How many of you are out? Totally? Partially like friends/family? not at all

  • HotCoach

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    Mar 20, 2008 10:31 PM GMT
    Just friends and family so far but I'm working on the bigger step.
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    Mar 20, 2008 10:34 PM GMT
    no one knows i'm gay.
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    Mar 20, 2008 10:44 PM GMT
    dancerjack saidno one knows i'm gay.

    I do.


    Every guy I've ever slept with knows I'm gay. Everyone I've told knows I'm gay.

    And HotCoach, friends and family, in my experience, are the bigger/biggest step. icon_wink.gif
  • ShawnTX

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    Mar 20, 2008 10:45 PM GMT
    Totally out since 15.
  • TallGWMvballe...

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    Mar 20, 2008 10:48 PM GMT
    Coming out to my parents (at 25) was tough but ever since i am out to everybody and better off for it.
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    Mar 20, 2008 11:15 PM GMT
    HotCoach saidJust friends and family so far but I'm working on the bigger step.


    All my life. I knew I was going to grow up to be a fag. The pain of it all. It is something I have never lied about, yet something I don't force on people. One dose not mince, when they walk, or squeak, when they talk. So it's not out there. But one point blank refuses to live a lie, just to appease others! As it was the way one was born, and one never had a choice on this issue of sexuality; I feel no shame. Nor proud of the community ( as a whole), one is meant to belong to.
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    Mar 20, 2008 11:47 PM GMT
    i'm fully out back home. working on the school friends. but word travels fast at a small institution like mine so i'm just trying to tell my close friends personally before they find out from someone i don't like.
  • Squarejaw

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    Mar 20, 2008 11:53 PM GMT
    I'm so out I'm surprised when people don't know (even when I haven't told them). It comes from having a mindset of "Everyone in my life knows I'm gay" for years and years.
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    Mar 20, 2008 11:58 PM GMT
    I am out. But I dont go around saying "Hello, I am gay."

    I still image that most people can tell that I am gay, tho.
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    Mar 20, 2008 11:58 PM GMT
    zdrew is gay? wtf? I thought you were just here for the workout tips.

    I'm out to you guys...at least the guys I've unlocked for...and the guys I've taken into my tent...and one guy who works at the spa at the Mandalay Bay in Las Vegas(shout out to KYLE! WHATS UP, MAN!?!?)
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    Mar 21, 2008 12:06 AM GMT
    Fully out to family, friends, and those who are curious enough to ask but I'm not an advertiser of my status. I'm always surprised by how many people come up to me and say "I had no idea you were gay" and are surprised by it. The best line I ever heard was when my friend said to me "I honesty forgot you were gay otherwise I would never have tried to hook you up with hat girl."

    That was a priceless moment for when he said it and it happens quite frequently when I don't annouce my status.
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    Mar 21, 2008 12:10 AM GMT
    Most of my friends know. There are a few that I am holding off on. None of my family knows. Im waiting for the right time to tell my brother before I tell the whole family.
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    Mar 21, 2008 12:15 AM GMT
    tommysguns2000 saidzdrew is gay? wtf? I thought you were just here for the workout tips.

    I'm out to you guys...at least the guys I've unlocked for...and the guys I've taken into my tent...and one guy who works at the spa at the Mandalay Bay in Las Vegas(shout out to KYLE! WHATS UP, MAN!?!?)


    Sshhhh! I'm not really gay, tommy. I just say I am to get guys to sleep with me. Don't tell no one...


    The thing that always blows my mind is that my parents, the two people who have known me the longest and really really shoulda picked up on it...were the most shocked that I was gay. And also, sadly, the only people in my life who were not accepting of it.
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    Mar 21, 2008 12:24 AM GMT
    Bummer Zdrew.

    I got lucky with my parents. THEY came up and asked me if I was gay and I told them yes. They just looked at each other and "Ok son, as long as you're happy and safe." They caught me by surprise. Another priceless moment. I was 16 years old at the time and a milbrat. I thought for sure my parents were ship me off somewhere but oddly enough they embraced it and i didn't get any special treatment or favors. I was treated like a normal person.

    The only people I even cared about knowing was my parents and once that weight was lifted off me it became much easier for me.
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    Mar 21, 2008 12:25 AM GMT
    Guy101 -

    That is pretty damn cool. Your parents rock.
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    Mar 21, 2008 12:28 AM GMT
    Hell yeah they are. They're the kind of parents that make kids feel comfortable about themselfves and don't judge people carelessly.

    You'd like them for sure. They'd make you feel welcomed and proud to be gay.
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    Mar 21, 2008 12:28 AM GMT
    zdrew78 said
    The thing that always blows my mind is that my parents, the two people who have known me the longest and really really shoulda picked up on it...were the most shocked that I was gay. And also, sadly, the only people in my life who were not accepting of it.


    Oh come here, zdrew. Put your head on my shoulder. Let me give you a little hug, gentle stroking, playful grap, good natured grope, ...tongue ...finger ...bend over bitch you are a hurt boy and need comforting!

    *whew*

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    Mar 21, 2008 12:30 AM GMT
    WOW. That's some agressive lovin' there Carlson.
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    Mar 21, 2008 12:30 AM GMT
    out when i was 16...and never went back in...

    btw, can someone go back "in the closet"?
    WTF...my freind claims to be in the closet now..although everyone knows he is gay, because he was out
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    Mar 21, 2008 12:31 AM GMT
    Pattison saidNor proud of the community ( as a whole), one is meant to belong to.


    How nice for you. Then what are you doing here?
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    Mar 21, 2008 12:32 AM GMT
    my parents offered me a gay mitzvah because they never gave me a bar mitzvah. they we're lying. by gay mitzvah, they meant "go to the basement and get another bottle of wine"

    next day my dad also mentioned how hopefully i'll find a good guy and settle down... he's a cheese ball.

    my sister was all angry at me, cuz i
    1) still don't have a good fashion sense
    2) told her over the phone
    and 3) now even MORE pressure is gonna be on her and her live-in boyfriend for grandkids.

    now i get to finish school, come home openly gay, and share a wall with my parents bedroom.... oy.
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    Mar 21, 2008 12:33 AM GMT
    I don't have a rainbow flag or bumper sticker, but out to the people that I knew would be comfortable with it. The rest... just doesn't matter. If asked (if they have the guts to ask), won't deny it. Sexual orientation may be a problem for some, but not a priority for me. Nothing to hide, but you won't see it on a billboard on the interstateicon_wink.gif
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    Mar 21, 2008 12:33 AM GMT
    That's a hard one, Moudi.

    I think you can go back in the closet but if too many people already now then you'd have to move somewhere where they don't know you.

    You can be full blow out and then get that "reclusive bug" and go hermit avoiding people and being ubberly discreet again. When one does this they hope people will forget them in time. This tactic only works best though if you move away.
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    Mar 21, 2008 12:36 AM GMT
    Moudi saidbtw, can someone go back "in the closet"?


    Well, yeah, I spent years working on Wall Street, which is the most homophobic place in the country, right up there with pro football. And I know guys who were out before they started trading, and then went back in the closet at work since they knew they would be given a hard time.

    The traders on the floor were basically overpaid, overgrown juveniles who thought it was still funny to tape signs to peoples' backs. One day a schlumpp that no one liked particularly walked around the trading floor all day with a sign reading, "Even though my ass is bleeding, I still crave more cock."

    I was out there nonetheless, but I can understand anyone who didn't want to be.
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    Mar 21, 2008 12:44 AM GMT
    Guy101 saidWOW. That's some agressive lovin' there Carlson.


    Hey I am old per ShawnTO. I dont have enough time left to be wooing.

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