Camming and "Infidelity"

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    Dec 19, 2010 4:35 PM GMT
    I enjoy camming and chatting. I'm on some sites where I can chat and cam with guys from Japan to Georgia and Peru to Portugal.
    Camming sometimes takes other forms more than chat icon_lol.gif
    The chances of meeting 98.9% of these guys is nil (well at least the ones outside of the USA).
    This summer I dated someone who objected, saying it was being unfaithful.
    Agree or disagree?
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    Dec 19, 2010 6:30 PM GMT
    dont take this comment lightly because i'm young but i would get pretty upset if my significant other was camming with some random guy. something about camming makes me feel insecure i guess if my sig. other was doing it. it also depends on the context of what's going on. like if the conversation in anyway turned sexual. definitely not cool.

    i think if u were both ok with it go for it, but if one person in the relationship has a problem with it, then stop. but that's just me.
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    Dec 21, 2010 2:20 PM GMT
    I suppose it depends on the individuals in the relationship. My bf and I are both cool with it though. Just harmless fun.
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    Dec 21, 2010 2:30 PM GMT
    Don't see an issue with it myself, besides I find it hilarious that a few guys on this site are in strictly monogomous relationships yet have a gallery of half naked photos. On a site that is for gay men it says one thing, sex. You can dress it up as fitness or whatever you like but that's how I interpret it.
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    Dec 21, 2010 2:32 PM GMT
    I have a friend who was in a relationship until his bf found out about it. He didn't think it was a big deal because they watch porn together, check out guys, etc. If you have always enjoyed C2C and don't think you can give it up, keep it on the down low.
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    Dec 21, 2010 2:38 PM GMT
    IAmDestr0n saidI have a friend who was in a relationship until his bf found out about it. He didn't think it was a big deal because they watch porn together, check out guys, etc. If you have always enjoyed C2C and don't think you can give it up, keep it on the down low.



    Hmmmm....more likely because he kept it on the DL to begin with and THEN his bf found out.

    Bill and I cam with others; there's nothing sexual or amorous involved, so I'm missing something here.

    To the OP: are you talking cyber-sex?

    -Doug
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    Dec 21, 2010 2:46 PM GMT
    waygrayguy saidSeems to me that it really is about communication and honesty.

    If both of you talk openly about it up front - and both agree that it's harmless fun - then have fun!

    If one of you is doing it on the down-low there's already a problem at the core. Doesn't seem there needs to be any "down-low" in a strong relationship.

    And if you've talked it out up front and even one of you is uncomfortable with it for any number of reasons, then the other should honor his significant other's feelings and stay off the cam. Period. If you can't do that for the other person (likely because your own needs are too strong), then you've got yourself a big red flag in the r/l anyway.






    Are they talking about social camming or sex camming?

    -Doug
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    Dec 21, 2010 2:48 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    IAmDestr0n saidI have a friend who was in a relationship until his bf found out about it. He didn't think it was a big deal because they watch porn together, check out guys, etc. If you have always enjoyed C2C and don't think you can give it up, keep it on the down low.



    Hmmmm....more likely because he kept it on the DL to begin with and THEN his bf found out.

    Bill and I cam with others; there's nothing sexual or amorous involved, so I'm missing something here.

    To the OP: are you talking cyber-sex?

    -Doug


    No he told his bf what he was doing. My friend didn't think it was a big deal. icon_eek.gif
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    Dec 21, 2010 3:09 PM GMT
    OK, so still no one is saying if this is social camming or sexual.

    Which is it? lol!

    -Doug
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    Dec 21, 2010 3:13 PM GMT
    *looks at watch and whistles a happy little tune patiently*
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    Dec 21, 2010 3:13 PM GMT


    Definitely a form of cheating, and definitely not conducive to a long term stable relationship.

    I would go mental if my bf was doing it, but luckily I know he wouldn't
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    Dec 21, 2010 3:18 PM GMT
    meninlove said OK, so still no one is saying if this is social camming or sexual.

    Which is it? lol!

    -Doug


    The OP said "Camming sometimes takes other forms more than chat", so I'm guessing that means the occasional game of "you show me yours I'll show you mine". icon_eek.gif

    As for my opinion, like with many others, it all depends on the parties invloved in the relationship. Be honest. If the guy you're dating is cool with it, have fun! If the guy you're dating has a problem with it, you should probably think about which is more important: a potential partner or camming with guys you'll never meet.

    It's better to be upfront and honest about it then risk getting caught in the act. You won't have to hide anything, and he won't feel lied to or betrayed.

  • Mikeylikesit

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    Dec 21, 2010 3:20 PM GMT
    Is Jerking off considered cheating too???.....icon_eek.gificon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 21, 2010 3:24 PM GMT
    ManVaKar said
    meninlove said OK, so still no one is saying if this is social camming or sexual.

    Which is it? lol!

    -Doug


    The OP said "Camming sometimes takes other forms more than chat", so I'm guessing that means the occasional game of "you show me yours I'll show you mine". icon_eek.gif

    As for my opinion, like with many others, it all depends on the parties invloved in the relationship. Be honest. If the guy you're dating is cool with it, have fun! If the guy you're dating has a problem with it, you should probably think about which is more important: a potential partner or camming with guys you'll never meet.

    It's better to be upfront and honest about it then risk getting caught in the act. You won't have to hide anything, and he won't feel lied to or betrayed.



    Thanks ManKaVar!

    And this, then, is right to the point:

    " If the guy you're dating has a problem with it, you should probably think about which is more important: a potential partner or camming with guys you'll never meet. "

    -Doug
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    Dec 21, 2010 3:25 PM GMT
    Mikeylikesit saidIs Jerking off considered cheating too???.....icon_eek.gificon_biggrin.gif


    "jerking off" online in front of another person on Cam?

    Or on your own.

    1: Yes
    2: No
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    Dec 22, 2010 2:02 AM GMT
    Thisuserexists said
    Mikeylikesit saidIs Jerking off considered cheating too???.....icon_eek.gificon_biggrin.gif


    "jerking off" online in front of another person on Cam?

    Or on your own.

    1: Yes
    2: No


    I somehow agree with this. Why do you need camming alone when you are in a relationship?
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    Dec 22, 2010 2:56 AM GMT
    I am not in a relationship, it was just the discussion we had as to further dating potential. And when I laid my cards on the table and gave him the info (I didnt' go into graphic detail--but yes some of the "camming round the world" does involved cyber-sex) he said it was a problem.
    I respect his up-front ability to forsee something that would make him uncomforable. We are still friends and it has become a running joke when I don't get back to him right away, he thinks i'm cam whoring ! LOL

    The internet, camming, cyber chat, sex texting, etc. has put a whole new spin on what is considered infidelity.
  • mybud

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    Dec 22, 2010 3:06 AM GMT
    I view it as harmless fun....If there's trust between you and your partner some guy over the net isn't going to harm what you have as a couple....BUD
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    Dec 22, 2010 3:11 AM GMT
    just set ground rules first! i caught my bf on a site for camming n gave him shit for it, but eventually i gave in. it works both ways, i just dont want it leaving the PC