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    Dec 26, 2010 6:07 PM GMT
    I'm on the ellip. 2 machines down there's a woman inning frantically. She looks Anorexic. Srsly. Not just me noticing. Should I say something?
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    Dec 26, 2010 6:29 PM GMT
    is she any of your business? it's her life.
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    Dec 26, 2010 6:30 PM GMT
    I'd recommend mentioning it to the fitness staff. They can approach her diplomatically - asking about her program, making recommendations.
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    Dec 26, 2010 6:41 PM GMT
    Not unless you know her in another context.

    There was a girl at my gym who was obviously an exercise anorexic (she would do the stairmaster for 90 minutes) and I understand how you feel but it's not for us to say.
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    Dec 26, 2010 7:51 PM GMT
    It's funny...everyone always says "its not my place to interfere" but then after the person turns up dead it changes to "Why didn't anybody say something?"



    Just my $0.02.
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    Dec 26, 2010 8:14 PM GMT
    Caslon17000 saidI'm on the ellip. 2 machines down there's a woman inning frantically. She looks Anorexic. Srsly. Not just me noticing. Should I say something?

    What does inning frantically mean?
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    Dec 26, 2010 8:26 PM GMT
    If I feel concerned, I would say something and try to be as polite and friendly as possible. I think we have lost the sense of living in a community and looking after each other ever since the concept of "it's their life, it's none of your business" has caught on. Personal space is one thing, blatantly overlooking someone's misery is ignorance.

    some day, we are going to see a helpless dying man and walk away since it's none of our business.
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    Dec 26, 2010 8:33 PM GMT
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    Caslon17000 saidI'm on the ellip. 2 machines down there's a woman inning frantically. She looks Anorexic. Srsly. Not just me noticing. Should I say something?

    What does inning frantically mean?

    inning = running
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    Dec 26, 2010 8:38 PM GMT
    Well, when I first saw her she reminded me of the squirrel-like creature in Ice Age, running after an acorn! Srsly!

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    Dec 26, 2010 8:45 PM GMT
    Caslon17000 said
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    Caslon17000 saidI'm on the ellip. 2 machines down there's a woman inning frantically. She looks Anorexic. Srsly. Not just me noticing. Should I say something?

    What does inning frantically mean?

    inning = running



    why do some excessively thin people do hours of carido is still a mystery to me
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    Dec 26, 2010 9:10 PM GMT
    why do people with fat issues think cardio exists only to get thin.
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    Dec 26, 2010 10:44 PM GMT
    xassantex saidwhy do people with fat issues think cardio exists only to get thin.
    Because that's why msot people who go to the gym do it. To burn fat. You, obviously, are not the norm. I'm talking university students, middle aged parents. They are the majority. They go to the gym to tone up a bit and lose weight. cardio to them = weightloss.
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    Dec 27, 2010 2:05 AM GMT
    General rule of thumb: Mind your own business. Unless their actions directly affect you in some way, let them be.
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    Dec 27, 2010 2:09 AM GMT
    Caslon17000 saidI'm on the ellip. 2 machines down there's a woman inning frantically. She looks Anorexic. Srsly. Not just me noticing. Should I say something?
    if you are not related to her or she is not a friend of hers than no you do not say anything to her. i work out at a gym and there are at least two ladies like that. one of them has a bf. i am like huh? what the fuck? anyhow, you do not say anything to her.
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    Dec 27, 2010 2:18 AM GMT
    xrichx saidGeneral rule of thumb: Mind your own business. Unless their actions directly affect you in some way, let them be.


    Right on the button....an also stop staring/looking. Those kind of people make me wanna eat something while I am running.
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    Dec 27, 2010 2:39 AM GMT
    Caslon17000 saidI'm on the ellip. 2 machines down there's a woman inning frantically. She looks Anorexic. Srsly. Not just me noticing. Should I say something?


    Just to throw this out there. If something about her gets to you in your gut (Sometimes with certain people you can just pick up their vibe and you understand and feel for them) maybe smile and make light conversation a.k.a. get to know her. Then you can ask her about her routine and diet. After that lightly suggest maybe seeing a nutritionist or therapist; this is a lot of work and the only reason you'd do all of this is because your a compassionate human being. You don't know her story maybe she just needs someone to tell her to seek help. It's easy to say let people live their lives and I agree for the most part, but everyone in life has had a situation where if someone offered a little guidance it would've been greatly appreciated, maybe even life changing.
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    Dec 27, 2010 3:55 AM GMT
    Thanks for all the advice, guys.

