So the hard part, I'm not feminine at all. I'm not flaming, can't talk about fashion, or the "stereotypical" gay of "hey guuurl", or fab-u-lous and etc. I think chicks open up a lot quicker to the stereotypical gay guys because they're obviously gay, and obviously wouldn't want to sleep with them... girls let their guard down around those type of gay guys more so than a masculine gay guy that approaches them first at a bar.
I tried it once, and the girls just thought I was trying to pick them up.. once I sensed that they thought that, I said something pretty gay, gay-d it up and flicked my wrist in an attempt to salvage the situation so they would obvisouly know i was gay. It worked, but the girls ended up leaving the bar later.
I wouldn't want to be feminine to help wingman for my buddies, cause it's not me at all. But I do wanna be a good bud and a good wingman.
Any recommendations on how to approach a girl at a bar, be a wingman, but not be feminine to assure the girl that I'm gay?