If gay marriage were legal everywhere, would gay men still cheat?

  • masculumpedes

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    Dec 17, 2010 12:31 AM GMT
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    One of the MANY stereotypes about gay men is that it is very difficult for them to maintain a monogamous relationship, but why does this rumor even exist? If gay marriage were legal everywhere, would gay men still cheat on their partners? 106.gif
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    Dec 17, 2010 12:44 AM GMT
    Seeing that straight married men and some straight married women cheat, the answer would almost certainly be yes. It is one of the biggest reasons for divorce in heterosexual marriages,
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    Dec 17, 2010 12:47 AM GMT
    Yes.
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    Dec 17, 2010 12:48 AM GMT
    A resounding yes! icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 17, 2010 12:51 AM GMT
    as Eminem said in his surprising support for gay marriage,
    " i think they too should know misery " .
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    Dec 17, 2010 12:51 AM GMT
    Most men are dogs or pigs so yes (JK):

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    To honestly answer your question some guys of course would still cheat married couples do it already straight or gay. Would it decrease if now you could proclaim your commitment to everyone legally? I don’t know the answer to that. Regardless of the term marriage relationships are built on the values the individuals’ possess and adhere to.
  • mybud

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    Dec 17, 2010 3:30 AM GMT
    The answer sadly is hell yes....just like str8 couples do....
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    Dec 17, 2010 3:32 AM GMT
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    One of the MANY stereotypes about gay men is that it is very difficult for them to maintain a monogamous relationship, but why does this rumor even exist? If gay marriage were legal everywhere, would gay men still cheat on their partners? 106.gif



    Dude, it's a simple answer..

    Do straight men still cheat on their wives?

    That's a yes... so there you go. icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 17, 2010 3:44 AM GMT
    Yes of course they would. Gay guys who cheat aren't cheating because they can't get married.
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    Dec 17, 2010 3:45 AM GMT
    Yes.

    Studies have shown that around 80% of male-male relationships involve some sort of intercourse with others outside the relationship (threesomes, open relationship, cheating) compared to between 20 and 30 percent among straight and lesbian couples.
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    Dec 17, 2010 3:49 AM GMT
    FearTheFall saidYes.

    Studies have shown that around 80% of male-male relationships involve some sort of intercourse with others outside the relationship (threesomes, open relationship, cheating) compared to between 20 and 30 percent among straight and lesbian couples.


    Sort of a sad statistic or maybe just proof that men are biologically different and less likely to be fulfilled in a monogamous relationship.
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    Dec 17, 2010 3:54 AM GMT
    Sadly, I think the answer is yes. A license isn't what keeps a man faithful to his significant other. Straight guys cheat on their wives all the time....
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    Dec 17, 2010 3:57 AM GMT


    I remember hearing this on a show once that had a gay couple in San Francisco, it was back in the 90's


    and one said to the other this...

    "Why can't gay men be monogamous? Is it because we are gay?"

    "No, it's because we're men"

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    Dec 17, 2010 4:02 AM GMT
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    FearTheFall saidYes.

    Studies have shown that around 80% of male-male relationships involve some sort of intercourse with others outside the relationship (threesomes, open relationship, cheating) compared to between 20 and 30 percent among straight and lesbian couples.


    Sort of a sad statistic or maybe just proof that men are biologically different and less likely to be fulfilled in a monogamous relationship.



    In 2008, The Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy reported that 50% of married women and 60% of married men would have an extramarital affair at sometime, more than double for men and triple for women of what was reported in 1998. There was one major reason given for the huge increase- the internet.
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    Dec 17, 2010 4:36 AM GMT
    yes, they would. Although with more legal ramifications they may consider telling their spouses before acting on their desires. icon_lol.gif

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    Dec 17, 2010 4:45 AM GMT
    Monogamy isn't guaranteed by marital license. In fact, partners should remain faithful no matter what laws are enacted, that's just the basic criterion for a relationship. With that said, people are people. Men, women, gay, straight, bi, lesbian, transsexual...doesn't matter. People cheat for several reasons (exploration, boredom, biological drives) and the inability to get married isn't one of them.
  • conquer

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    Dec 17, 2010 4:46 AM GMT
    ummm, yes
  • coolarmydude

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    Dec 17, 2010 4:47 AM GMT
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    One of the MANY stereotypes about gay men is that it is very difficult for them to maintain a monogamous relationship, but why does this rumor even exist? If gay marriage were legal everywhere, would gay men still cheat on their partners? 106.gif


    Marriage doesn't change people. The only change marriage brings to a relationship is the legal recognition of the union of assets.
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    Dec 17, 2010 4:49 AM GMT
    HeartRobb saidSeeing that straight married men and some straight married women cheat, the answer would almost certainly be yes. It is one of the biggest reasons for divorce in heterosexual marriages,


    Possibly. I assume that the reason why they cheat is the actual problem. Cheating is a symptom of some other problem/situation.
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    Dec 17, 2010 4:49 AM GMT
    Monogamous relationships are very difficult to maintain. I suppose gay menare stereotyped as loose is because, men in general are considered non-monogamous.
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    Dec 17, 2010 4:50 AM GMT
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    One of the MANY stereotypes about gay men is that it is very difficult for them to maintain a monogamous relationship, but why does this rumor even exist? If gay marriage were legal everywhere, would gay men still cheat on their partners? 106.gif



    This isn't the smartest post I've ever read for two reasons. 1) I'm gay, not married, and it's not legal in my state. I'd still never cheat.

    2) Straight people still cheat. There will always be good and bad people. The end.
  • masculumpedes

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    Dec 17, 2010 5:00 AM GMT
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    This isn't the smartest post I've ever read



    Perhaps it wasn't meant to be....gayfight.gif
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    Dec 17, 2010 9:07 PM GMT
    Um.... YES

    because a promise and oathe doesn't require marriage, is made the day you decide that you belong to another person and if that private, one on one intimate pledge isn't respected enough for you to abide by it, why would marriage make any different?

    If you are a cheater, marriage makes no difference whether you gay or straight. You're still going to cheat.

  • thebigtwist

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    Dec 17, 2010 9:17 PM GMT
    Did someone cheat on you?
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    Dec 17, 2010 9:25 PM GMT
    Halfstep saidUm.... YES

    because a promise and oathe doesn't require marriage, is made the day you decide that you belong to another person and if that private, one on one intimate pledge isn't respected enough for you to abide by it, why would marriage make any different?

    If you are a cheater, marriage makes no difference whether you gay or straight. You're still going to cheat.



    I really like this, thanks. Case in point, we exchanged vows privately on the beach 21 years ago. Just us, Bill's dog as witness.

    In 2009 we married legally.

    -Doug