What does this seem like to you?

  • coolarmydude

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    Dec 22, 2010 7:53 PM GMT
    There is a guy in my unit that I am attracted to. We get along really well and talk about different things with other peers.

    We just deployed to Afghanistan within the last few weeks. One day, four of us were on a rooftop, smoking cigars. Someone in the group mentioned that it hadn't even been a week in country and they were already horny and wondered how they were going to make it through the deployment with no sex. Conversation ensued and there was talk of getting fleshlights or pocket pussies. At the end of the conversation, the guy that I am attracted to said nonchalantly that it's okay to get a little dick if you're deployed. icon_eek.gificon_biggrin.gif No one said anything after that and that was the end of the sex talk, without any expressions of disdain from anyone.

    So I started mildly flirting with this guy and he did the same thing, but there was never anything definitive. Some days later, it was just me and him on the rooftop smoking cigars, and I started talking about jerking off and horniness in order to see what would come from that conversation. He didn't really pick up with the conversation and that was pretty much it for the sex talk.

    The other day, four of us were in line for chow and someone was talking about our unit leadership getting rid of the small massage parlor on our camp. I then told the guy that I'm attracted to that if they did that (he was in front of me-the others to my back), that he was going to have to pick up giving me the massage. I was half-joking and half-hinting at him, but not expecting a response. Well, there was about a 4-5 second pause after I said that and he said to be careful what I wish for. icon_eek.gificon_biggrin.gif OMG! I was so not expecting that! So after dinner, when I was alone, I thought about the event and realized that he had to be dropping a hint back at me.

    So later that night, I discreetly taped a message on his door:

    if you want that private conversation...

    challenge: raspberry
    password: corvette

    confidentiality assured

    Now for those of you who don't know what the challenge and password is about, one person would use the challenge word in a sentence and the other would reply using the password in a sentence. This would identify each other as "friendly". (It's a widely used concept in military guard duty).

    The next day he was sick, so I didn't see him much. Today, I also didn't see him around much. So I'm wondering what to expect next. Friday, my unit is observing Christmas with planned activities and a minimal operational staff. I'm figuring it's a no-go if I don't hear from him by Friday.

    What does this seem like to you?
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    Dec 22, 2010 9:16 PM GMT
    Seems like he's maybe thinking about it or is still unsure... Because when you guys were alone he did not mention anything about having any type of sexual activity with a guy... When he dropped his first and second hint was it really directed at you? After getting the note he should have responded by now... Wait patiently after Xmas if you don't get a response then move on.
  • coolarmydude

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    Dec 22, 2010 9:30 PM GMT
    dragondevil saidSeems like he's maybe thinking about it or is still unsure... Because when you guys were alone he did not mention anything about having any type of sexual activity with a guy... When he dropped his first and second hint was it really directed at you? After getting the note he should have responded by now... Wait patiently after Xmas if you don't get a response then move on.


    You summed up what I'm thinking in a nutshell. I think he's trying to sort out his issues. He's likely bisexual, favoring women more.

    He and I had talked about starting a business together (before I gave the note), in the distant future. I just hope I didn't create an uncomfortable or awkward situation for him. That would suck. Whether he's into or not, I think he will try to talk about it, maybe to at least have a confidant.
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    Dec 22, 2010 9:56 PM GMT
    Don't assume if he is bi... Based on what you wrote he's mainly curious and isn't sure if he can go through with it or not... If he's got your note he knows your interested and you will soon find out if he does go through with the challenge or not... Just don't have any expectations.
  • Nayro

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    Dec 22, 2010 11:59 PM GMT
    Let us know how it ends!! It's just like a cliffhanger!icon_razz.gif
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    Dec 23, 2010 12:05 AM GMT
    Interesting...

    That's the first I've heard of using using a "challenge" word for being friendly.

    Hope you get what you want out the deal.
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    Dec 23, 2010 1:33 AM GMT
    Be careful....when i was in the Force i had the same sit with a married guy who was always fucking around and coming on to me and flirting. But when push came to shove, he not only backed up, he excommunicated me.

    He may very well be sexually diverse, but that doesn't mean he is willing to act on it, display it or do anything other than what he is doing....especially in the confines of a war zone. One thing to sit in the car, totally another to actually drive it..............................................Keith
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    Dec 23, 2010 1:38 AM GMT
    coolarmydude saidWhat does this seem like to you?
    The beginning of a beautiful relationship.
    Or at least the possibility of getting some dick.
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    Dec 23, 2010 2:36 AM GMT
    coolarmydude saidThere is a guy in my unit that I am attracted to. We get along really well and talk about different things with other peers.

    We just deployed to Afghanistan within the last few weeks. One day, four of us were on a rooftop, smoking cigars. Someone in the group mentioned that it hadn't even been a week in country and they were already horny and wondered how they were going to make it through the deployment with no sex. Conversation ensued and there was talk of getting fleshlights or pocket pussies. At the end of the conversation, the guy that I am attracted to said nonchalantly that it's okay to get a little dick if you're deployed. icon_eek.gificon_biggrin.gif No one said anything after that and that was the end of the sex talk, without .......


