Gay having children, is it right or is it wrong?

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    Dec 13, 2010 10:37 PM GMT
    I was talking with my friend from school (who is also gay) and he says that gay shouldn't have children, because child should have mother and father. We argued about it for 15 minutes, and we agreed that this thing is more complicated. I wonder if kids raised by homosexual parents don't have troubles with other kids at school, you know, mocking etc. So, what's your opinion?

    Anyway - I'd say yes for gay couples having children though.
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    Dec 13, 2010 10:51 PM GMT
    Is it better for him to grow up in orphan asylums?...guess not.
    And I'm pretty sure that two gays who decide to adopt kids are mature enough to not abuse the child like in many hetero families.

    Gay couples who adopt kids are great people. I salute them.

    Your friend is silly.

    Wow, this statement: "A child should have a mother and father" gives me the creeps. Should he have a mother and father that don't care about him or are incapable to take care of him (that's why he's orphan) or he should have parents (no matter the gender) that love him?

    This tells me about your friend that the story book's been read and every line believed. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Dec 14, 2010 12:03 AM GMT
    I think it's not about abusing children, like I said - I say yes for gay parents. I would rather like to have a gay father who would care about me, than straight one who never did, even if it would cause me any troubles. Maybe his statement comes from the fact that he has pretty much happy family, I don't know. It's not about my friend, I'm asking what are your opinions. icon_wink.gif
  • HOTWEILLER

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    Dec 14, 2010 12:13 AM GMT
    Right...
    I want to have 5 or 6.
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    Dec 14, 2010 12:15 AM GMT
    love is love, queer, straight or indifferent. Buckyou hit the nail on the head.....Keithicon_cool.gif
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    Dec 14, 2010 12:28 AM GMT
    nightswimming saidI was talking with my friend from school (who is also gay) and he says that gay shouldn't have children, because child should have mother and father. We argued about it for 15 minutes, and we agreed that this thing is more complicated. I wonder if kids raised by homosexual parents don't have troubles with other kids at school, you know, mocking etc. So, what's your opinion?


    It is very complicated with no clear cut answer. Ideally, a child should have a mother and father because that's how a child gets created. But look at the divorce rate and how it's gone up, up, up. More and more children are growing up in broken homes. But that doesn't mean they have to grow up broken; they may face more challenges and it can actually empower them to be overachievers.

    Some children are going to have problems, be mocked, etc., whether they have a mom and dad, just a mom, just a dad, two moms or two dads. And they may or may not have problems because their parents are of different races or faiths. What's important is the child getting unconditional love from the parent(s), since they can't control outside factors, like what their classmates think or say about them or their parents.

    Hopefully, the current awareness of bullying is going to make many more kids think about what they're saying and doing to their peers.
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    Dec 14, 2010 12:40 AM GMT
    The only way a gay couple can have a child is to plan ahead and deliberately accept the responsibility. Many, if not most hetero couples probably have children by accident, and probably in inverse proportion to their responsibility.
    A good argument could be made that a greater proportion of gay parents would do a good job at it.
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    Dec 14, 2010 1:21 AM GMT
    Let's think a minute .... Gay parents or ................Foster home .icon_sad.gif
    A gay couple should be able to adopt , they make great parents ....icon_biggrin.gif
  • DarkSensation

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    Dec 14, 2010 3:48 AM GMT


    I want to get Pegnant and Bare my Man some kids...How the Hell could that be wrong icon_twisted.gif
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    Dec 14, 2010 3:51 AM GMT
    DarkSensation said

    I want to get Pegnant and Bare my Man some kids...How the Hell could that be wrong icon_twisted.gif


    Uh, brother, c'mere, we need to sit down and have a talk....ya see a girl has ................Keithicon_lol.gif
  • DarkSensation

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    Dec 14, 2010 3:55 AM GMT
    vetteset said
    DarkSensation said

    I want to get Pegnant and Bare my Man some kids...How the Hell could that be wrong icon_twisted.gif


    Uh, brother, c'mere, we need to sit down and have a talk....ya see a girl has ................Keithicon_lol.gif


    Vetteset, i dont know what your talking about...trust me if you want a kid, i'll bare you One too icon_biggrin.gif

    I just better receive my child support on time icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 14, 2010 3:57 AM GMT
    and what do we do with all those poor unadopted orphans? they deserve parents too

    this will not sound great here, but a study showed kids with single moms or lesbian mums become more well-adjusted than from father-mother households...

    The african tribes did actually believe raising children was woman's work.. and in the Caribbean, men are not expected to raise their kids, but to simply bring in money and spend time with the boys when they get of age to lean boys' games
  • JonPk

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    Dec 14, 2010 3:57 AM GMT
    nightswimming saidI was talking with my friend from school (who is also gay) and he says that gay shouldn't have children, because child should have mother and father. We argued about it for 15 minutes, and we agreed that this thing is more complicated. I wonder if kids raised by homosexual parents don't have troubles with other kids at school, you know, mocking etc. So, what's your opinion?


