Being Polite: The Overrated Gimmick

  • Little_Spoon

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    Dec 28, 2010 7:35 AM GMT
    I like how you can take the time to say Thanks to me when I hold the door open for you.

    It's so hot.
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    The fuck is wrong with people.
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    Dec 28, 2010 12:09 PM GMT
    Fine then. Next time you hold the door open for me I'll just snarl and say "fuck you" instead. icon_razz.gif
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    Dec 28, 2010 12:12 PM GMT
    I may be going crazy, but when I do that and someone ignores it I actually say "Oh you're welcome (deragatory comment here)" - but I probably have anger issues with society... I say it loud enough they MAY hear but probably won't. It makes me feel better.
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    Dec 28, 2010 3:28 PM GMT
    Wait, what?!

    If someone held the door for me I would politely say thank you cause that is what you're supposed to do.



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    Dec 28, 2010 3:33 PM GMT
    Or go through a door and let it close on the person right behind you.....manners are SO overrated....!

    Some women I've worked with were actually appalled I held the door for them....the "how dare you!!!...I'm capable of opening my own god-damned door" so apparent in their beady, little feminist eyes.......
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    Dec 28, 2010 3:34 PM GMT
    Yeah, I'm not sure I understand why you'd get angry over someone saying "Thank you".
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    Dec 28, 2010 3:35 PM GMT
    As my mom taught me, you hold a door open for a lady regardless if they say thank you or not... Holding a door open for younger people, don't expect a thank you.
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    Dec 28, 2010 3:42 PM GMT
    Little_Spoon saidI like how you can take the time to say Thanks to me when I hold the door open for you.

    It's so hot.
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    The fuck is wrong with people.


    LOL, I think I like you a little bit more now.
  • LJay

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    Dec 28, 2010 3:55 PM GMT
    Who's to say it's a gimmick. For many people this sort of basic courtesy is a reflex.

    What you are saying to them could even be understood as "Please be rude to me." Believe me, handsome, that can be had.
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    Dec 28, 2010 4:15 PM GMT
    Not only should you not thank them, you must get them in a neck hold and slam the door into their head several times; just to bring it home to them you are completely devoid of any social skills.
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    Dec 28, 2010 4:15 PM GMT
    Little_Spoon saidI like how you can take the time to say Thanks to me when I hold the door open for you.

    It's so hot.
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    The fuck is wrong with people.


    Don't worry, you'll always get people like that. But don't ever stop being nice to people, it's the effort that counts.

    It could have been that they were a bit absent-minded, irritated or distracted at the time so they forgot to thank you.

    Keep those doors open lol icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 28, 2010 4:54 PM GMT
    Buddy_Guy saidI may be going crazy, but when I do that and someone ignores it I actually say "Oh you're welcome (deragatory comment here)" - but I probably have anger issues with society... I say it loud enough they MAY hear but probably won't. It makes me feel better.


    Heh heh. I know what you mean. But Miss Manners once wrote of just that kind of occasion that it's rude to point out to someone else's rudeness.
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    Dec 28, 2010 5:44 PM GMT
    As my parents were very respectful people , i have been raised to be polite and helpful to others ..
    I agree with Little-spoon , and in 50% of the time people are totally ignoring you ..but i don't care , because 50% of the others are graciously thanking me ...lol...
    Now one of my job requirements is helping passengers to put their belongings in the overhead bin , 90% of them , doesn't even peep a Thank you .....



    Quoting Little-spoon ....
    WTF is wrong with people nowadays ..................icon_sad.gif
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    Dec 28, 2010 5:49 PM GMT
    I use the handicapped buttons to open doors for people... icon_biggrin.gif
  • swimmermatt10...

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    Dec 28, 2010 6:01 PM GMT
    Buddy_Guy saidI may be going crazy, but when I do that and someone ignores it I actually say "Oh you're welcome (deragatory comment here)" - but I probably have anger issues with society... I say it loud enough they MAY hear but probably won't. It makes me feel better.


    I do the EXACT same thing. I'm a sarcastic asshole, though, so I probably get loud enough to the point where they PROBABLY hear me instead haha. Some people are so damn rude though, how hard is it to say "thanks" you dont even have to stop walking to do it. I acknowledge people when I'm on the phone for god's sake. It's just common courtesy.
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    Dec 28, 2010 6:07 PM GMT
    Yeah, it's amazing how many people think that they ought to be "thanked" for impeding my progress. And yet they never thank me in return, for not shoving them out of my way.
  • Karnage

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    Dec 28, 2010 6:12 PM GMT
    mnboy saidI use the handicapped buttons to open doors for people... icon_biggrin.gif


    Haha, me too! I like to press it as they're walking up and then leave, so when they get to the door it just opens like magic icon_smile.gif
  • ohioguy12

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    Dec 28, 2010 6:23 PM GMT
    Guys like bad boys, not the polite ones
  • Karnage

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    Dec 28, 2010 6:29 PM GMT
    ohioguy12 saidGuys like bad boys, not the polite ones


    FALSE! I would take a shy nice guy over a bad boy asshole any day.
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    Dec 28, 2010 6:30 PM GMT
    I walk with a cane, my limp somewhat more pronounced on some days than others. And people tend to hold the door open for me. Hell, when I was in NYC just a few years back, women were offering me their seats on subways, for gawd's sake! In fucking New York City! (BTW, I never took the seat) I also hold the door open for others -- I'm not a fucking cripple, at least not yet anyway, and if I get there first, the door in my hand, why would I NOT hold it open for someone else?

    Well, ya know, it's a matter of manners. If someone offers me such a courtesy, even if I didn't expect it or really need it, I thank them for it. I may say:

    "Oh, thank you, you didn't have to do that!" or "Thank you! That's very kind of you!" or whatever, but I acknowledge their gesture. They mean well, they're being kind, and they deserve my polite recognition. So that hopefully in the future they'll do the same for someone else who needs that help more than I do today.

    THAT, GENTLEMEN, IS GOOD MANNERS!!! EVER HEAR OF IT???

    The OP just appalls me. icon_razz.gif
  • FredMG

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    Dec 28, 2010 6:36 PM GMT
    Little_Spoon saidI like how you can take the time to say Thanks to me when I hold the door open for you.

    It's so hot.
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    The fuck is wrong with people.


    I know imagine, the nerve of people trying to initiate the kind of courtesy even Chimpazees can show to each other.icon_rolleyes.gif
  • mybud

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    Dec 28, 2010 6:39 PM GMT
    Dude..... being polite is an off shoot on how you were raised....It's like breathing....Don't expect thanks for something you do automatically....It's a part of yourself....BUD
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    Dec 28, 2010 6:39 PM GMT
    When someone holds the door open for me I look at them smile and say thank you.
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    Dec 28, 2010 6:51 PM GMT
    People should say thankyou. I am always appalled at how badly people treat service industry staff, actually. I refused to go on a second date with one guy because he was so rude to the waiter.

    People lack class, I'm afraid.
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    Dec 28, 2010 6:56 PM GMT
    mybud saidDude..... being polite is an off shoot on how you were raised....It's like breathing....Don't expect thanks for something you do automatically....It's a part of yourself....BUD


    Exactly. You do something polite because it's the right thing to do, not because you expect something in return. If anything you feel good about doing something nice for someone. It all can depend on how you are raised, the type of day you are having, the type of day someone else is having and a number of other variables. I'm always polite because i treat people the way I want to be treated. It's just how I was raised...