Please...Help I need advice before noon today!

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    Dec 27, 2010 2:30 PM GMT
    Ok guys here it goes.

    I was seeing my boyfriend for 6 months now. Everything was going great until I fucked it up by lying to him about something (long story so let's not get into it). On december 11th he broke it off because he needed time to think about whether he is willing to give me another chance or not. These two weeks have been pure torture for me because I do care about him soooo very much. I have matured so much these two weeks without seeing him and have really repented of my lie on Dec 11th. He also told me not to reach out go and find him until he decides to, until he is ready to reveal his decision to be with me again or not.

    Well it turns out that we finaly spoke on the phone yesterday and decided to meet up at noon today to talk about things. I have a good feeling he will say yes to me becuase in all of his emails throughout these two weeks he has said he loves me and in xmas texted and said he loves me.

    Here's the thing about all this...While we were separated these two weeks, he went ahead and booked a flight to NYC which he leaves in the middle of the week and doesn't return till saturday. He is going up there to see 3 of his friends. When I meet up with him today and if we decided to make things work, should I say that I wanna be with him for new years?

    One of my good friends called me and told me that New years is a special occasion for couples. It's an occasion wwhere couples should be together just like valentines, our anniversary, xmas, etc...I just don't know what to say about this trip he already bought tickets to. My friend also thinks that if he still decideds to go to NYC, that I should consider the relationship ended because he believes that night is very important.

    What do you guys think?
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    Dec 27, 2010 2:56 PM GMT
    I think you are crazy to be asking everybody their opinion on this.
    Why dont you just discuss it with him and see how it feels to just get back to normal coupledom after new years. There have to be more pressing things than this to be worrying about really, NO?
  • HndsmKansan

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    Dec 27, 2010 3:05 PM GMT
    Well to begin with, we have no idea what you did in the first place, it could be superficial or something really significant to your relationship.
    I also think it's kind of pathetic that he has taken 2 weeks to make a decision about your future...... and I don't think you should be worried about something like New Years.

    The reality is, you need to determine if you really want to see this guy (and him you) and have the communication to make it work. If you both do want to make it a go, you can converse about New Years, but if he is out of town, I'd not give it a thought, just see when he is available and set up a date for the new year!
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    Dec 27, 2010 3:19 PM GMT
    nydoc saidI think you are crazy to be asking everybody their opinion on this.

    I agree. How can the rest of us know the 2 of you, your history, your personalities, all the dynamics that go into a relationship?

    Maybe this would work, maybe not. New Year's Eve in NYC can be fun, especially if you can get into Times Square (it has heavy security now, and fills up many hours before). With the flight disruptions due to the massive Northeast blizzard, can you even book a flight to NYC at this point? (I lived in Little Rock for 3 years) This is likely unrealistic on many levels.
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    Dec 27, 2010 3:20 PM GMT
    Don't let anyone make you think being together for New Years has to be that big of a deal.
  • yeaboy

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    Dec 27, 2010 3:22 PM GMT
    Think practically.

    Plane tickets are expensive-- would you expect him to just drop a couple of hundred dollars and not go to NYC? Remember: if I read it right, he booked them while you were broken up. He should go see his friends. If he wants you to, and you have the money, maybe he'll invite you with him. If not, he should continue going to NYC.

    When he gets back... have a fake-NYE dinner and date. Bust-out champagne at midnight (no matter what day it is) and give him a long, soft fake New Year's Eve kiss.

    You'll be fine.
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    Dec 27, 2010 3:31 PM GMT

    IF you were 18 to 20 and had been in a committed relationship with this guy for over one year....you might have something more tangible to deal with.
    But, if you're willing to let the stupid idea of how important it is for you to be with him on New Years' Eve...and let that be the end of the relationship, you
    never had any serious thoughts about this guy to begin with.
    As far as your "lie" is concerned...you reap what you sew.
    I suggest you spend New Years' Eve alone...reflecting on your ability to give more than you receive and try another couple weeks (or months) of maturing.
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    Dec 27, 2010 3:42 PM GMT
    You just joined today? This is bullshit.
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    Dec 27, 2010 4:01 PM GMT



    "Everything was going great until I fucked it up by lying to him about something (long story so let's not get into it)." ...except that this is the crux of why the situation is what it is.

    So, what happened?

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    Dec 27, 2010 4:54 PM GMT
    nydoc saidI think you are crazy to be asking everybody their opinion on this.
    Why dont you just discuss it with him and see how it feels to just get back to normal coupledom after new years. There have to be more pressing things than this to be worrying about really, NO?


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