Penis sensitivity stopping me from being able to get blowjobs!?!?!?! Help!?!?!? Series problem!!!! Please help!!!! Can't even have sex anymore!!!

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    Dec 17, 2010 3:08 PM GMT
    Okies, so this is a long story. But here it goes.

    Since i was little i've always masturbated prone, which means i lie down on the face of my body on my stomach on my bed, then have my hand on the face of my penis, then thrust against my penis. Now i've never been able to masturbate normally, so just jerking off like all you guys do because it's a completely different feeling and it just ends up chaffing, and i thought once i started having sex it wouldn't matter... Okies, forward two years. I can have sex, if i masturbate the way i do and my boyfriend fucks me from behind, hard. Yes. But doable. and thats it, thats the only way i can reach climax when having sex and its so pathetic its not funny, and my bf doesn't even bother having sex with me now. Now i've done some research, it's a rare condition called TMS (traumatic masturbaing syndrome) Where i taught myself how to masturbate wrong when i first started, in like grade 3 i think i started now lol. It can apparently be fixed, but its hard. and i've had no luck.

    Now, my question. Blowjobs! Now i don't know due to the tms is why i can't recieve head, but i hate it. My bf has always wanted to blow me, since i please him all the time, but its way to senstive once he touches the head, it hurts even in the shower when im washing it its too senstive, i can't describe it, its not painful but its unbearable. Now due to the way i masturbate clearly i dont have the head exposed really ever, where as normal guys do. So i'm not sure wether its so senstive because its never exposed or if its due to the tms. All i know is i need answers! If anyone could even give me answers i'd be sooo thankful, or anyone else suffering from this problem come forward that would help as well. I just wanna be able to have sex one day, properly, and enjoy head and all that. I feel so sad for my partner, putting up with it for two years. Please help!!!
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    Dec 17, 2010 3:27 PM GMT
    Hmmm I don't think I can say anything except maybe to talk to a doctor or sex therapist?
  • rnch

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    Dec 17, 2010 3:31 PM GMT
    slap on one (or two) of those thick, hefty bag material condoms that are in the plastic fish bowels at all the gay bars?

    that should cut down on your sensitivity.
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    Dec 17, 2010 3:39 PM GMT
    I've tried that, i can't feel anything through condoms.
  • rnch

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    Dec 17, 2010 3:48 PM GMT
    try other brands of condoms, then? they do vary in sensitivity.....have fun "field testing" different ones! icon_cool.gif
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    Dec 17, 2010 4:42 PM GMT
    Try frottage.
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    Dec 17, 2010 5:27 PM GMT
    You're not the only one out there masturbating that way. I used to do it that way for years as a teen (and it still plays a major part now.) Now I'm more "versatile" lol. I never thought it was a disorder. I am somewhat sensitive when it comes to getting BJ's, however, time will desensitize you.

    OTOH, my first fuck buddy loved that I was so sensitive, which meant for him that I would last only a few minutes and he could claim his "reward." I would reload pretty quickly as well, so it was actually kinda awesome for both of us.

    Bottom line: don't worry too much about it. BTW, I love frot!!! Try that for sex with your bf, as Paul suggested.
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    Dec 17, 2010 5:36 PM GMT
    Get rid of the extra skin; according to southbeach if you're cut, you'll lose all that sensitivity.