frenchatheart saidHere's my two cents:
The Wise Centaur said: young gay guys, usually 18-25 wants someone older. This is because they want someone to be a fatherly figure that they lack in their childhood. Most gay guys have problems with their dads or weren't as close as they were compared to their mother when they were young. Naturally, they seek someone more muscular which translates into a protective person who will make them feel safe and secure in their minds. They find older guys to be more mature than their counterparts and hence more emotionally stable and financially secure. This is a reassurance for the younger gays because they have so much competition among themselves or feel insecure. Most of the younger gays have control issues and are uptight. They usually find stability with alot older guys who are seeking someone young, whom they can protect and care for. There is an element of power issue/balanced here. The younger guy feels like he has the power in the relationship and can leave the older guy any time he wants because he still has alot of years ahead of him. In the mean time, the younger gay is enjoying the company of the sweet older guy who is protective of him. He finds stability in this relationship. Note here that the younger guy isn't using the older guy, he may genuinely care for the older guy but he knows that the age issue sometimes bother both of them and he's well aware of it. In the mean time, they are bothe enjoying each other company which they desperately crave.
The older guys gets satisfaction from nurturing and mentoring the cute, naive young gays and maybe feel alittle bit protective of him from the harsh world of reality. The older guy envy the younger guy vitality and free spirited nature. At his point in life, where he is on the right track and feel financially secure, he can afford to try new things which he didn't have time or dare to do when he was younger. So, he's enjoying the ride as much as he can too.
Now, when the younger gay guy grows up > 25 he starts to realize that there is an imbalance in the relationship. He starts to realize that he wants a guy who is equal and share his life with. He will start to feel more confident and financially secure and not get scared of the real world, so he will start to look for someone around his age. Some of them will eventually find one. They get into the LTR and they soon realize that just like a heterosexual couple, the novelty starts to wear off in a few years. They start fighting and arguing. Some of them who are able to maintain a strong communication and understanding make it to their 50s and 60s but most them end up breaking up their > 5 year LTR. Now they are in the mid 30s or 40s, they start to take the paternal role again. They start looking for the younger gay to nurture and cherish as he miss that feeling. Part of that has to do with wanting to be in control of the relationship too, he being the one with money and experience, he realize that the younger guys will be smitten by him. He will be able to impress him as much as he wants to.
Hence the cycle of life.....(This can be applied to the heterosexuals as well).
This is probably one of the dumbest things Ive heard on the site, up there with a SouthBeach comment.
I have a great relationship with my father, and I prefer older men. I prefer older men because, like them, I have my shit together (I got a good job, am emotionally balanced, etc.) Just because there is a younger/older relationship doesnt mean its about the sex/money/the younger guy has daddy issues. Sometimes older men are just fucking hot, and I want a hot guy to sleep with.
Furthermore, many younger guys are so damn consumed by the club scene we have nothing to talk about.
Lastly, I have seen many younger/older relationships work long term. Just because a guy hits 60 doesnt mean he is dead. And at that point, the younger/older relationship will be well into its 15+ year time frame. There is this thing called love, it sets in during that time no matter what the age is.
If a young guy was with a buff, muscular, young guy, is it because he wants to be nurtured/taken care of? Of course not, its because he finds it hot.