Boy or Man

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    Dec 19, 2010 10:53 AM GMT
    Alright so I'm a 27 yrs old guy. I'm blessed with youthful looks *touch wood* and people of all ages have complimented me on it.

    For me I keep my personality young and optimistic and encourage others to be that way because there are so many greys and darkness in life that people should also see the light of the yonder.
    In saying that I do also have a job like anyone else and make choices and decisions like any other adult.

    However one thing that perplexes me is that I am most often enough been called a boy.It really doesn't bother me, however in terms of relationship standards I'm viewed as a boy and not man despite being in committed relationships (so far with women but no guys yet)

    I'm still at the prime of life and have much ways to go, but whats the justification of still being called a boy when in my beliefs, I behave like a man.
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    Dec 19, 2010 11:37 AM GMT
    Hey little boy. Want some candy? icon_razz.gif
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    Dec 19, 2010 12:36 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidHey little boy. Want some candy? icon_razz.gif


    Never been much of a sweet tooth but thanks for the offer! LOLicon_lol.gif
  • mynyun

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    Dec 19, 2010 2:42 PM GMT


    Ha ha ha. Paul's offer cracked me up. icon_surprised.gificon_biggrin.gif
    And I'd be sure he isn't offering some other kind of "candy" before you accept or turn down his offer. LoL.
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    Dec 19, 2010 2:44 PM GMT
    Fivealive saidAlright so I'm a 27 yrs old guy. I'm blessed with youthful looks *touch wood* and people of all ages have complimented me on it.

    For me I keep my personality young and optimistic and encourage others to be that way because there are so many greys and darkness in life that people should also see the light of the yonder.
    In saying that I do also have a job like anyone else and make choices and decisions like any other adult.

    However one thing that perplexes me is that I am most often enough been called a boy.It really doesn't bother me, however in terms of relationship standards I'm viewed as a boy and not man despite being in committed relationships (so far with women but no guys yet)

    I'm still at the prime of life and have much ways to go, but whats the justification of still being called a boy when in my beliefs, I behave like a man.


    Well, you aren't a boy, but, you ARE young looking and very diminutive. Gay folks overuse the term boy. If you also are fleeting / flaming, well.... given all the aforementioned, you're gonna' get a boy, or, even, girl.
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    Dec 19, 2010 2:49 PM GMT
    just wait until some kid calls you "Sir" for the first time... you'll remember being called "boy" fondly
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    Dec 19, 2010 2:56 PM GMT
    Right after I shave I can easily pass for 15-16. It used to be annoying but if I continue to take care of myself and don't let my skin get shitty, I'll look 21 when I'm 31. No sweat. Soak it in.
  • LuckyGuyKC

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    Dec 19, 2010 3:00 PM GMT
    Count your blessings.
  • MrNomis

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    Dec 19, 2010 3:04 PM GMT
    enjoy it and live it! most men look beyong their age and wish they looked younger or some what near their true age.
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    Dec 19, 2010 3:14 PM GMT
    3blahs saidjust wait until some kid calls you "Sir" for the first time... you'll remember being called "boy" fondly











    Well said .........................icon_smile.gificon_smile.gificon_smile.gificon_smile.gif
  • bburg34

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    Dec 19, 2010 3:25 PM GMT
    You wrote:

    "I'm viewed as a boy and not man despite being in committed relationships (so far with women but no guys yet)"

    I'm guessing if you are on a site called "RealJock: Gay Fitness Health & Life" your issue isn't being called a boy by women, but that you are dating women instead of men.

    If you want to be taken seriously, act like an adult.

    HOWEVER, I do have friends in their early 20s who look 16... and they have trouble all the time with being taken seriously because they look so young. Some remedies they use:
    1) facial hair--grow it out
    2) dress professionally--wear dress clothes, be very sharp
    3) dating guys who are a little younger than you
    4) train for boxing--the aggression will give you a different energy in your day to day activites--and you'll get in amazing shape

    I have to be honest--in your photo, you look 28 or 30. So I can only say that your being called "boy" must be stemming from your behavior. If being called that bothers you, change your behavior.... or find new friends who see you for who you are, not just on the surface.

    Good luck!
  • rnch

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    Dec 19, 2010 3:30 PM GMT
    enjoy it while it lasts, for as long as it lasts!

    eventually, time and gravity will affect even YOU.

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    Dec 19, 2010 3:32 PM GMT
    Funny remedies lol
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    Dec 19, 2010 4:24 PM GMT
    Enjoy it while you can. You have great youthful good looks. I had the same thing happen to me all the time when I was younger and I used to get carded for drinks into my 30's. Now they just call me sir.
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    Dec 19, 2010 5:57 PM GMT
    you're cute, enjoy it while you are still capable of the moniker....when they start calling you 'old man' it goes right to the nuts.........Keithicon_cool.gif
  • masculumpedes

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    Dec 19, 2010 6:03 PM GMT
    It happens..I am 49 and the people at one of the churches that I volunteer for call me " young man"....of course they are in the 70 to 80 age range so I guess it fits icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 19, 2010 6:53 PM GMT
    Yeah, I still get called "young man" and "kiddo" by the 70 - 80 y/o crowd around this admittedly small town.

    But then when dating guys in the city, there are those who want to be called "boy." Or is that just the ones who call you "Sir?" It's so confusing.
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    Dec 19, 2010 7:32 PM GMT
    I'm Chief Designer for Prototype Apparel under European Knits Division, so I get called 'Boss' and 'Sir'

    I admit I am immature in certain aspects but I'm as much as grown as I can be.
    Plus good sir I am not a queen or flamer by all respect. I am considered quirky off beat sorta guy cause well life in Karachi can be so exasperating.

    Also I have been called an 'Uncle' by couple of five yr old so I guess I'm heading to the old man category soon enoughicon_lol.gif

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    Dec 19, 2010 7:37 PM GMT
    Fivealive saidAlso I have been called an 'Uncle' by couple of five yr old so I guess I'm heading to the old man category soon enoughicon_lol.gif



    Believe me - it will happen quicker than you can ever imagine! Enjoy being a "boy" while you can! icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 19, 2010 8:27 PM GMT
    I get the same thing even though I act a bit more mature than goes around my age, I'm in my mid twenties and some people think I'm a teenager because I look younger. It's annoying but I got used to it.

    And now that my older sister just had a newborn I am an uncle. It makes me feel old to think of myself as an uncle.

    A lot of men have a youthful streak, especially guys in their 20's- 30's. I think studies show men even mature more slowly than women in general.

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    Dec 19, 2010 9:02 PM GMT
    Ehanson saidI get the same thing even though I act a bit more mature than goes around my age, I'm in my mid twenties and some people think I'm a teenager because I look younger. It's annoying but I got used to it.

    And now that my older sister just had a newborn I am an uncle. It makes me feel old to think of myself as an uncle.

    A lot of men have a youthful streak, especially guys in their 20's- 30's. I think studies show men even mature more slowly than women in general.



    i could have sworn you were John Boy Walton........icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 19, 2010 9:17 PM GMT
    Answer : grow facial hair, have short hair


    look at my previous pics for evidence icon_lol.gif
  • mybud

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    Dec 19, 2010 9:34 PM GMT
    Someone calling you a boy gives them a sense of power over you...Set them straight...Tell em your a man...my 2 cents....BUD
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    Dec 19, 2010 9:38 PM GMT
    Who are the people calling you "boy"?
  • jimjock

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    Dec 19, 2010 9:39 PM GMT
    "touch wood"

    hahahah not here on RJ?