Is this normal? (bottoming question)

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    Dec 29, 2010 9:25 AM GMT
    So I recently popped my cherry, and the first time wasn't so bad. A few hours later he tried fucking me again and the pain was unbearable.

    The 2nd night this happened, he fucked me, and the first time was kind of good. Second time in the same night hurt like hell.

    Is this normal?
  • Beeftastic

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    Dec 29, 2010 9:43 AM GMT
    It can be. You might just need some more time to let your ass get adjusted to getting fucked. Make sure you are using lot's of lube, as it will reduce the friction which may be wearing you raw. Also some guys are allergic to the latex in condoms and that can cause this. Try using some non-latex condoms like Avanti's Bare or Skyn.
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    Dec 29, 2010 1:06 PM GMT
    Yes, your rectum is FULL of nerve endings. You will get used to the sensation as time passes; take it slow, get some good lube and a proper condom (latex, or polyurethane if you are allergic to latex), make sure you clean well [douche] and you will be good to go.

    Have fun!

    Edit: the anus is full of nerve endings.
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    Dec 29, 2010 1:27 PM GMT
    I would say the inner lining of the rectum, which is epithelium, is prone to becoming sensitive after a lot of friction... what your having is normal.. it happens whenever there is more friction than usual.... what happens next is that the epithelium begins to keratinise... thicken if you will.. in respnse to the friction... making it better able to withstand friction in the future...

    So basically, your body jsut needs to adapt to the increasing amounts of friction... it should lessen quickly
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    Dec 29, 2010 1:33 PM GMT
    Pretty much what everyone has said thus far is right. It takes some getting used to. Remember, you're trying to make an involuntary muscle voluntary. Also, mind over matter does play a part in this. Make sure that when you bottom you're doing it because you really want to, that it's something you enjoy (or would like to). If you go into is with your teeth grinding saying to stick it you're ready, it's not gonna be good.
    And after you've finished and loads have been shot, eventually your adrenaline and endorphines will die down. That's when sensations are no longer dulled and you you come back to planet earth. lol So yeah, while you're still new to this and building up that bottom prowess, going in too soon for round 2 is maybe not gonna feel so fantastic.... for now. ;-)

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    Dec 29, 2010 4:01 PM GMT
    how did it feel like when u were gettin fuked ? im still a virgin
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    Dec 29, 2010 4:03 PM GMT
    romeohot saidhow did it feel like when u were gettin fuked ? im still a virgin


    Heheh me too i would love to know icon_redface.gif
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    Dec 29, 2010 4:08 PM GMT
    hehe hehe wink
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    Dec 29, 2010 4:30 PM GMT
    Do you have any tattoos? It is very similar to getting a tattoo...initially it is different and your body has to adjust and before you know it, it feels amazing...however, if you were to stop for a little while, then the tissue becomes numb and very sensitive. This is exactly what is happening during anal sex. During the first intercourse, the anus is stretched and enjoying the moment...however once you stop, the body enters recovery mode trying to repair the stretched muscles and any small tares that might be present.

    Plus as long as you still feel this recovery thats a good thing because that means your ass is getting nice and tight again ;)
  • calibro

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    Dec 29, 2010 4:35 PM GMT
    it's normal... my first time i couldn't sit for a week icon_eek.gif
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    Dec 29, 2010 4:36 PM GMT
    Yes, it's normal (except the cherry hymen stuff). It's enjoyable because you're horny and haven't climaxed.

    -Doug
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    Dec 29, 2010 4:37 PM GMT
    if we haven't done it for a few days, my bf has to slowly enter me and allow me a few seconds to stretch and adjust. icon_idea.gif

    after that first time, he can slide right in for the second, third, fourth (or as many times as we want!) time in the same session with NO complaints from me. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 29, 2010 4:40 PM GMT
    rnch saidif we haven't done it for a few days, my bf has to slowly enter me and allow me a few seconds to stretch and adjust. icon_idea.gif

    after that first time, he can slide right in for the second, third, fourth (or as many times as we want!) time in the same session with NO complaints from me. icon_biggrin.gif



    Which just goes to show how it's different for each guy. icon_wink.gif

    -Doug
  • rnch

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    Dec 29, 2010 4:49 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    rnch saidif we haven't done it for a few days, my bf has to slowly enter me and allow me a few seconds to stretch and adjust. icon_idea.gif

    after that first time, he can slide right in for the second, third, fourth (or as many times as we want!) time in the same session with NO complaints from me. icon_biggrin.gif



    Which just goes to show how it's different for each guy. icon_wink.gif

    -Doug




    YUP!!! "ev-va-buddiez diffn't" icon_cool.gif
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    Dec 29, 2010 4:50 PM GMT
    I feel your pain (literally)! It seems I can't last long at all even though I'd like to. I sticking to the old adage, 'practice makes perfect' and I'm striving for perfection icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 29, 2010 5:00 PM GMT
    DR2K saidSo I recently popped my cherry, and the first time wasn't so bad. A few hours later he tried fucking me again and the pain was unbearable.

    The 2nd night this happened, he fucked me, and the first time was kind of good. Second time in the same night hurt like hell.

    Is this normal?


    Your anus has more nerve endings per square inch than anymore else in your body. That's for a reason: so you know to poop. Your rectum has NO nerve endings: none, notta'. Let me say that again, because you got some bad information above: your rectum has no nerve endings. It's just a tube. Your anus has more nerve endings per square inch than anywhere else in your body.

