bottoming?

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    Dec 18, 2010 9:27 PM GMT
    serious question...is there some trick to bottoming?

    i really like topping, but i really want to bottom and the couple of times ive tried doing it it hurt soooooooooo bad. i feel like im missing some important step that would make it less painful and a lot more enjoyable...any tips/advice/etc. would be highly appreciated!

  • Timbales

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    Dec 18, 2010 9:31 PM GMT
    The guy you're with needs to be patient and focused on you enjoying yourself. Fingering, rimming and lots of foreplay make it better. He should get you begging for it.
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    Dec 18, 2010 9:43 PM GMT
    How do you get to Carnegie Hall?
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    Dec 18, 2010 10:07 PM GMT
    ?
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    Dec 18, 2010 10:52 PM GMT
    carbonblack said?


    damn, I'm that old *sigh*
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    Dec 19, 2010 12:19 AM GMT
    Take it slow, lots of lube, find someone who knows what they are doing!

    Or come to Sydney I'd be happy to help ;)
  • rnch

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    Dec 19, 2010 12:20 AM GMT
    dustin_K_tx said
    carbonblack said?


    damn, I'm that old *sigh*
    at least one more guy here is also.. icon_eek.gif
  • LJay

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    Dec 19, 2010 1:17 AM GMT
    How do you get to Carnegie Hall?

    Practice, practice, practice!
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    Dec 19, 2010 1:29 AM GMT
    dustin_K_tx said
    carbonblack said?


    damn, I'm that old *sigh*


    hahahahaha
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    Dec 19, 2010 1:40 AM GMT
    carbonblack saidserious question...is there some trick to bottoming?

    i really like topping, but i really want to bottom and the couple of times ive tried doing it it hurt soooooooooo bad. i feel like im missing some important step that would make it less painful and a lot more enjoyable...any tips/advice/etc. would be highly appreciated!




    Get a starter dildo, lube, and practice on it. Focus on relaxing your butthole.
    And like the other gentleman said above me, fingering and lots of lube help, and a patient partner. If hes into rimming, that helps relax too, unless youre ticklish, haha! icon_wink.gif
  • rnch

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    Dec 19, 2010 1:43 AM GMT
    GigoloAssassin said...Get a starter dildo, lube, and practice on it. Focus on relaxing your butthole.
    And like the other gentleman said above me, fingering and lots of lube help, and a patient partner. If hes into rimming, that helps relax too, unless youre ticklish, haha! icon_wink.gif


    agree to all of the above! and...(i KNOW i'll get flamed for THIS suggestion)...about 10 seconds before insertion, a stiff snort from a fresh bottle of poppers will help you relax and let it slliippppppppp right in! icon_cool.gif
  • DCEric

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    Dec 19, 2010 1:43 AM GMT
    dustin_K_tx said
    carbonblack said?


    damn, I'm that old *sigh*


    Nah, I got it.
  • calibro

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    Dec 19, 2010 1:54 AM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidHow do you get to Carnegie Hall?


    bottom for mayor bloomberg?
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    Dec 19, 2010 2:08 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidTake it slow, lots of lube, find someone who knows what they are doing!

    Or come to Sydney I'd be happy to help ;)


    i would gladly come to sydney if you would show me the ropes icon_smile.gif you should make a trip to the states haha
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    Dec 19, 2010 2:08 AM GMT
    also thanks guys! haha guess i'll work on this for christmas haha
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    Dec 19, 2010 2:12 AM GMT
    The secret is an awesome imagination, apparently.
  • DukeAtreides

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    Dec 19, 2010 2:18 AM GMT
    And since nobody has mentioned this yet... try starting from a different position.

    If you wish to avoid TMI, stop reading now.

    I, for one, need to be on my back to get started. After that, we can move around a bit. A friend of mine needs to be on his stomach. Any other angle and he is NOT a happy camper.
  • rnch

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    Dec 19, 2010 2:29 AM GMT
    DukeAtreides saidAnd since nobody has mentioned this yet... try starting from a different position.

    If you wish to avoid TMI, stop reading now.

    I, for one, need to be on my back to get started. After that, we can move around a bit. A friend of mine needs to be on his stomach. Any other angle and he is NOT a happy camper.


    more TMI:

    i start off best on my right side, with my left knee/lower leg drawn up as high as possible, as close to my chin as possible.... icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 19, 2010 2:42 AM GMT
    DukeAtreides saidAnd since nobody has mentioned this yet... try starting from a different position.

    If you wish to avoid TMI, stop reading now.

    I, for one, need to be on my back to get started. After that, we can move around a bit. A friend of mine needs to be on his stomach. Any other angle and he is NOT a happy camper.


    haha i really laughed out loud when i read this. "not a happy camper". so position does matter. alright...definitely try to go with that the next time. i dont think i've tried being on my back yet. and definitely not too much information haha.
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    Dec 19, 2010 2:55 AM GMT
    rnch said
    GigoloAssassin said...Get a starter dildo, lube, and practice on it. Focus on relaxing your butthole.
    And like the other gentleman said above me, fingering and lots of lube help, and a patient partner. If hes into rimming, that helps relax too, unless youre ticklish, haha! icon_wink.gif


    agree to all of the above! and...(i KNOW i'll get flamed for THIS suggestion)...about 10 seconds before insertion, a stiff snort from a fresh bottle of poppers will help you relax and let it slliippppppppp right in! icon_cool.gif


    OMG Poppers! How 70s Studio 54, Love it, lol! icon_cool.gif
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    Dec 19, 2010 3:15 AM GMT
    hmm....i feel like ill regret asking this, but what are poppers lol?
  • rnch

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    Dec 19, 2010 3:15 AM GMT
    GigoloAssassin said....OMG Poppers! How 70s Studio 54, Love it, lol! icon_cool.gif


    i am told that the poppers of today are nowhere near as strong as the ones in the 1970's. icon_neutral.gif
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    Dec 19, 2010 3:18 AM GMT
    rnch said
    GigoloAssassin said....OMG Poppers! How 70s Studio 54, Love it, lol! icon_cool.gif


    i am told that the poppers of today are nowhere near as strong as the ones in the 1970's. icon_neutral.gif


    They aren't. How old school LOL

    The trick to bottoming is the same as the trick to yoga, or as the rapper Mase put it

    Breathe, Stretch, Shake, let it go!
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    Dec 19, 2010 3:21 AM GMT
    more TMI:

    Use careful exploration with the toys to learn your way around your rectum. You'll find out where it feels good and where it doesn't.

    The rectum usually has little folds or dead-ends, and the opening to the colon is often over to one side. If someone is pushing against the dead end it's going to hurt.
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    Dec 19, 2010 4:40 AM GMT
    sounds like a lot of work. im excited to try this out again though haha...i guess that means i gotta go guy hunting or something. ugh hah