    What does this seem like to you?


    Trouble
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    Dec 23, 2010 4:09 AM GMT
    vetteset said

    He may very well be sexually diverse, but that doesn't mean he is willing to act on it, display it or do anything other than what he is doing....especially in the confines of a war zone. One thing to sit in the car, totally another to actually drive it..............................................Keith


    This is good.... real good.
  • mybud

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    Dec 23, 2010 4:44 AM GMT
    Sounds like to me you've pinned your hopes on something that may not happen...Also sounds like this dude will get drunk with ya one night....he'll fuck ya...I next day you receive the..."but I was drunk speech".....If that's cool with ya....By all means go for it....
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    Dec 23, 2010 4:55 AM GMT
    I'm loving the challenge/password idea. Definitely have to use that.
  • Karllllp

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    Dec 24, 2010 7:39 AM GMT
    He wants dick... but just maybe not yours? Just saying... Otherwise he would have done something by now...
  • coolarmydude

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    Dec 25, 2010 8:26 AM GMT
    So it's a few days later from my original post. Nothing has happened. We haven't had that conversation.

    There were some occasions in which we were passing each other, and both of us had shifty eyes, looking away like we knew something about each other and didn't want to give away the secret to each other. It was awkward, but reassuring because I really do believe he might be bisexual, but is trying to deal with it on his own terms. Perhaps he's on guard about it altogether, especially since he figures that I picked up on it and wonders who else might be picking up on it.

    I'm not going to push it further than where it is now. If it eventually comes up, then so be it. Nevertheless, he's a really good guy, worthy of true friendship.
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    Dec 25, 2010 8:14 PM GMT
    coolarmydude said

    I'm not going to push it further than where it is now. If it eventually comes up, then so be it. Nevertheless, he's a really good guy, worthy of true friendship.



    This is the best thing you can do... just be that, and everything will fall into place... Just when being friends don't have any expectations... If it comes up again, then you need to start calling him on it...Let him bring it up...

    Word to the wise, don't assume he's bi...
  • LuckyGuyKC

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    Dec 25, 2010 8:51 PM GMT
    I think you have heard two things and I think they are both accurate. Based on his responses that you reported I think you are his plan C. Plan A is pussy, plan B is one of the other people in the original group of four cigar smokers, and you are plan C.

    Like Bud said, if you are cool with that then just wait patiently.
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    Dec 25, 2010 9:02 PM GMT
    OMG. PLEASE Update this thread when u experience more stuff!!!
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    Dec 25, 2010 10:07 PM GMT
    It's his move. Back off without appearing distant. Something will come of this...I can feel it.
  • Nayro

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    Dec 26, 2010 1:27 AM GMT
    luvitohateit saidOMG. PLEASE Update this thread when u experience more stuff!!!
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    +1
  • Space_Cowboy_...

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    Dec 26, 2010 1:33 AM GMT
    Hey dude if it doesn't get in the way of the mission go for it icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 26, 2010 1:50 AM GMT
    It sounds like one hell of a fan dance! Perhaps he is one of our faceless RJ members and recognised you.

    I am always happy to enjoy eye candy while on deployment, but I don't think I would take things any further. Then again, the opportunity has never presented itself and, if he was very hot and willing, who knows?. It's your call.

  • coolarmydude

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    Jan 15, 2011 2:45 PM GMT
    A few days ago, we had a long conversation about micro-brewed beers and the art/craft of home brewing.

    He happened to mention raspberry hefeweizen as some bizarre idea for a brew recipe.

    I didn't take it as a hint towards the challenge and password. We were too deep in talking beer for that to come out.
  • mke_bt

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    Jan 15, 2011 3:11 PM GMT
    coolarmydude saidA few days ago, we had a long conversation about micro-brewed beers and the art/craft of home brewing.

    He happened to mention raspberry hefeweizen as some bizarre idea for a brew recipe.

    I didn't take it as a hint towards the challenge and password. We were too deep in talking beer for that to come out.


    I think you missed the opportunity to use your password. Considering he used it in the context of some bizarre idea for a brew recipe I don't think it was just coincidental.
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    Jan 15, 2011 3:40 PM GMT
    coolarmydude saidA few days ago, we had a long conversation about micro-brewed beers and the art/craft of home brewing.

    He happened to mention raspberry hefeweizen as some bizarre idea for a brew recipe.

    I didn't take it as a hint towards the challenge and password. We were too deep in talking beer for that to come out.


    Drop another hint. A little stronger this time and see how he responds.
  • jlly_rnchr

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    Jan 15, 2011 3:41 PM GMT
    Raspberry beer? That does seem kind of random. I think it was a clue, but hard to be sure.

    Here's my suggestion for your next conversation.


    You: What's your favorite Prince song?

    Him: Raspberry Beret.

    You: Nah, mine's Little Red Corvette.



    Everything's out in the open. His move!