    As long as the child is loved and has a secure home life, there is nothing at all wrong with a gay couple raising a child.
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    Dec 14, 2010 4:00 AM GMT
    WRESTLINGGUY saidRight...
    I want to have 5 or 6.


    Lets get to it!!! icon_twisted.gif
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    Dec 14, 2010 4:02 AM GMT
    I've always been on the fence with this subject. But I'm starting to become more in favor of it. I think as long as the parents love and care for the child, the child will have a much better life than at an orphanage or with parents who are not able to provide for it or even don't love it. One thing that I wouldn't want is for my partnership or sexuality to cause my child any awkwardness/bullying at school. But overall I'd say I'm for it.
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    Dec 14, 2010 4:03 AM GMT
    Ridiculous.

    There are hundreds of gay fathers on this site right now.

    Including me.

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    Dec 14, 2010 4:06 AM GMT
    (sarcastically)Yes...those children are in so much better shape from that broken home where mom and dad fight and argue in front of the kids or duct tape the child to the wall or pen up the child up in a wire cage, or any of the other things that has happened at the direct hands of both MOM AND DAD....broken, violent, abusive, unplanned homes is hardly the way any gay parent would be.......and I have 3 sons, btw...they are not gay and are not abused, violated or otherwise impaired or inferior to their friends and peers...I know this, because I am a gay, single parent....icon_cool.gif
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    Dec 14, 2010 4:10 AM GMT
    moscowmikey saidRidiculous.

    There are hundreds of gay fathers on this site right now.

    Including me.





    ...and HOT AS HELL TOO!!! DAMN! icon_eek.gif
  • wander2340

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    Dec 14, 2010 4:24 AM GMT
    I can assure that our children are extremely happy to have their 2 daddies. Our home life is like a fantasy. Certainly far better than I ever had it (and I didn't have it too bad).

    Yes, it's true that they wouldn't have to answer as many questions if they had a more traditional family. But, is that really so bad? Especially when you consider the alternative. Their biological parents were homeless drug addicts.

    They have learned that its best to not make a big deal about the issue with their friends at school. Their teachers and the school administration knows but the other kids just flat out don't care. Think about it, how many kids do you know who are interested in what ANY parents are doing? Pretty much none. The adult world is very boring to children. All they want from adults is to feel loved and safe. Anything else is just bonus.
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    Dec 14, 2010 4:29 AM GMT
    If the logic that a child should be raised by a mother and a father is universal, then single parenthood shouldn't exist either. But with divorce, dead beat dads, death, negligent mothers, abandonment...well, the world just doesn't work that way.

    So if someone is willing and able to take on the responsibility of rearing children, they should be allowed to do so.
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    Dec 14, 2010 4:35 AM GMT
    Your 'friend' has an extremely narrow view of the world.. what a waste of white matter.
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    Dec 14, 2010 4:37 AM GMT
    I don't know if any of you had the chance to go to Meet in the Middle, but it was a fantastic rally and march held in Fresno leading up to the election. There were a lot of speakers, one of which was my dear friend Morgan. She is a straight ally who was raised by her gay father and his partner and her lesbian mother. She is THE sweetest girl I know and is so intelligent, attended UCLA and is now at Harvard Law. She is the product of a family that we are trying to fight for now. She leads by great example showing her kindness to all. When people say that Gays can't raise children, it is just ignorant and I think of my friend Morgan and they couldn't be further from the truth. I am so excited to see her over the holidays!

    A video of her speech...

  • ja89

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    Dec 14, 2010 4:40 AM GMT
    you should tell him he was wrong about that because there are kids raised only by one parent and are with out the other role in the house. I was that kid as well as the majority of my family. We are all raised by women in my family so his argument isnt valid. If there is good parenting by any person, then they deserve to have children if they please.
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    Dec 14, 2010 4:45 AM GMT
    Gays should not have children. A child should grow up in a family with one mother and one father or else it will not have a proper upbringing. That is the true family unit. Homosexuality is a sin and children should not be exposed to such behavior. If we let homosexuals raise our children then what is next? Should we let wolves raise them too? Do not let the gays recruit our children or mankind will end. Protect our children. Jesus Loves. God bless.
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    Dec 14, 2010 4:47 AM GMT
    nightswimming saidI was talking with my friend from school (who is also gay) and he says that gay shouldn't have children, because child should have mother and father. We argued about it for 15 minutes, and we agreed that this thing is more complicated. I wonder if kids raised by homosexual parents don't have troubles with other kids at school, you know, mocking etc. So, what's your opinion?


    They don't, a lot of studies have been done on this. I'm too lazy right now, but look at the APAs website and studies done by independent psychologists as well as those at Universities. Avoid any institutions that are "Christian" as clergy aren't an authority on child development matters. Also you may be able to look into the Sociological aspect of it.