Merry Christmas Mom & Dad, and by the way...................

  • Joeyphx444

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    Dec 20, 2010 12:09 AM GMT
    I am gay icon_razz.gif

    I am going back home for a few weeks and I am thinking of telling my parents

    I am 21 now and I think it is time. I have known all through High School that I liked guys.

    Should I just tell them like, I am gay or sit them down or tell it subtly?
  • mizu5

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    Dec 20, 2010 12:10 AM GMT
    just say it. no subtle. the end result is the same.

    when tit comes to tat they'll know your a fag.
  • rnch

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    Dec 20, 2010 12:11 AM GMT
    su-prise! they prolly know.

    i'd wait until/if they ask you.
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    Dec 20, 2010 12:14 AM GMT
    you're independent now a man no longer a boy, tell them the way you think is best. Oh and good luck doubt you'll need it though.
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    Dec 20, 2010 12:32 AM GMT
    jprichva saidThere's always the classic approach:

    "Mom, Dad, I have something to tell you,."
    "What is it, dear?"
    "I have cancer."

    [Mom and Dad faint.]

    "Kidding. No cancer. I'm gay."
    "Whew, darling, you had us going," Mom wheezes.


    LMGFAO......icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
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    Dec 20, 2010 2:56 AM GMT
    Just don't write about your boyfriend in your blog the night before you do it.

    Let's just say my mom was forewarned....by a day. icon_eek.gif
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    Dec 20, 2010 3:00 AM GMT
    Walk in the door.

    Say "Merry Christmas, I'm gay!"
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    Dec 20, 2010 3:08 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidWalk in the door.

    Say "Merry Christmas, I'm gay!"


    Paul, you are one of my favorite posters.. Crack me up icon_smile.gif

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    Dec 20, 2010 3:36 AM GMT
    Mommy,
    Daddy,

    I am terminally ill........

    I am a butt fucker!

  • Space_Cowboy_...

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    Dec 20, 2010 3:38 AM GMT
    Mystic_Man saidMommy,
    Daddy,

    I am terminally ill........

    I am a butt fucker!



    ;) now mystic.. he is the butt that is being fucked so he has to say mom dad I''m ill I've got cock in my ass ;)
  • Space_Cowboy_...

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    Dec 20, 2010 3:40 AM GMT
    and sorry I was just being a skeeze, but YAY for you I'm excited good luck and remember its for the best you'll be a better person icon_smile.gif a happier person
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    Dec 20, 2010 3:49 AM GMT
    I plan on doing the same thing icon_smile.gif. I'm pretty positive they have no clue or else my dad wouldn't use the language he uses. I plan to not do it too close to Christmas though just so I won't steal the holiday's thunder or make things awkward during such a family oriented/spiritual holiday.

    Good luck!
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    Dec 20, 2010 4:04 AM GMT
    PotatoPotato saidI plan on doing the same thing icon_smile.gif. I'm pretty positive they have no clue or else my dad wouldn't use the language he uses. I plan to not do it too close to Christmas though just so I won't steal the holiday's thunder or make things awkward during such a family oriented/spiritual holiday.

    Good luck!


    you'll see how fast the fag jokes disappear once they have a son who is gay...in a lot of cases, they're the first to the defence line.....Keithicon_cool.gif
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    Dec 20, 2010 5:54 AM GMT
    Good luck to ya both.

    But, to the OP. Since you asked . . . I have never known a single person who wanted to beat around the bush when there was big news in the offing. Everyone just wants to know, flat out. Just say it. And realize that your parents may need some time to process it. They may lash out b/c they're confused and don't know HOW to react.

    And both of you, please let us know how it goes.

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    Dec 20, 2010 6:44 AM GMT
    rnch saidi'd wait until/if they ask you.


    I've been trying this approach myself, but I'm 26 now and I've never had a girlfriend and yet they've still never once asked. icon_rolleyes.gif

    If you want them to know, tell them. Don't wait for them to make the first move or you could be waiting for a long, long time.
  • gumbosolo

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    Dec 20, 2010 6:50 AM GMT
    Good for you. One suggestion: save it for the last couple days of your visit, so you have some time to talk to them if that's what they want, but so you can also leave early and give them some space if that's what they need. Most people have very little control over their visceral responses to unexpected news, so it's best to prepare for multiple eventualities.

    Good luck, and I hope this is a holiday you look back on with fondness and relief for the rest of your life.
  • Joeyphx444

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    Dec 21, 2010 8:37 PM GMT
    thanks guys lol

    I think I will wait until after xmas
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    Dec 21, 2010 8:56 PM GMT
    Just wait a min,

    Before you come out think of all possible scenarios from best to worst...do you depend on your parents financially? If the worst case scenario happens will you be ok?

    My story....When I told my parents I wasn't thinking. They reacted almost my worst scenario. It was during grad school..I depended on them..they owned my car, health, dental, vision ins, cell phone, my heart, student loans..I should have freed myself from dependency first...
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    Dec 21, 2010 8:58 PM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor said187644_594328.jpg
    I'm thinking,, just show up wearing these contacts and you won't have to tell them...icon_eek.gif
    jk!

    kids, just say NO to photoshop.
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    Dec 21, 2010 9:11 PM GMT
    Jmuscle33 saidthanks guys lol

    I think I will wait until after xmas


    Definitely a good idea. You don't want it to be awkward or to be the center of attention on Christmas day, especially if any extended family will be around. And PFLAG says that with added holiday stress, parents sometimes don't react the same as they would at a more relaxed time of year.
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    Dec 21, 2010 9:35 PM GMT
    djshowdown2 said

    Definitely a good idea. You don't want it to be awkward or to be the center of attention on Christmas day, especially if any extended family will be around. And PFLAG says that with added holiday stress, parents sometimes don't react the same as they would at a more relaxed time of year.


    Q F fucking TRUTH!!
    My young buddy decided to be the center of attention and come out to his family at Christmas.
    To this day, his parents have a resentment about the timing of it all. They support him and his life but still...I've heard veiled references such as "I wonder what Timmy will do to upset everyone this year...."
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  • Joeyphx444

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    Dec 30, 2010 3:34 AM GMT
    I think I might tell them separately, but not one like on Friday and the other in 2 yrs lol

  • monet

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    Dec 30, 2010 3:39 AM GMT
    Wear this button on your shirt:

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