22 yo with ED, am I the only guy here

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    Dec 23, 2010 3:21 PM GMT
    Hey guys,
    Im new to the site, people look amazing so I know Im in the rite place. Okay I'm 22 yo fit guy but I have a problem. I cant keep my erection without looking porn. Am I alone or some of u experience similar things?
    Short story in long:
    The whole thing started this summer, I lost my ability to get erection prior to sex, it is really annoying. I can get erection with porn but I guess thats the whole point. Im bisexual, before looking straight porn I was looking naked guys in the beach when I was young but also I fancied girls and had a great relationship with this girl. We were having sex nearly everyday whenever we want but after this broke up I started to watch porn a lot, some of u can understand I guess, I was alone. And the more I spend time on internet porn, the more hard core stuff I fancied and watched rough gay and straight porn. Then I had another relationship with another girl, bam! I was unable to penetrate her, so we broke up and I now Im dating with this guy, he is so kind and patient. In summer I was not able to get erected but now even Im better thanks to deleting all the porn I had still my erections die quite soon.
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    Dec 23, 2010 10:45 PM GMT
    Become an adult content producer. Problem solved. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 24, 2010 8:07 AM GMT
    I swear almost every other thread is started by someone who is posting for the first time on RJ.
  • mynyun

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    Dec 24, 2010 8:20 AM GMT

    I applaud new blood coming in and giving us something fresh to talk about rather than some of the same stuff I see over and over.

    There are different factors as to why you lose your erection. I guess once you figure that out then you can take steps to prevent it or find erection assistance.
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    Dec 24, 2010 8:24 AM GMT
    I read this article about this new disorder called Sex Attention Deficit Diisorder(SADD). No joke! Apparently its caused by being conditioned to get turned on by too much porn, the brain is unable to switch from that stimulus to real sex.
    Good thing you now have a patient partner; he will be able to help you get hard from real physical and emotional pleasure. And use your imaginatuon. The best porn is in your head.
    If all else fails, sadly you may have to consider therapy.
    Good luck. icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 24, 2010 8:26 AM GMT
    toroman said
    Short story in long:



    To make a long story short you meant heheicon_smile.gif
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    Dec 24, 2010 8:33 AM GMT
    GigoloAssassin saidI read this article about this new disorder called Sex Attention Deficit Diisorder(SADD). No joke! Apparently its caused by being conditioned to get turned on by too much porn, the brain is unable to switch from that stimulus to real sex.
    Good thing you now have a patient partner; he will be able to help you get hard from real physical and emotional pleasure. And use your imaginatuon. The best porn is in your head.
    If all else fails, sadly you may have to consider therapy.
    Good luck. icon_wink.gif


    Good advice. I think lots of people have this problem with pron and making the switch to real life. First step: realize porn is FAKE. Guys don't fuck each other with the bottom in reverse cowgirl. It's not arousing for either partner in most cases...unless you have a mirror or something lol.
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    Dec 24, 2010 8:35 AM GMT
    Nothing wrong with first-time posters...

    Well, because of your age, it's probably a good bet to say that the cause of your ED is likely psychological (i.e. "performance anxiety." However, it's still important to rule out any physical problems (seeing your GP, or even a urologist if need be). Are you on any kinds of medications? Some drugs (anti-depressants, anti-diuretics, beta blockers, anti-histamines, and more) can lead to erectile dysfunction. Also, tobacco and alcohol both do constrict blood flow. It's important to reduce any stressors in your life, as well as living an active life style with frequent exercise, a whole-some diet, and adequate amounts of sleep. It's okay to experience ED from time-to-time, as we all do at some point; however, if it's getting to the point where it's affecting your sex life, then seeking professional help (therapy or medical treatment) is a good idea... Good luck!
  • calibro

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    Dec 24, 2010 8:40 AM GMT
    JAKEBENSON saidI swear almost every other thread is started by someone who is posting for the first time on RJ.


    yeah, it's called a fake profile
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    Dec 24, 2010 11:06 AM GMT
    ED? http://www.encyclopediadramatica.com/RealJock icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 24, 2010 12:12 PM GMT
    FearTheFall saidED? http://www.encyclopediadramatica.com/RealJock icon_biggrin.gif

    I think he meant erectile dysfunction
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    Dec 26, 2010 1:43 AM GMT
    bluey2223 said
    GigoloAssassin saidI read this article about this new disorder called Sex Attention Deficit Diisorder(SADD). No joke! Apparently its caused by being conditioned to get turned on by too much porn, the brain is unable to switch from that stimulus to real sex.
    Good thing you now have a patient partner; he will be able to help you get hard from real physical and emotional pleasure. And use your imaginatuon. The best porn is in your head.
    If all else fails, sadly you may have to consider therapy.
    Good luck. icon_wink.gif


    Good advice. I think lots of people have this problem with pron and making the switch to real life. First step: realize porn is FAKE. Guys don't fuck each other with the bottom in reverse cowgirl. It's not arousing for either partner in most cases...unless you have a mirror or something lol.


    I fucked this guy in reverse cowgirl recently. He was one of the best bottoms I've ever had! Unfortunately, things got messed up and that is no more.
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    Dec 26, 2010 1:58 AM GMT
    JAKEBENSON saidI swear almost every other thread is started by someone who is posting for the first time on RJ.


