Giddy on up, I sure am Giddy.

  • mizu5

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    Dec 14, 2010 7:47 AM GMT
    Tragedy of tragedies! I met a boy. He is 21, and very cute. I'm moving across the country in a month. He makes me feel giddy. Giddy like I haven't felt in a long time. We just drove down the street, north, and looked at the snow. we chatted. He didn't mind me in glasses or sweatpants. He has morals! He likes to write! He wants to go run across fields at night in the snow with me.

    He only drank for the first time 3 months ago. He's never kissed a boy, or a girl. He is so innocent, so pure. I'm not. I'm used and sullied goods. Is it wrong of me to try? Is it wrong for me to hope? Should I not? I have nicer, better people I could introduce to him. People who aren't leaving, people who are whole.

    I don't think i deserve to be his first kiss. But lord I want to be greedy and take it. I want to romance him and make him feel like the world is his. I want to show him how amazing a boy can be. I want to show him fireworks, and excitement, and I want to show him what it feels like to be held and cuddled.

    I'm just not sure it's fair to him. So, is it?
  • mizu5

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    Dec 14, 2010 7:52 AM GMT
    navi_leinad saidThink about what he wants instead of yourself, have you thought maybe he wants you to be his first kiss? that maybe he wants you to romance him and make him feel like he has the world?
    In other words go for it, make the most of it until you leave since maybe you won't be gone for long
    No. i will be gone long. The plan is never to live in Toronto again.

    But I don't know if he feels the butterflies too. And I've been shot down a bit too much these past 3 months.
  • mizu5

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    Dec 14, 2010 8:03 AM GMT
    navi_leinad said
    mizu5 said No. i will be gone long. The plan is never to live in Toronto again.

    But I don't know if he feels the butterflies too. And I've been shot down a bit too much these past 3 months.

    well he could always visit you you know icon_razz.gif if you don't know just ask what he thinks about you leaving. easy to tell how he thinks by the response (verbal and nonverbal)
    Yeah. he broached the topic. He seemed... hesitant. I'm bad with boys.
  • mizu5

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    Dec 14, 2010 8:11 AM GMT
    navi_leinad said
    mizu5 saidYeah. he broached the topic. He seemed... hesitant. I'm bad with boys.

    seems like you have your answer, why did you hesitate to try and kiss him? lol jk
    Ahah. It was kinda our first date date. I'm seeing him later tongiht again. PLus, he's enver kissed a boy! he has to make the first move!
  • mizu5

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    Dec 14, 2010 8:27 AM GMT
    navi_leinad said
    mizu5 said Ahah. It was kinda our first date date. I'm seeing him later tongiht again. PLus, he's enver kissed a boy! he has to make the first move!

    yeah I can see your a wait til the third date kind of guy, so just wait til the third date if need be. But let me ask do you want him to kiss you?
    I don't know. i don't know if i want to kiss him first. I want it to be romantic. He's a romantic. i want him to think back in years to come, and think it was movie magical.

    I think part of it, is that I enver had that. And I want him to have it. I want him to feel loved by the first boy he kisses.
  • mizu5

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    Dec 14, 2010 8:39 AM GMT
    navi_leinad said
    mizu5 said I don't know. i don't know if i want to kiss him first. I want it to be romantic. He's a romantic. i want him to think back in years to come, and think it was movie magical.

    I think part of it, is that I enver had that. And I want him to have it. I want him to feel loved by the first boy he kisses.

    Hmmm let him kiss you that's what I recommend. But you can help the situation (getting him to kiss you) by enhancing the romance you know do it under a starry sky (if at night) some place that's alone, but comfortable for both of you. I doubt it being his first kiss and all that he would want a crowd watching him so alone is the best bet. I guess if you care about him, let him feel it. Don't like tell him, but make sure that you project how you feel onto him so that hopefully he'll be more inclined to kiss you, that makes sense right?
    Mmmhmm. I was thinking about having a fire in my backyard with hot chcolate ahaha/. Corny?
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    Dec 14, 2010 8:46 AM GMT
    Invite me and 3-way with him. That way his first experience can also be his 2nd, and he won't feel so...inexperienced. icon_twisted.gif
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    Dec 14, 2010 3:08 PM GMT


    ROFL! You're not used and sullied goods. You're experienced and know joy by your first-hand experiences with sorrow. These are assets not defects, depending on how you choose to see yourself. So choose. icon_wink.gif


    nav_leinad has given you some great coaching that was
    rather thrilling to read. (yeah, I get happy easily, heheh)

    -Doug
  • Karnage

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    Dec 14, 2010 3:12 PM GMT
    I'm actually in pretty much the same situation! I met a guy about a month ago, but I'm moving away at the beginning of January. He's really nice and sweet, just came out about 6 months ago. Though the first night we met, we ended up drunkenly hooking up, and then I found out I was only the second guy he's done stuff with!

    What's working for us is just being honest about the fact that I'm leaving soon. We talked about it and both said that we like each other, but I can't commit to anything right now. So we're just enjoying our time together with the knowledge that it will come to an end soon, and it seems to be working pretty well icon_smile.gif

    Also, as for the first kiss, he may want to but be too nervous to initiate it. I think a really cute way to do it, when you're at that "our faces our close but I don't want to make the first move" moment, is to just ask him! Say something like "I really want to kiss you right now" or "Would it be ok if I kissed you?"

    Best of luck Mizu!
  • FreakTheBeat

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    Dec 14, 2010 6:09 PM GMT
    Goooooooood luck!
  • mizu5

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    Dec 15, 2010 12:32 AM GMT
    Karnage saidI'm actually in pretty much the same situation! I met a guy about a month ago, but I'm moving away at the beginning of January. He's really nice and sweet, just came out about 6 months ago. Though the first night we met, we ended up drunkenly hooking up, and then I found out I was only the second guy he's done stuff with!

    What's working for us is just being honest about the fact that I'm leaving soon. We talked about it and both said that we like each other, but I can't commit to anything right now. So we're just enjoying our time together with the knowledge that it will come to an end soon, and it seems to be working pretty well icon_smile.gif

    Also, as for the first kiss, he may want to but be too nervous to initiate it. I think a really cute way to do it, when you're at that "our faces our close but I don't want to make the first move" moment, is to just ask him! Say something like "I really want to kiss you right now" or "Would it be ok if I kissed you?"

    Best of luck Mizu!
    thank yoou! God I'm nercous. hour til i ssee him again. ahaha
  • Karnage

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    Dec 15, 2010 1:31 PM GMT
    Sooo, what happened?
  • mizu5

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    Dec 15, 2010 9:16 PM GMT
    Karnage saidSooo, what happened?
    Ih goodness! We went for coffee, then drove up north in the snowstorm, and wandered onto a field, into the middle, and jsut stood there. In the snow. We made up what we thought the lights on the horizon were. We talked about everything. I;ve never looked into someones eyes so intensely. It was dark, and amazing.

    And then we drove home, listening to this amazing music. And... I might see him again tonight. I hope!
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    Dec 16, 2010 8:53 PM GMT
    Did you guys talk about your situation? Maybe it's time...

    I like The fire in the back yard and hot cocoa idea... Romantic.
  • Fusion98102

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    Dec 16, 2010 8:57 PM GMT
    Whatever happens - good luck! Its the magical time of the year. Anything is possible. Live for the moment. They pass by quickly...