Job Hunting is a Bit Like Dating

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    Dec 15, 2010 12:47 AM GMT
    I've realized recently that job hunting is like dating.

    People express interest, you go meet with them, have a chat and sometimes when you think it went well- it didn't or they found someone else. You call or inquire to get an update but you don't hear back from them.

    Or you respond to an ad and the job sounds great. During the interview you realize why the position is available and you have to turn them down.

    Just when you're ready to throw in the towel you find someone who understands you and is a good match. Well, at least when the economy was good.

    Just don't mix the two up.icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 15, 2010 1:00 AM GMT
    Ehanson saidI've realized recently that job hunting is like dating.

    Well they do say that you have to flood the job market with your resume before you'll get a reply back, and then as you note, not every interview will result in actually getting you hired. That's a similar comparison to the fishing analogy I'm always using here to describe the way to get a man. Which means you can reverse your topic line and say that dating is a bit like job hunting.

    You gotta drop a lot of bait to get a nibble and finally catch a keeper, and have to send out a lot of resumes to get the one interview that wins you a job you want, and meet an awful lot of guys to get enough dates that one day finds you that LTR prize many of us ultimately want.

    The fisherman who cuts bait after a half-hour goes home empty-handed, the job-hunter who gives up after mailing-out a dozen resumes goes jobless, and the single gay man who isn't meeting new guys all the time goes lonely.
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    Dec 15, 2010 2:40 AM GMT
    Most of my boyfriends don't pay me for what I'm skilled at though. Most of them... icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 15, 2010 2:41 AM GMT
    IDK I can get a job faster than a bf
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    Dec 15, 2010 2:43 AM GMT
    It's a lot like apartment/house hunting too.
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    Dec 15, 2010 2:45 AM GMT
    I dont like dating. And I hate interviews; both situations require me to be fake and kiss ass, which I detest.
    So my response to both is this;
    "GIVE IT TO ME!" icon_mad.gif
  • xKorix

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    Dec 15, 2010 2:46 AM GMT
    Yeah a job is a lot like a relationship, but there are a lot of unhealthy relationships out there.
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    Dec 15, 2010 2:49 AM GMT
    Yeah but job hunting is worse! An interview is like being on a date with the hottest guy on the planet with the best personality ever and being nervous and wanting to try so hard to impress him... then waiting for days by the phone to hope that he calls you, with the possibility of getting an email from him saying he decided to pursue other guys and wishes you the best luck in your future dating exploits...
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    Dec 15, 2010 2:56 AM GMT
    Ugh, my life, right now. They tell you they're going to call, but then you don't hear anything. Are they still going to call you? Are they still interested? Maybe life just got busy for them. You want to be with them, but they're sending really mixed signals and not being up front with you. You don't want to call too often for fear of seeming needy or that you might insult them for reminding them they forgot to call...
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    Dec 15, 2010 3:01 AM GMT
    KSUOWL saidYeah but job hunting is worse! An interview is like being on a date with the hottest guy on the planet with the best personality ever and being nervous and wanting to try so hard to impress him... then waiting for days by the phone to hope that he calls you, with the possibility of getting an email from him saying he decided to pursue other guys and wishes you the best luck in your future dating exploits...


    Yep job hunting is worse. I have been through about 50 interviews in the past 9 months to a year. It was getting horrible. You think you did great and then WHAM the email comes that they decided to pursue other people who are better qualified than you, or you follow up and you never hear back from them and then a week or so later, you see an ad from the same company. I am now lucky that I do not have to go through that any more. Unfortunately my job is in another state than where I was living, but I feel fortunate that I do now have a job that starts in January and I can spend the holidays with my family for the first time in 7 years.
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    Dec 15, 2010 3:03 AM GMT
    Karnage saidUgh, my life, right now. They tell you they're going to call, but then you don't hear anything. Are they still going to call you? Are they still interested? Maybe life just got busy for them. You want to be with them, but they're sending really mixed signals and not being up front with you. You don't want to call too often for fear of seeming needy or that you might insult them for reminding them they forgot to call...

    Are you talking guys or employers? icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 15, 2010 3:09 AM GMT
    KSUOWL saidthen waiting for days by the phone to hope that he calls you, with the possibility of getting an email from him saying he decided to pursue other guys and wishes you the best luck in your future dating exploits...


    You're really lucky if you even get the "we want someone with a bigger dick, slimmer build, and shits those gold nuggets we read about on a thread on RJ" emails. During my last job hunt, it was very rare that I got a follow-up denial after an interview. One company never called back after 4 interviews! I thought surely I'd get at least a "we're sorry, but we hate you" email or a text-message-breakup or something.

