Country guy trying to meet guys...

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    Dec 12, 2010 10:40 PM GMT
    The easy fix is join a online dating web site....blah blah... except it is the same guys over and over again and a dozen half filled out profiles (obviously created to see what guys where there)

    My philosophy is just do stuff you like to do and maybe you will bump into another guy who has some common interests. Many people around here are involved with family, and that doesn't work for me since my family chose not to be a part of my life. Other people join church, and that is also difficult for me since I was raised conservatively and going to a liberal church is really awkward and I end up not wanting to come back because it doesnt fit me.

    Craigslist is a total waist of time too....lol....unless i am looking for the random dick picture even though I stated i wasnt looking for a hook up.

    anyone have a good suggestion besides moving to a metro area? (that isnt going to happen for at least a year) My gaydar works fairly well and many of the guys I pick up on are much older than I.

    I am sure there is no easy answer, but I am curious what other guys have to say.
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    Dec 12, 2010 11:10 PM GMT
    well, the gym is an option except, should I then have multiple gym memberships? I mean, there isnt a hang out, and if there was, it is just married guys trying to get their rocks off (ewu, those cheaters get around) I see that on CL from time to time
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    Dec 12, 2010 11:42 PM GMT
    for whatever reason, i once thought i would be more likely to find a country guy with morals, old fashion, maybe have some skills other than telling me who is on the top 40 charts.....lol

    in reality, i found a whole lot of activity happening that someone with morals wouldnt do.....like cheat on the wife. I have had guys tell me they want a LTR yet we meet, and everything they do counteracts that motive.....

    It isnt like I am the kind of guy who wants to hold hands in public or any kind of affection other than maybe a smile and a when we hang hang out.
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    Dec 13, 2010 1:36 AM GMT
    there are one or two classy gays out and about, but, not anything close to my age. I guess if i wanted a sugar daddy, i could do just fine.
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    Dec 13, 2010 1:53 AM GMT
    I also lived in the country rural area and had to drive 45 miles to meet anyone at the clubs in the city. I don't know if this is an option for you, but it does offer you something other than online. icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 13, 2010 2:15 AM GMT
    well I am two hours from a major metro area, which i drive at least once a month for two step country western dancing but, that does not help me for when i am feeling lonely. I am not realistically going to drive that when i am suddenly feeling lonely.

    I dont mind commuting but, i am also not interested in driving every time i want to hang out with a guy.
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    Dec 13, 2010 2:18 AM GMT
    YoungjockMN saidwell I am two hours from a major metro area, which i drive at least once a month for two step country western dancing but, that does not help me for when i am feeling lonely. I am not realistically going to drive that when i am suddenly feeling lonely.

    I dont mind commuting but, i am also not interested in driving every time i want to hang out with a guy.


    No my friend, you misunderstand.....once you do meet someone, chances are he will not mind driving to meet you icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 13, 2010 2:26 AM GMT
    LOL..... oh trust me, i have been down that road too. The city boys hate leaving their precious comfort zone. They gang up on me and try and convince me to head to the city. collectively though, that means I end up using 4 hours to get there and back all the time.

    I am more interested in finding someone that wants to hang out here, go skiing, ice skating or something here in the country. I am not all about the city life, I mean, It is ok but i moved away from the city because i was tired of dealing with traffic, and gay bars where guys see, they want, and they ask. I am not a piece of meat, and that is cool the first couple years but i am not interested in the hook up scene.
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    Dec 13, 2010 2:36 AM GMT
    YoungjockMN saidLOL..... oh trust me, i have been down that road too. The city boys hate leaving their precious comfort zone. They gang up on me and try and convince me to head to the city. collectively though, that means I end up using 4 hours to get there and back all the time.



    I understand, but on the opposite side: I lived in a rural area of Tennessee and drove to Nashville to one of the clubs. The gentleman I met was from Glasgow, Kentucky, who also drove to Nashville to the same club. After talking for a few hours and exchanging phone numbers that night, we spent more time at each others homes and dating than ever going back to the clubs. I guess it all depends on just how much the 2 guys in question are willing to give to the cause of being together. When we would visit each other, we both had a 4 hour drive....one way icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 13, 2010 2:55 AM GMT
    malefeet said
    YoungjockMN said....



