Flirting

  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 18, 2010 2:26 AM GMT
    DON'T READ WHAT OTHERS SAY BEFORE YOU POST YOUR ANSWER, PLEASE.

    Dont read what others have posted before you because I want to see if there is consistency in our behavior.

    OK, here's the deal.

    I just read that straights have a universal set of flirting behaviors that are unrelated to social status, culture, geographic location, etc.

    So, I am wondering, do gays have a set of innate flirting behaviors.

    Try to think how you behave when you flirt. Post your flirting behaviors when in person, and online.

    Also, say whether you consider yourself an extrovert (are energized by partying and being around people) or an introvert (whereas you might like to be around people, socializing really drains you and you have to have your "alone time."

    Ok, now you can go back and read what others posted and see how you compare.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 18, 2010 2:37 AM GMT
    I stare a lot, too much, probably to the point that its creepy lol. And I pick with him a lot, start little debates, turn everything into sly sexual jokes. I make every effort to sit with him, a little too close until our arms and legs are brushing up against each others. Little gifts, even if its just a candy bar, or a bottle of water, just something that says I was thinking of him when he wasn't around.

    Ands thats all I know how to do in person until I know for certain someone likes me back. I guess I kind of suck at flirting.

    And I am an introvert
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 18, 2010 4:09 AM GMT
    Halfstep saidI stare a lot, too much, probably to the point that its creepy lol. And I pick with him a lot, start little debates, turn everything into sly sexual jokes. I make every effort to sit with him, a little too close until our arms and legs are brushing up against each others. Little gifts, even if its just a candy bar, or a bottle of water, just something that says I was thinking of him when he wasn't around.

    Ands thats all I know how to do in person until I know for certain someone likes me back. I guess I kind of suck at flirting.

    And I am an introvert


    That's aggressive and desperate!
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 18, 2010 4:11 AM GMT
    icon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gif

    >.>
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 18, 2010 4:14 AM GMT
    Isnt "Cruising" our way of flirting?
    Honestly i dont think we flirt any differently.
    And im Ambiverted.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 18, 2010 4:21 AM GMT
    I refuse to post my flirting behaviors. If you want to find out how I flirt, you'll just have to come over here, git nekkid, and see for yourself.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 18, 2010 4:29 AM GMT
    Online: I'll act like myself - random and funny (or so I like to think) - and slip in a small, unique compliment or two so I don't come across as overbearing.

    In Person: The same as above, although with some good eye contact, and maybe a bit of playful smiling. If I start feeling comfortable enough with him, I may "accidentally" brush against him once or twice. icon_rolleyes.gif

    I'm a pretty awful flirt, though. Apparently I'm "flirtatious" when I don't mean to be, and yet tend to look "stoic" when I DO want to show some emotion.

    And if you couldn't tell from the above, I'm an introvert.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 18, 2010 4:45 AM GMT
    Gays are more direct. They can be. We don't have a lot of time.

    Whereas the straight guys picking up a woman, would possibly only be after her number, not get her to the nearest bed, as do the gays.

    ...and they're certainly not as creative as my current night has proven.

    Some guy came up to me once and said, "I'm 'strangely' attracted to you."
    I pretty much read that as an insult more or less, although I did still go home with him that night.
  • DCguy2001

    Posts: 314

    Dec 18, 2010 4:48 AM GMT
    aerovaulter saidOnline: I'll act like myself - random and funny (or so I like to think) - and slip in a small, unique compliment or two so I don't come across as overbearing.

    In Person: The same as above, although with some good eye contact, and maybe a bit of playful smiling. If I start feeling comfortable enough with him, I may "accidentally" brush against him once or twice. icon_rolleyes.gif

    I'm a pretty awful flirt, though. Apparently I'm "flirtatious" when I don't mean to be, and yet tend to look "stoic" when I DO want to show some emotion.

    And if you couldn't tell from the above, I'm an introvert.


    Wouldn't mind if you brushed up against me a couple of times...
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 18, 2010 5:07 AM GMT
    DCguy1999 said
    Wouldn't mind if you brushed up against me a couple of times...


    Sounds like I'll have to make a trip down to DC soon...*super-obnoxious, suggestive wink*

  • Fitkiwiroo

    Posts: 10

    Dec 18, 2010 5:17 AM GMT
    I would have thought gays are bigger flirts! I am an introvert and in a monogamous relationship. But the BIGGEST flirt! As long as I make it clear that all it is, is flirting and maybe a little ego stroking I don't see the harm.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 18, 2010 5:26 AM GMT
    Extrovert.
    When flirting I smile, give a more open stance, make eye contact, articulate, laugh, engage them in conversation about themselves, watch/read/react to body language, find and establish common interests, use neutral language, throw a little sarcasm in there, make light jokes, and letting them lead the conversation but making sure to contribute.
    Of course the situation changes my behaviors but for the most part they are consistent.
    Although, I could explain it all day long but you can't quite grasp it till you experience it icon_smile.gif.
    Oh forgot to mention "play dumb"..
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 18, 2010 7:43 AM GMT
    I'm pretty much a flirtatious guy which can be an issue cause the person I may like, isn't able to tell the difference if I'm into them, or its just for good fun...