    Since she was only two machines away, I just shouted, "Bitch, eat a sandwich. You're freaking me out over here."

    And that's when I learned that anoretics are really strong when pissed off and those bones hurt!
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    Dec 27, 2010 4:06 AM GMT
    Caslon17000 saidI'm on the ellip. 2 machines down there's a woman inning frantically. She looks Anorexic. Srsly. Not just me noticing. Should I say something?


    good gracious man - you are at the gym and have time to post this message? what da hell
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    Dec 27, 2010 4:08 AM GMT
    xassantex saidis she any of your business? it's her life.


    That's what I say. Just leave her alone on top of her world looking down on creation.
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    Dec 27, 2010 4:21 AM GMT
    Caslon17000 saidI'm on the ellip. 2 machines down there's a woman inning frantically. She looks Anorexic. Srsly. Not just me noticing. Should I say something?


    None of your business, Caslon. Besides, you just don't know what her situation may be. She might be coming off of chemo, or have been in a prolonged hostage situation, or whatever.

    And, if you're going to take the advice of others here and approach her as a friend, then really be prepared to be her friend to the end. Otherwise, it's reaching out in trust to another person with the hidden agenda of delivering judgement. Bad karma. Very bad karma.
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    Dec 27, 2010 4:26 AM GMT
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    Caslon17000 saidI'm on the ellip. 2 machines down there's a woman inning frantically. She looks Anorexic. Srsly. Not just me noticing. Should I say something?


    None of your business, Caslon. Besides, you just don't know what her situation may be. She might be coming off of chemo, or have been in a prolonged hostage situation, or whatever.

    And, if you're going to take the advice of others here and approach her as a friend, then really be prepared to be her friend to the end. Otherwise, it's reaching out in trust to another person with the hidden agenda of delivering judgement. Bad karma. Very bad karma.


    Good point I didn't think of that. I still think friendly advice isn't a bad idea, but it definitely depends on the person.
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    Dec 27, 2010 4:30 AM GMT
    Caslon17000 saidI'm on the ellip. 2 machines down there's a woman inning frantically. She looks Anorexic. Srsly. Not just me noticing. Should I say something?


    You have a moral responsibility to help someone, if you can, but, in today's I,I,I society, lots of folks don't understand that and live in a world of I,I,I.

    It's a tough call. If you genuinely care, try to get to know her a bit first, and then ask a few questions. Based upon what you learn, you may, or may not, be able to provide guidance.

    To do nothing is wrong. That's why we have a health care pandemic in this country. We have 11 year old kids with type 2 diabetics because they have shitty, ignorant, lazy, parents, and NO ONE intervenes.

    While we can't save The World, we can help folks. You can't help someone, though, that is in denial, deluded, or doesn't want help.

    Apathy is why we have the heath care mess we have now. Folks NEED to step up, and intervene.

    If you care, MAKE IT YOUR BUSINESS to get to know her.

    Some folks lack good judgment, or are ignorant, or just need a helping hand. You don't know yet, about her, but, you could. Do some discovery first, and then decide what to do.

    Take the high road: step up, be a leader, learn about the person, and see if you can, or can't help.
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    Dec 27, 2010 4:33 AM GMT
    Cardinal724 saidIt's funny...everyone always says "its not my place to interfere" but then after the person turns up dead it changes to "Why didn't anybody say something?"

    Just my $0.02.


    We here that all the time after suicides.

    We have a higher responsibility to The Global Village to abate ignorance and to help where we can. To do nothing is incredibly selfish.
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    Dec 27, 2010 4:38 AM GMT
    Would you give the same advice to an alcoholic who you see at the bar?

    How about someone that you see that's high? Would you tell them that they can go to an AA/NA meeting for help?

    The bottom line, to me, is that a person has to make a personal choice to seek help. Whether it's over-eating, drinking, drug use, anorexia/bulimia, none of these people want to hear your advice. Nearly all people in these situations know that they have a serious problem, even a life threatening one. But, until they make the decision, a random stranger isn't going to do anything for them. In fact, it could just end up strengthening the cycle of shame that reinforces those behaviors.

    No. Say nothing.
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    Dec 27, 2010 5:26 AM GMT
    Caslon17000 saidThanks for all the advice, guys.

    Since she was only two machines away, I just shouted, "Bitch, eat a sandwich. You're freaking me out over here."

    And that's when I learned that anoretics are really strong when pissed off and those bones hurt!


    Dude that was a little uncalled for.

    People have the right to go about their business but at the same time we should be responsible humane citizen. You could have informed the staff and since its their duty to provide fitness advice, it would be wise for them to approach her.