Sleeping around phase in life

  • Nayro

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    Dec 23, 2010 1:22 AM GMT
    Hey,

    I was wondering if everyone has or had his whoring around phase. It seems like lots of people have a phase like that where they sleep around with almost every guy they can get. Have sex every day in the week. Now I haven't had a phase like that yet. Not really the opportunity either, is it still to come or do some guys just don't have it?


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  • masculumpedes

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    Dec 23, 2010 1:42 AM GMT
    It is my understanding that it usually takes place when a guy first becomes active in the gay lifestyle...going to gay clubs and bars and so on. I believe that there are times in everyone's life that they feel the need to go out and "prove" to themselves that they are still "desirable" to someone.

    My own phase was tame and I am certain that most would find it uninteresting as I cared more about having the chance to make gay friends rather than lovers or one-night stands....although there were a few of those also. icon_wink.gif
  • mcwclewis

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    Dec 23, 2010 1:48 AM GMT
    I came out at 16, I'm 25 now and I never had one.

    Like everything, it depends on the person.
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    Dec 23, 2010 1:49 AM GMT
    Who said it was just a phase? icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 23, 2010 1:50 AM GMT
    Nee, niet echt. Hoeft van mij op zich ook niet icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 23, 2010 2:01 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidWho said it was just a phase? icon_wink.gif


    Paul + phase = Lifestyle......................icon_lol.gif
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    Dec 23, 2010 2:12 AM GMT
    vetteset said
    paulflexes saidWho said it was just a phase? icon_wink.gif


    Paul + phase = Lifestyle......................icon_lol.gif
    You know you like it, bitch.
    *slaps yer ass*
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    Dec 23, 2010 2:14 AM GMT
    uh huh, uh huh uh huh, uh huh...................(think tune, That's the Way, uh huh, uh huh, I like It, Uh huh, Uh huh)................................icon_lol.gif
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    Dec 23, 2010 2:15 AM GMT
    vetteset saiduh huh, uh huh uh huh, uh huh...................(think tune, That's the Way, uh huh, uh huh, I like It, Uh huh, Uh huh)................................icon_lol.gif
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    Dec 23, 2010 2:21 AM GMT
    Yes, I had a phase and I did with only AOL...everyday? mostly and at least twice on Friday...Up hill in the snow, both ways.
    I think If I had Grinder or craigslist back then...I don't want to think about it.
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    Dec 23, 2010 8:11 AM GMT
    I had a period of time where I was thinking about that back when I was 18. Would I consider it now... probably, but first I need to get some things done first. I feel like its going to be a phase I'll go through eventually I just need to make sure to find safe guys you know icon_razz.gif
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    Dec 23, 2010 8:24 AM GMT
    my opportunity for this phase is now. i'm so shy though. my problem but sleeping around may just not be for me.
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    Dec 23, 2010 8:29 AM GMT
    I went through this phase when I finally stopped trying to suppress my sexuality. I was 24 at the time. I made up for my lost years, and now things have slowed down... for the time being.
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    Dec 23, 2010 8:32 AM GMT
    It seems to be common that most people go through a phase like this.

    I have yet to hit that phase but I also don't think I will.
  • Nayro

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    Dec 24, 2010 12:55 AM GMT
    I kinda have the feeling I miss something if I wouldn't do it though icon_razz.gif
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    Dec 24, 2010 1:02 AM GMT
    I went through an experimental stage where I just slept with anyone, guys or girls, just to see what I was interested in. I always knew I was gay but I suppose I just wanted to make sure. I was in the closet most of my life and basically grew up in a church, so I think that added to my promiscuity.
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    Dec 24, 2010 1:08 AM GMT
    I haven't gotten to that phase yet... Am I missing out.
  • NerdLifter

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    Dec 24, 2010 1:26 AM GMT
    I came out when I was 20, I've never had that "phase." It's a myth that all gay guys (and people in general) go through this sexually promiscuous phase. Certainly some do, but it's not everyone's cup of tea.

    When it does happen, it usually occurs after a guy finally comes to terms with his sexuality. I've seen and heard it happen to a lot of men, and I will not lie and say I didn't feel extremely horny after I finally stopped repressing myself. But sleeping around just wasn't my thing. Didn't help that the DC area has the highest STD infection rate of the nation, so fear certainly was a component.
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    Dec 24, 2010 1:41 AM GMT
    when I first came out, in fact the week I did, it was a different guy a night. What got me to stop was the emotional attachment and the empty feeling it gives you when you just find someone for just sex. In my experience, there are just so many sexual conquests you can have before reaching a point of boredom, absent anything else (like doing it with someone you get to know, like, or care about).
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    Dec 24, 2010 1:49 AM GMT
    I don't know if everyone has one but I did. And honestly, compared to a lot of guys, even in their not so whore-ing phase, it wasn't that bad. But I had some one night stands (numbering in the single digits) and even don't remember some of their names, I don't even know if I got some of their names in the first place. It happened in college when I was like 20 and 21.

    But anyways, it just feels empty and honestly, I am scared shitless of STDs. About 6 or so months after my last one night stand, I went and got tested and when everything came back negative, I told myself that meaningless hookups weren't my thing and that I would not do them again. That was about a year ago and I haven't waivered since! I now reserve sex for those that I at least like. I am not some prude that has to love someone to have sex, but I want to at least have a chance for something more.

    P.S. I don't think there is anything wrong with meaningless sex and one night stands, but it just isn't for me.
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    Dec 24, 2010 3:01 AM GMT
    ...promiscuity is like following the same routine everyday.
    Some people don't feel the need to progress in their lives, others want to evolve.
  • setter15

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    Dec 24, 2010 3:08 AM GMT
    i almost go in cycles... rather weird. but there are times i find myself hooking up more and others were i'm content with just not having any. i think it's more normal that what i'm thinking
  • Timbales

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    Dec 24, 2010 3:22 AM GMT
    never had one
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    Apr 17, 2012 3:04 PM GMT
    Studinprogress saidI came out when I was 20, I've never had that "phase." It's a myth that all gay guys (and people in general) go through this sexually promiscuous phase. Certainly some do, but it's not everyone's cup of tea.

    When it does happen, it usually occurs after a guy finally comes to terms with his sexuality. I've seen and heard it happen to a lot of men, and I will not lie and say I didn't feel extremely horny after I finally stopped repressing myself. But sleeping around just wasn't my thing. Didn't help that the DC area has the highest STD infection rate of the nation, so fear certainly was a component.


    I'm a slut in my mind but in execution I don't play it out well. Something about sleeping around without attachment just leaves me feeling empty.

    Weirdest thing is that when I'm with someone, that's when I want to boink everybody else. But then I come back to the inherent emptiness. So I'll admire others from afar and boink the hell out of the guy I'm with. He'll be a happy sore camper.