    *sigh*

    I needed to modify my approach of flirting.....
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 18, 2010 7:48 AM GMT
    I try to engage the person in a conversation and get to know him. Make him feel good about him self with compliments (not excessive) or jokes. Look him in the eyes, stick around, stay close (as close as comfort allows).
    That kind of stuff.

    If that fails.
    Force tears to my eyes go down on my knees and say 'I've never been so happy!'

    harr harr

    oh yeah, mostly intro, manage extro pretty well though.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 18, 2010 8:11 AM GMT
    Well I am a shy sort of person, but when I am online I am able to better express myself as I am normally. When I am around people in a room I wait to be approached but when I am online I approach people. I glance around a room making mental notes of my surroundings and my possibilities. I flirt a lot with my eyes, I make stupid remarks, and I say random things that probably don't make sense. I tend to blush but I love someone who can make me laugh.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 18, 2010 8:28 AM GMT
    Just from reading all of your comments, all of you are versatile bottoms. hahahaha
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 18, 2010 8:46 AM GMT
    flirting? Isnt that just complimenting someone and showing interest?
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 18, 2010 8:49 AM GMT
    amar_m saidflirting? Isnt that just complimenting someone and showing interest?


    Theres more to the dish than just the recipe. icon_wink.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 18, 2010 8:55 AM GMT
    GigoloAssassin said
    amar_m saidflirting? Isnt that just complimenting someone and showing interest?


    Theres more to the dish than just the recipe. icon_wink.gif


    hmm, what exactly? Give me the secret!!
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 18, 2010 8:56 AM GMT
    I usually very flirtatious in person if i like them. I will give them direct eye contact, smile and giving them those half complements...maybe come in a little close if they are feeling me too. I usually stick to heavy eye contact and little glances looking him up and down...lol im an extrovert.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 18, 2010 10:13 AM GMT
    frenchatheart saidJust from reading all of your comments, all of you are versatile bottoms. hahahaha


    Hahahaha I just pictured everyone sticking their asses out when they are flirting with someone.. Might as well have sign that says 'Do Me' icon_lol.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 18, 2010 10:58 AM GMT
    I don't really notice much of a difference whether I'm flirting with a man or a woman.

    Initial flirting with someone I don't know, it will be lots of eye contact, holding it until we both feel tension and then looking away. Once the tension is ratched right up there, lots of eyebrow signals, like raising both brows, cocking one brow, wiggling them up and down. Finally to make it clear, there's smiling.

    Then in conversation lots of smiling, leaning forward, finding a way to get closer to a person's body e.g. you strain to hear what they say, so you place your ear right next to their mouth and with your cheeks almost touching. Flirty touches, like pats on the shoulder, brushes against the skin, finding a reason to touch their hair, placing your hand on their chest, on their shoulder, around their neck when you speak into their ear (though only in noisy, dark and crowded places ^^)

    Ah, and I'm an introvert icon_smile.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 18, 2010 11:47 AM GMT
    I'm both an introvert and an extrovert -- ambivert. Though, I am more weighted on introversion. I don't have many friends. Definitely need alone time, but when I am speaking to people, I tend to speak really loud and laugh even louder.

    Hmm flirting..? I'm a terrible flirt. When I'm attracted to someone, I get all defensive, start acting like the most confident person in the world and try to look disinterested. It's only because I'm insecure though, and can't possibly handle the thought of rejection, so I try to 'reject' them first.

  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 18, 2010 1:01 PM GMT
    I allow the other flirter to get 3 fingers just under my waistband of my jeans at parties as long as I have a grip on his hand and pull it out before he get to his second knuckle. Then I squeeze his hand while he says, "I'm sorry"...happened last night.icon_redface.gif
  • slimnmuscly

    Posts: 541

    Dec 18, 2010 2:28 PM GMT
    In person, I tend to watch guys' eyes. If they seem friendly and there might be a bit of potential, I might make a light (non-sexual) joke and see if a banter picks up from there. If I'm pretty confident they're interested, I'll be more forward i.e., the jokes might have more of an overtly flirty or sexual connotation.

    Online, it depends on my mood but I'm much more likely to be direct and risk rejection.

    I'm more of an introvert, though I can pass for an extrovert if I have to.