when you were younger ... you'll be yet another mid-life crisis sufferer.

    get up. get out. do something.

    /also: you might also not want to be in a relationship at this point and time in your life. you might want to explore your sexuality and ' delve. ' there's nothing wrong with that either. be safe in your explorations however.
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    Dec 13, 2010 3:56 AM GMT
    navi_leinad said
    charlitos saidI used to be a slut.

    then what happened?


    they paid him to put on some underwear . ;p
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    to the OP ,

    i find you cute but something tells me if you take care of yourself, as you mature your features will be amazingly stunning.

    a slut? you mean you just want to have lots of sex ? that's what male hormones want you to do too. just wear protection.

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    Dec 13, 2010 7:42 AM GMT
    Go for it!

    -When I was 25-26 I went through a period like that; like three guys a night sometimes. Looking back, I learned alot. I also would not want to go through that again.

    It's incredible what being a slut will teach ya; Infection Erection.
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    Dec 13, 2010 8:36 AM GMT
    mocktwinkie saidYou're not ugly at all, you just need a little self-esteem.


    ALOT of self esteem, a big dose of self respect, and a good haircut.
    Pull yourself together dude, being a slut isnt gonna give you what you really need.

    Trust me, I know.
  • mondo_trasho

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    Dec 13, 2010 7:46 PM GMT
    I think everyone goes theough a slut phase. Am I wrong? I think you can learn a lot about yourself by whoring it up. You are with someone though, so is it worth it to break up in order to slut it up? Maybe the bf would be open to bringing in a third. It wouldn't hurt to find out.

    It sounds like your self esteem could use a boost. A slut with no self esteem is not cute. And you could make dumb decisions because you don't respect yourself enough.

    Do you work out often? It sounds stupid, but plenty of exercise just makes you feel good. It releasses andorphins, & blah blah blah. And when you start to see a positive change in your appearance, that's always a confidence booster!

    Whatever you decide to do, play safe. You could regret it later if you don't. You are young and cute. And you know what, 5' 3" is hot! I think a lot of guys are into short guys like us, pint sized things just tend to look more cute, right? Respect yourself, you aren't going to feel better about yourself after tons of meaniglingless gay sex.
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    Dec 13, 2010 7:57 PM GMT
    Chrisbycream saidShould i bother trying to be attractive?
    No. You should remain as ugly as possible to avoid the discomfort that goes along with being attractive, like cat-calls from the hot guy across the bar and free drinks and stuff. You know what they say: "beauty is a curse."
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    Dec 13, 2010 8:00 PM GMT
    In my experience you don't need to be attractive to have lots of sex, just saying.
  • BIG_N_TALL

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    Dec 13, 2010 8:27 PM GMT
    I think you are cute (aka being attractive icon_wink.gif ). Let me give you a little advice... don't compare yourself to other guys when it comes to being attractive. I used to do it a lot a few years ago, and I only ended up feeling like hell. The ironic part is that I found out later that many of the guys I compared myself to felt they were unattractive relative to all the other "hot guys".

    Interestingly enough, many of my counterparts were "muscular, body builder types" with ridiculously good looking faces. I think ultimately we all desire something we are not when in reality there is nothing wrong with us as we all. There is nothing wrong striving to be better than what we are, however it best at the moment feel content with who we are. Trust me, guys think you are attractive, you just probably don't realize it.

    As for being a slut... I think you are associating lots of sex with being desirable and attractive to other guys, and that is not always the same thing in reality.
  • jrs1

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    Jan 03, 2011 4:33 AM GMT
    attractive/beauty/all that shit is relative ... be, if anything, informed.

    now, let's make a mockery of " beauty: "