What to do about possible abusive neighbors?

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    Dec 13, 2010 4:02 AM GMT
    I moved into an apartment complex about 2 months ago ( It's a high rise complex ) and today when i was walking down the hall I heard the people two doors down screaming and yelling at each other. They were speaking spanish and due to my limited knowledge of spanish i could hear bits and peices of what they were saying. (Something about homework, my best guess is the father was yelling at their son about homework and the mother was trying to defend the son) anyways I continued to walk down the hallway and i heard slaps being thrown.

    I stopped in shock and then a loud crash of what seemed to be pots and pans falling on he floor. I didn't know what to do so I just went into my apartment. It's been a busy and stressful night I'm trying to study for my finals tomorrow and i NEED to get an A on this very difficult final or else I'm dismissed but i can't focus because of the event that just occurred.

    I couldn't focus on my work so I went out into the hallway again and i could hear the family picking up the pots and pans.

    What would you do in this situation ? A part of me thinks maybe the cops should be called but i really don't want to get involved and my anxiety is pretty high already. However the other part of me thinks if no one does anything the next time may be worse.

    Damn my apartment's thin walls...any advice? icon_cry.gif
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    Dec 13, 2010 4:10 AM GMT
    I would listen intently and mind my own business.
    (oxymoron)

    It could just be a cultural thing.
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    Dec 13, 2010 4:24 AM GMT
    Is there a complex manager you can call? The police might be a bit much if you're unsure it's full-on abusive but if there is someone who manages the complex that you could get to check on things, that might be more appropriate.
  • SoCaEd

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    Dec 13, 2010 4:37 AM GMT
    hauptstimme saidI would listen intently and mind my own business.
    (oxymoron)

    It could just be a cultural thing.


    Is not a cultural thing! It happens everywhere and with every culture and race!

    If the the loud arguing doesn't stop through the night call the police, if it does let it go and if it happens again write a letter to your landlord. Don't complain to your neighbors!
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    Dec 13, 2010 4:42 AM GMT
    Only a very ignorant person would claim it to be a cultural thing.

    If there is constant arguing that is disturbing you or the neighbors, contact your property management personnel, and have them address it with your neighbor.

    If there is suspected spousal abuse, call the police, and tell them what you know.

    If there is suspected child abuse, dial 911, or, if you prefer to remain anonymous, call Child Protective Services of Texas. You are REQUIRED BY LAW to report child abuse at 1-800-252-5400, or, report it online at:
    http://www.txabusehotline.org/Login/Default.aspx

    http://www.dfps.state.tx.us/child_protection/about_child_protective_services/

    Understand, you might be saving a life.

    Texas law reads as follows:

    "The law requires any person who believes that a child, or person 65 years or older, or an adult with disabilities is being abused, neglected, or exploited to report the circumstances to DFPS."
  • HndsmKansan

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    Dec 13, 2010 4:44 AM GMT
    Chucky is definitely on the right track... I was going to say much the same thing. If it continues, don't just sit there.
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    Dec 13, 2010 5:04 AM GMT
    You can just call the police to do a "courtesy check" on your neighbors, this isn't outside their normal duties and will let your neighbors know that they're being loud enough to where they're being heard and the pots are raising enough concern with the other tenants.

    Outside of that don't worry too much about it, you have more pressing issue to handle.

    Good luck on finals!
  • Sparkycat

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    Dec 13, 2010 5:06 AM GMT
    Be a good citizen. Call the cops. If it's nothing, it's nothing.
    Better safe than sorry.
  • cromi

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    Dec 13, 2010 5:55 AM GMT
    i say invest on it, video-document it and send it to mtv or vh1. they make a good reality show. you may make a lot of money out of it icon_smile.gif j/k

    kidding aside, i dunno, maybe use some headphones and put loud music to it while studying
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    Dec 13, 2010 7:22 AM GMT
    SoCaEd said
    hauptstimme saidI would listen intently and mind my own business.
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    It could just be a cultural thing.


    Is not a cultural thing! It happens everywhere and with every culture and race!

    If the the loud arguing doesn't stop through the night call the police, if it does let it go and if it happens again write a letter to your landlord. Don't complain to your neighbors!


    Wise words
  • EricLA

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    Dec 13, 2010 7:30 AM GMT
    If you believe a child -- or a woman -- is being abused, even if you're not sure, you should call the police. They may live in terror of reporting that abuse on their own, or accept it as "normal". But we have laws in this country. And if you were that child, you'd probably hope someone would rescue you.

  • josephmovie

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    Dec 13, 2010 8:38 AM GMT
    I would report them anomyously to the management and to the police if necessary. Look, you do have to live there and from my experience these people can get pretty nasty, and you don't want to have to deal with a whole heap of crap when you just want to live in your home. If the father is willing to treat is family like that then think of what he might do to the neighbor who shopped him to the cops. So do your civil duty but keep your identity out of it.