Does it offend you when guys talk about the homoeroticism of wrestling?

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    Dec 28, 2010 9:22 PM GMT
    Having run WrestleMen.com for 15 years, and produced a documentary on wrestling (http://www.wrestlingfilm.com), it amazes me how sometimes even gay men will get up in arms if anyone says wrestling has a homoerotic element. Maybe they are confusing public competitions (where the only thing on your mind is not getting your ass kicked) with private wrestling or the visual aspects of wrestling.

    So here is my question. Are you able to understand and appreciate those who find wrestling to be a turn-on, or will you always condemn them?
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    Dec 29, 2010 2:07 AM GMT
    I suppose some people might get a bit bothered by the "he who taps out, bottoms" meme behind much of homoeroticized wrestling (NakedKombat.com type stuff)

    Of course, never minding that in almost all cases, that sort of wrestling is consensual and understood between the two combatants.
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    Dec 29, 2010 2:08 AM GMT
    I have a problem with people who try to incorporate sexual fantasies with wrestling..
    Gives wrestlers, especially in the gay community, a really bad rep.
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    Dec 29, 2010 2:27 AM GMT
    I get some mixed impressions from your setup to this question.

    It is hard for me not to associate two guys wrestling, legitimate or casual, as not having some homoerotic elements. It doesn't bother me that that is my perception. It also does not mean that I think all wrestlers are gay. It is just there as an element.

    Do some people get turned on by wrestling or fantasies about it? Sure. But not everybody who wrestles does.

    I have had thoughts of wrestling with various guys as a form of foreplay, but I usually discard them because the element of pain does not appeal to me.

    If it turns you on, let it. What is wrong with that?
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    Dec 29, 2010 2:31 AM GMT
    I know a lot of gay guys who do not find wrestling homoerotic, I hope you didn't misinterpret. I also know a lot of straight guys who only find men hot when they are wrestling.

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    Dec 29, 2010 2:57 AM GMT
    In general I think it's a waste of energy to be offended by the perceptions of others. I mean, really? Some guys get torqued up when the wind blows; you can't blame a compass for pointing north.

    Personally, I think that there is some veiled homoeroticism in all competitive sports. Athletics fills that primal need for men to compete and dominate over their peers -- it seems natural that men who are sexually attracted to other men would identify with a sexual element in sports, especially contact sports, and most especially wresting which incorporates a lot of homoerotic elements:


    In a front-page story Sunday about the case, The Bee reported that the move involves a wrestler grabbing a rival's butt cheek and putting fingers in the anus to get leverage
    http://www.fresnobee.com/2010/12/09/2192508/coaches-clarify-the-butt-drag.html

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    Dec 29, 2010 3:01 AM GMT
    No its not homoerotic at all. I dont know how two muscular men putting their hands on eachother's bodies could ever be considered homoerotic. Anyone who thinks that is blatantly homophobic. /sarcasmoff.

    Yea, it can be hot. I mean some MMA stuff looks like porn to me. But, whatever, to each their own.
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    Feb 09, 2011 2:06 AM GMT
    It looks erotic, no doubt.
    But it won't feel that way when you're in there getting slammed on your back or having the air choked out of you!

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    Feb 09, 2011 3:13 AM GMT
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    But it won't feel that way when you're in there getting slammed on your back or having the air choked out of you!



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    Feb 09, 2011 3:24 AM GMT
    I can't watch 5 minutes of actual, real wrestling without getting a concrete one!

    There can't be a gayer "sport" than wrestling! It's not homoerotic, it's totally homo!!

    I wonder what percentage of players are actually gay?

    That's some of the hottest foreplay, especially if you're doing it with someone fit and athletic. And those singlets?!! Come ON!!
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    Feb 09, 2011 3:32 AM GMT
    really? generally if im watching mma or anything related its always my straight friend who is calling them gay before i even have the chance. of course its kinda gay. arm wrestling is kinda gay. any time 2 grown men in various states of undress are grunting and touching each other there is faggotry afoot. who the fuck cares. if someone called me a fag while i was sparring (like in an aggressive manner) theoretically i would knock them out and then ask them who the fag is now. but only a jackass would do that.
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    Feb 09, 2011 3:33 AM GMT
    Wrestling was my sport in high school and college, and I'm extremely protective of and loyal to it. I consider wrestling for sex (e.g., submission wrestling) or as a sex fantasy to be an affront to my sport. I can understand that some guys homoeroticize wrestling, and I suppose that's their choice--but I will NEVER participate in any of that stuff. I throw up in my mouth every time I see wrestling wannabe's wearing singlets and acting out. Yuk!
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    Feb 09, 2011 3:34 AM GMT
    DOMINUS saidWrestling was my sport in high school and college, and I'm extremely protective of and loyal to it. I consider wrestling for sex (e.g., submission wrestling) or as a sex fantasy to be an affront to my sport. I can understand that some guys homoeroticize wrestling, and I suppose that's their choice--but I will NEVER participate in any of that stuff. I throw up in my mouth every time I see wrestling wannabe's wearing singlets and acting out. Yuk!


    It's because of people like you, who say "my sport" that I chose the following words in the final narration of my documentary:

    "Nobody owns wrestling, not an organization or group, culture, or sexuality...."

    http://www.wrestlingfilm.com
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    Feb 09, 2011 3:36 AM GMT
    I can't stand not winning in most sports, but wrestling it isn't always the end of the world to loose, well at least not all the time.
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    Feb 09, 2011 3:42 AM GMT
    I also think it's pretty gay. Sorry. I can't think of a female-on-female equivalent to support your theory.
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    Mar 26, 2011 7:41 PM GMT
    Probably always condemn them if they call it "wrestling" which is a sport with established rules and protocols.

    You want to come up with other names for what you are talking about it, fine, just don't call it wrestling.
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    Mar 26, 2011 7:50 PM GMT
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    DOMINUS saidWrestling was my sport in high school and college, and I'm extremely protective of and loyal to it. I consider wrestling for sex (e.g., submission wrestling) or as a sex fantasy to be an affront to my sport. I can understand that some guys homoeroticize wrestling, and I suppose that's their choice--but I will NEVER participate in any of that stuff. I throw up in my mouth every time I see wrestling wannabe's wearing singlets and acting out. Yuk!


    It's because of people like you, who say "my sport" that I chose the following words in the final narration of my documentary:

    "Nobody owns wrestling, not an organization or group, culture, or sexuality...."

    http://www.wrestlingfilm.com

    I agree, what dominus said was pretty ignorant.

    It reminds me of this:
    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/1455063/

    and in relation to that, it would be the same as me saying "Video gaming has always been MY hobby and it disgusts me that all these straight guys who play EA sports games as of 2006 think they're gamers."
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    Mar 26, 2011 7:52 PM GMT
    Sam_Cal_80 saidProbably always condemn them if they call it "wrestling" which is a sport with established rules and protocols.
    You want to come up with other names for what you are talking about it, fine, just don't call it wrestling.

    Did you even read the post?
    I'm pretty sure he is talking about the sport.
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    Mar 26, 2011 11:45 PM GMT
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    Sam_Cal_80 saidProbably always condemn them if they call it "wrestling" which is a sport with established rules and protocols.
    You want to come up with other names for what you are talking about it, fine, just don't call it wrestling.

    Did you even read the post?
    I'm pretty sure he is talking about the sport.


    He is not talking about the sport, he is talking about pankration, or something like it.