    What happens is that folks get tears, or, they have hemorrhoids. If you tear yourself, it'll heal on its own, over time, or it may require surgical intervention. If you have hemorrhoids, you might bleed when you poop, or shove something up your ass, and, that's all part of the deal. Hemorrhoids are very common, and happen when your diet isn't right, you sit on the toilet, and you push. You can read all about it, and look at pictures online. Now, if you get an anal fissure (a bigger tear), it's probably going to require surgical intervention, and a while to heal. Sometimes, hemorrhoids are treated surgically with a rubber band, scalpel, or laser.

    Your ass is engineered to let big things out, and keep things from coming in. The trick to sticking something large, or long LOL, into it is to relax, and not SHOVE it in. Shoving is trouble. If it hurts, stop, relax, and MAYBE go at it again, but, understand, your body has PAIN for a REASON. It's telling you NOT TO DO THAT. If you force it, you're gonna' hurt yourself. Let pain and your comfort level be your guide. Don't be an idiot.

    Anal stimulation can be sexually satisfying as an object brushes past the male-G spot (your prostate). There are a variety of methods for prostate massage, and many men find the experience pleasurable. Prostate massage / bottoming can actually be good for you (like masturbation) done properly. Prostatic congestion isn't cool, and it can be relieved by a variety of methods.
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    Dec 29, 2010 5:05 PM GMT
    chuckystud said
    DR2K saidSo I recently popped my cherry, and the first time wasn't so bad. A few hours later he tried fucking me again and the pain was unbearable.

    The 2nd night this happened, he fucked me, and the first time was kind of good. Second time in the same night hurt like hell.

    Is this normal?


    Your anus has more nerve endings per square inch than anymore else in your body. That's for a reason: so you know to poop. Your rectum has NO nerve endings: none, notta'. Let me say that again, because you got some bad information above: your rectum has no nerve endings. It's just a tube. Your anus has more nerve endings per square inch than anywhere else in your body.

    What happens is that folks get tears, or, they have hemorrhoids. If you tear yourself, it'll heal on its own, over time, or it may require surgical intervention. If you have hemorrhoids, you might bleed when you poop, or shove something up your ass, and, that's all part of the deal. Hemorrhoids are very common, and happen when your diet isn't right, you sit on the toilet, and you push. You can read all about it, and look at pictures online. Now, if you get an anal fissure (a bigger tear), it's probably going to require surgical intervention, and a while to heal. Sometimes, hemorrhoids are treated surgical with a rubber band, scalpel, or laser.

    Your ass is engineered to let big things out, and keep things from coming in. The trick to sticking something large, or long LOL, into it is to relax, and not SHOVE it in. Shoving is trouble. If it hurts, stop, relax, and MAYBE go at it again, but, understand, your body has PAIN for a REASON. It's telling you NOT TO DO THAT. If you force it, you're gonna' hurt yourself. Let pain and your comfort level be your guide. Don't be an idiot.

    Anal stimulation can be sexually satisfying as an object brushes past the male-G spot (your prostate). There are a variety of methods for prostate massage, and many men find the experience pleasurable.


    man you are a lot of help for me man as always thanks a lot for this tips when i have my firs time icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 29, 2010 5:06 PM GMT
    Let yourself relax. You'll be pro in no time. :-) The demons are within. Be not afraid and ye shall find happiness. LOL.
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    Dec 29, 2010 5:12 PM GMT
    If you do it often enough like I do, you eventually get to the point where the top can just slip it right in and you can get fucked for hours- even get fucked multiple times in the same day with no problem. Takes alot of practice though.
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    Dec 29, 2010 5:15 PM GMT
    Vladimir01 said
    romeohot saidhow did it feel like when u were gettin fuked ? im still a virgin


    Heheh me too i would love to know b1


    LOL me too
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    Dec 29, 2010 5:16 PM GMT
    LOL thats all i can say
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    Dec 29, 2010 5:24 PM GMT
    catfish5 saidIf you do it often enough like I do, you eventually get to the point where the top can just slip it right in and you can get fucked for hours- even get fucked multiple times in the same day with no problem. Takes alot of practice though.


    You must be saying you're a Dallas HO, or a oversexed stud? Humm. If you're THAT loose. GOLLY. Only a Dallas guy would wear his loose ass as a badge of honor. That's SO Dallas. ROFL. Hope nothing falls out in The Gayborhood.

    For those not in the know: Dallas County, Texas has the highest HIV infection rate in Texas, and is near the highest in The U.S. Dallas guys are well known for being I,I,I, promiscuous, and careless.
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    Dec 29, 2010 5:28 PM GMT
    catfish5 saidIf you do it often enough like I do, you eventually get to the point where the top can just slip it right in and you can get fucked for hours- even get fucked multiple times in the same day with no problem. Takes alot of practice though.


    Mmm i want that one day icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 29, 2010 6:03 PM GMT
    Yeah it seems to be normal. Some guys can take it twice but not three times. I can't take it at all.
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    Dec 29, 2010 6:25 PM GMT
    GBRelentless saidYes, your rectum is FULL of nerve endings. You will get used to the sensation as time passes; take it slow, get some good lube and a proper condom (latex, or polyurethane if you are allergic to latex), make sure you clean well [douche] and you will be good to go.

    Have fun!


    Yeah, what chucky said. This statement is demonstrably false.