Came out to my mom today...and it was better than I ever coulda imagined! :)

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    Dec 27, 2010 10:40 PM GMT
    Just felt like sharing my experience today of coming out to my mom just in case anyone else is struggling with whether or not they should...I wrestled with the idea for AGES but always felt that when the time was right it would hit me, and I've struggled with being gay for ages as well until this year things fell into place more and more and I've never been so comfortable with myself, in every respect not just with sexuality...and the it hit me that'd I'd like to come out to my mom, we've always been very close and I'm open with her about so much that I felt the time was right...and over breakfast this morning dropped the bomb and expected who knows what (my mom's a bigtime Roman Catholic from a hardcore Conservative family, nothing wrong with that but you can imagine my fear of her reaction...oh and I'm an only child so I'm her only shot at the whole cliche thing with the picket fence and the 2.1 kids and so on) but it was SO positive, seriously I was expecting to shock her and though she did not expect it she ended up shocking me with how amazing her reaction was and how loving she's been all day about it...It's meant the world to me. We spent the day talking and it's just been great, better than I ever could have imagined.


    So yeah, felt the need to share, you may not care at all but I just wanted to get this out there about how happy I am that this went SO well and is a huge weight off of me....and also to say to anyone else scared of taking the plunge that you may just get a very different reaction than the negative one you may expect, and that i hope everyone else's experiences with this can be just as fulfilling icon_biggrin.gif

    Also if you are planning on doing it, wait til you yourself are completely ok with it, because I made that mistake a few years ago when i came out to friends, I was still struggling with it myself and it made it hard to be trying to accept it same time as my friends...today was much more positive because I am so comfortable with myself, think it made the whole thing better!
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    Dec 27, 2010 10:42 PM GMT
    So, I can only imagine how hard that must have been for you, INITIALLY. Kudos to you.

  • Dec 27, 2010 10:46 PM GMT
    Congratulations! I'm so happy that it went this well for you!

    I'm about to come out to my mom and dad sometime next month, but I don't think they'll take it as well as your mom did. I guess there's always room to hope though...
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    Dec 27, 2010 11:21 PM GMT
    Big Hug Brother......so many of us underestimated the love of a parent....Keithicon_cool.gif
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    Dec 27, 2010 11:34 PM GMT
    thanks guys icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 28, 2010 12:03 AM GMT
    Congrats! Glad to hear it went so well! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 28, 2010 12:06 AM GMT
    Congrats man!! and most of us do care, its always nice to see stories with a happy ending, One always expects the worst right? It's nice to hear it went great, and your mom sounds amazing btw
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    Dec 28, 2010 2:04 AM GMT
    Dude, with that face, you could be Jeffrey Dahmer.
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    Dec 28, 2010 2:13 AM GMT
    See James...I been telling you this for months bro!
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    Dec 28, 2010 2:13 AM GMT
    This is so awesome...I love hearing these stories. Kudos to you, and thanks for sharing! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 28, 2010 2:15 AM GMT
    You are such a brave man. I admire you. I hope I find that courage one day.

    Congrats buddy!
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    Dec 28, 2010 2:18 AM GMT
    Good job buddy! Thanks for sharing your story icon_biggrin.gif
  • TheIStrat

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    Dec 28, 2010 2:20 AM GMT
    Yay. The same thing happened with my mom and me.

    She told me that a month afterwards she had the realization that now no woman would ever be as important to me as her. And that she cried tears of joy. So, in a way, she went and made it all about her.
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    Dec 28, 2010 2:25 AM GMT


    Well Done... you had a far better and more supportive experience than I did.
  • Ironman4U

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    Dec 28, 2010 2:27 AM GMT
    Very cool. Congratulations to you and kudos to your mom. Great story.
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    Dec 28, 2010 2:36 AM GMT
    sdgman saidDude, with that face, you could be Jeffrey Dahmer.


    what's wrong with you? Prick.
  • calibro

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    Dec 28, 2010 2:37 AM GMT
    glad it went well stud
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    Dec 28, 2010 2:38 AM GMT
    I have to add to it. Congrats and I hope you gave your mom a big hug and thanked her for trying to be understanding.

    Keep in mind she may privately still grieve the loss of grandchildren and other things, but, with this kind of reaction, you know she will always be there for you.

    For many of us, it wasn't the same. I was "outed" to my parents in June 1979. I was 18. Far different scenario, but in time they came around. They met my partner 2 years prior to my dad's death and they both ended up loving my partner. The point is that even with a story that isn't as exciting as yours, the outcome can still be as good.

    I am glad you didn't have to go through years of her working through the acceptance. Thank you for sharing your wonderful story and showing the other side of "coming out" to a parent. KUDOS for you and your mom.

    Paul
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    Dec 28, 2010 2:44 AM GMT
    congrats buddy, i am happy for you.
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    Dec 28, 2010 2:44 AM GMT
    Congratulations!
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    Dec 28, 2010 3:07 AM GMT
    thank you so much for your words of encouragement everyone, really really appreciate it icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 28, 2010 3:13 AM GMT
    Well, that just put a big ole smile on my face. I'm tickled for ya!
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    Dec 28, 2010 3:13 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidCan I just say.. I'm Proud of you for your honesty and love for your mother!
    Job well done!

    And yes James, you and your mom do deserve another round of applause.
    CONGRATS! PARTYYYYY!!! icon_biggrin.gif

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    Dec 28, 2010 3:17 AM GMT
    Congratulations man, that huge weight has been lifted!
  • maximumrisk

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    Dec 28, 2010 3:18 AM GMT
    Congrats man. Best coming out ever happened to me was telling a group of Friends and suddenly they burst out laughing with a Girl yelling "We know that already!".icon_eek.gif

    To my Mom I simply dropped the news including my sisters pregnancy at a Trainstation. The Woman standing beside her simply said "Dont take it to hard."