    Strange though, when I interviewed for my current job, we instantly hit it off through the phone interview, and I knew they were "the one" when I had my in-person interview. It was an interview committee of 7 people (and a mysterious man on a speakerphone), and things just flowed / felt right. I was really glad, because I had just turned down a job offer that wouldn't have been a great fit, and would have made me seem job-slutty. icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 15, 2010 3:17 AM GMT
    So true and depending on what your going for, you have to change your approach sometimes.
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    Dec 15, 2010 3:20 AM GMT
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    KSUOWL saidthen waiting for days by the phone to hope that he calls you, with the possibility of getting an email from him saying he decided to pursue other guys and wishes you the best luck in your future dating exploits...


    You're really lucky if you even get the "we want someone with a bigger dick, slimmer build, and shits those gold nuggets we read about on a thread on RJ" emails. During my last job hunt, it was very rare that I got a follow-up denial after an interview. One company never called back after 4 interviews! I thought surely I'd get at least a "we're sorry, but we hate you" email or a text-message-breakup or something.

    Strange though, when I interviewed for my current job, we instantly hit it off through the phone interview, and I knew they were "the one" when I had my in-person interview. It was an interview committee of 7 people (and a mysterious man on a speakerphone), and things just flowed / felt right. I was really glad, because I had just turned down a job offer that wouldn't have been a great fit, and would have made me seem job-slutty. icon_wink.gif


    Man that is rough to not get a denial email even. I would have driven to their office and shit directly on their doorstep!

    As for the current job, that sounds like a cute little relationship! So did you consummate with this job after the in-person interview? Or did you prefer to wait so you don't give off the wrong idea? icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 15, 2010 3:23 AM GMT
    Ehanson saidI've realized recently that job hunting is like dating.
    Yep, it's exactly like dating for a number of reasons:
    1. You're going to get rejected more than you get accepted.
    2. Methods of rejection range from simply saying "no" to receiving no response at all.
    3. Once you get the job, you're probably just gonna keep it for a few years, then go get another one.
    4. You'll probably have a part-time on the side because one usually isn't enough.
    5. Last but not least, to get a job (or a date), it's not who ya know but who ya blow.
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    Dec 15, 2010 3:23 AM GMT
    KSUOWL said...with the possibility of getting an email from him saying he decided to pursue other guys and wishes you the best luck in your future dating exploits...


    The old "Thanks for your interest in the position but we're going with someone with more experience" email or "it's not you, it's me" in dating.

    Today I had a phone interview with a guy who said previous people have left the position only after a couple of months to pursue something better. He's afraid I'm going to leave her because I'm have professional experience yet he's calling me anyway? Why even call then?

    Probably dodged a bullet as he has some abandonment issues and it could be a dysfunctional environment.

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    Ehanson saidI've realized recently that job hunting is like dating.
    Yep, it's exactly like dating for a number of reasons:
    1. You're going to get rejected more than you get accepted.
    2. Methods of rejection range from simply saying "no" to receiving no response at all.
    3. Once you get the job, you're probably just gonna keep it for a few years, then go get another one.
    4. You'll probably have a part-time on the side because one usually isn't enough.
    5. Last but not least, to get a job (or a date), it's not who ya know but who ya blow.


    Couldn't have said it better.
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    Dec 15, 2010 3:44 AM GMT
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    Karnage saidUgh, my life, right now. They tell you they're going to call, but then you don't hear anything. Are they still going to call you? Are they still interested? Maybe life just got busy for them. You want to be with them, but they're sending really mixed signals and not being up front with you. You don't want to call too often for fear of seeming needy or that you might insult them for reminding them they forgot to call...

    Are you talking guys or employers? icon_wink.gif


    Haha, employers at the moment!
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    Dec 15, 2010 3:52 AM GMT
    Pyrotech saidMost of my boyfriends don't pay me for what I'm skilled at though. Most of them... icon_wink.gif


    Agreed and Job Hunting is easier than Dating, because both of the parties concerned knows what they want.
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    Dec 15, 2010 5:07 AM GMT
    KSUOWL saidAs for the current job, that sounds like a cute little relationship! So did you consummate with this job after the in-person interview? Or did you prefer to wait so you don't give off the wrong idea? icon_wink.gif


    My legs spread the second I sat at my desk with a view of mountains, a hot tub for a condo unit, and a creek.
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    Dec 15, 2010 5:10 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    Ehanson saidI've realized recently that job hunting is like dating.
    Yep, it's exactly like dating for a number of reasons:
    1. You're going to get rejected more than you get accepted.
    2. Methods of rejection range from simply saying "no" to receiving no response at all.
    3. Once you get the job, you're probably just gonna keep it for a few years, then go get another one.
    4. You'll probably have a part-time on the side because one usually isn't enough.
    5. Last but not least, to get a job (or a date), it's not who ya know but who ya blow.

    Fucking LOVE this post.