    Not only first time posters- but also brand-spanking-new accounts.

    navi_leinad said
    FearTheFall saidED? http://www.encyclopediadramatica.com/RealJock icon_biggrin.gif

    I think he meant erectile dysfunction


    He doesn't care what he meant- he was just trying to advertise.
  • TadPohl

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    Dec 26, 2010 2:05 AM GMT
    GigoloAssassin saidI read this article about this new disorder called Sex Attention Deficit Diisorder(SADD). No joke! Apparently its caused by being conditioned to get turned on by too much porn, the brain is unable to switch from that stimulus to real sex.
    Good thing you now have a patient partner; he will be able to help you get hard from real physical and emotional pleasure. And use your imaginatuon. The best porn is in your head.
    If all else fails, sadly you may have to consider therapy.
    Good luck. icon_wink.gif


    SADD is a real phenomenon. A person's brain becomes dependent on pornography to signal arousal. A lot of it can be explained with biopsychology.

    One solution is to give up porn and practice celibacy for a time. Your brain is amazing at rewiring itself to help you with your issue.

    Good luck!
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    Dec 26, 2010 11:00 AM GMT
    mynyun said
    I applaud new blood coming in


    So would the OP.
  • janu88

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    Dec 26, 2010 12:45 PM GMT
    I´m having ED problems aswell at the age of 22
    so i was lurking online
    and found this intresting discussion :

    http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Mens-Health/22-with-porn-induced-erectile-dysfunction/show/469209


    you should read it.


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    Dec 26, 2010 12:46 PM GMT
    This is hard for me to say.... I'm not a machine.... i need a lot of passion ie. kissing and just generally be right into the person before i have sex. The right magnetism and chemistry goes a long way..... of course if you meet a guys dad or he knows a family member it's bound to affect your mind and ultimately ruin the momemt. Porn can be addictive. Usually though if you aren't waking up in the morning hard there could be a problem. Google ED supplements or alternative therapies. Leg exercise, eating more raw broccoli and some tribulus supplements can boost libido. Also, by getting off at least every 3 days should keep your prostrate clean. But, you're not alone a lot of younger guys have this problem.... i sometimes wonder if it is true about the plastic in our world. Good luck with that.... and i know you can change things around. Work on it.
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    Dec 26, 2010 1:17 PM GMT
    It does not sound like a physiological problem, as it appears you were having no problems getting hard for porn.

    Porn idealises sex. There are no awkward or off-putting moments and no unusual tastes or smells. It is all very sanitised (literally and metaphorically). This can condition your expectations of sex. When the reality of sex falls short of your ideal, it can be disappointing and unstimulating. Take things slowly. You should probably avoid casual hook-ups. The guy you are dating sounds very understanding, which is good. Make it clear to guys from the outset that you are not into casual sex and you prefer a steady progression toward sex. Most guys cannot perform like a porn actor (and even porn actors use editorial and chemical tricks), so do not use them as a benchmark for sexual attainment.
  • ja89

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    Dec 26, 2010 1:34 PM GMT
    the last guy i dated had ED...i gotta say to me it's fun to see what i can do to him to make him get aroused and for a long period of time. A lot can be learned sexually if patient....A side note use your own fantasies to pleasure yourself rather than what they provide you on the internet.
  • janu88

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    Dec 26, 2010 1:38 PM GMT
    ja89 saidthe last guy i dated had ED...i gotta say to me it's fun to see what i can do to him to make him get aroused and for a long period of time. A lot can be learned sexually if patient....A side note use your own fantasies to pleasure yourself rather than what they provide you on the internet.


    totally agree, men have to use their imagination and fantasys... while masturbating...
    dont desensitize your cocks boys! icon_smile.gif
  • Leo123

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    Dec 26, 2010 2:02 PM GMT
    There's nothing wrong with you, you're just a bottom.
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    Dec 26, 2010 2:47 PM GMT
    Eat cantaloupe.
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    Dec 26, 2010 3:08 PM GMT
    Leo123 saidThere's nothing wrong with you, you're just a bottom.


    ^problem solved.
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    Dec 26, 2010 7:15 PM GMT
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    bluey2223 said
    GigoloAssassin saidI read this article about this new disorder called Sex Attention Deficit Diisorder(SADD). No joke! Apparently its caused by being conditioned to get turned on by too much porn, the brain is unable to switch from that stimulus to real sex.
    Good thing you now have a patient partner; he will be able to help you get hard from real physical and emotional pleasure. And use your imaginatuon. The best porn is in your head.
    If all else fails, sadly you may have to consider therapy.
    Good luck. icon_wink.gif


    Good advice. I think lots of people have this problem with pron and making the switch to real life. First step: realize porn is FAKE. Guys don't fuck each other with the bottom in reverse cowgirl. It's not arousing for either partner in most cases...unless you have a mirror or something lol.


    I fucked this guy in reverse cowgirl recently. He was one of the best bottoms I've ever had! Unfortunately, things got messed up and that is no more.


    Amen to that! As a practitioner myself, I don't know why he's hating on that position.
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    Dec 26, 2010 7:23 PM GMT
    bluey2223 said
    Guys don't fuck each other with the bottom in reverse cowgirl. It's not arousing for either partner in most cases...unless you have a mirror or something lol.



    I strongly disagree with THAT haha