    I understand, but on the opposite side: I lived in a rural area of Tennessee and drove to Nashville to one of the clubs. The gentleman I met was from Glasgow, Kentucky, who also drove to Nashville to the same club. After talking for a few hours and exchanging phone numbers that night, we spent more time at each others homes and dating than ever going back to the clubs. I guess it all depends on just how much the 2 guys in question are willing to give to the cause of being together. When we would visit each other, we both had a 4 hour drive....one way icon_wink.gif


    well, I did meet one guy, who drove more than an hour to minneapolis once, but, he was still an hour and a half from me. I know, yea yea, it was just that one case. but i just dont think it is realistic to keep spending all that gas money just to hang out with friends who live there. I need to build friends who are closer, want to hang out and where I can go on a date from time to time without committing 4 hours to get that date, then possibly have to pay for the meal too.

    I am just looking to meet guys my age who are more local. the whole online thing is far more work than helpful. it always ends with meeting once or trading phone numbers, then dropping off the face of the earth
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    Dec 13, 2010 3:04 AM GMT
    must be a gay hunting or fishing club in your area. might be hard to find, but def common interest groups do exist.
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    Dec 13, 2010 3:16 AM GMT
    So, let's see You want to meet gay guys around your age, who is single, not into hookup, gentleman in your tiny rural town, who is okay with having a gay relationship and possibly conservative christian? Hmm.....That's not asking too much at all. I'm sure you'll find your fairy tale (no pun intended) someday.

    You have such negative streotype about everybody that you are stuck in your small town and feeling lonely. Maybe you need to look seriously into yourself and instead of finding the perfect guy, be the perfect guy that you want to date.

    It's difficult to find all those qualities in one person, you'll have a couple of them, not all.
    The difficulties of being gay are:

    1. It's hard being gay or bi in the first place, there's alot of gender, social, religious confusion in being gay.
    2. Being gay, you automatically have a small dating pool even among out gay guys. closetted guys maybe, but there is no chance of having a LTR with them. They are not even comfortable with themselves, what makes you think they will be comfortable bringing you into their lives.
    3. And when you throw in other factors/requirements such as single, tall, hot, musculine, christian (BIG GUILT IN THAT), conservative, you are better off being single.
    4. I am an out, young, hot, career oriented, proud to be gay-but don't wave my flag type of guy, musculine, city boy, it's even hard for me to navigate through the gay world and find a decent guy and possibly prince charming one day. What makes you think you have any chance than me?
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    Dec 13, 2010 3:18 AM GMT
    yeah I agree with the above guy, there might some interest groups, but also, there are many other rural, colder, farmland areas in the US where there are other men like you. Maybe a new location cn be good for you, but not a new lifestyle(if that makes sense). I lived up in Alfred, NY, and that bitch was Cow Country and snow central, and I knew a lot of guys, gay, who just loved that kind of living. Hell, I grew to love it, too. But, back to my point, You don't have to change who you are, or what life you want to lead, but sometimes a new location that gives you the same way of life, but more potions for men, can do the trick. You never know, you might find a John Wayne in his mid 20's out somewhere else.
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    Dec 13, 2010 3:19 AM GMT
    tallcanuck saidmust be a gay hunting or fishing club in your area. might be hard to find, but def common interest groups do exist.


    nope, there isnt even a gay support group for teenagers going though problems.
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    Dec 13, 2010 3:27 AM GMT
    frenchatheart saidSo, let's see You want to meet gay guys around your age, who is single, not into hookup, gentleman in your tiny rural town, who is okay with having a gay relationship and possibly conservative christian? Hmm.....That's not asking too much at all. I'm sure you'll find your fairy tale (no pun intended) someday.

    You have such negative streotype about everybody that you are stuck in your small town and feeling lonely. Maybe you need to look seriously into yourself and instead of finding the perfect guy, be the perfect guy that you want to date.
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    What makes you think you have any chance than me?


    dude, first off, I am an amazing guy, but i dont need to spout an ego. I am comfortable with myself and my sexuality. I am not really being that choosy.

    besides, this wasnt even thread about how i can meet my perfect match, it was about how a guy in the country can meet other men BESIDES the stupid online channels and driving to a major metro city.

    so keep to topic, "MEETING PEOPLE"