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    Dec 29, 2010 10:57 AM GMT
    So this is the paradox...

    I am straight, but attracted to guys! I know – what’s new?

    Coming out is out of the question. I mean like seriously - coming out is out of the question (just being a realist).

    It's easy to say you have to be true to yourself etc. But "realistically" I risk losing everyone...EVERYONE that is important in my life.

    That said, there is a brighter side to the story!... Alcohol! Hehe.

    Kidding!

    Commit myself to a cause greater than myself and hope that perhaps along the way, someone that can fathom and connect with my past experiences can join the journey! Phew! Dare you to say all that in one breath...LOL!

    Now... reading the latter sounds somewhat idealistic, don't you think?

    I hear... (What is this guy on? He is wasting his time!, hmm would he be a top or bottom?) Hehe... I kid, I kid!

    Seriously! I clearly need other people's opinion on this!

    Speak now or I shall forever hold my peace!
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    Dec 29, 2010 11:02 AM GMT
    I'm not sure if I understand. You say that you are straight but at the same time you clearly are not, hence the reason you created this topic.

    Are you saying you want us to find a reason why you should come out?

    First, more than likely your not straight but you might be bi. Second, why is coming out not an option? And if it's not then what is the second best option you can think of?
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    Dec 29, 2010 11:18 AM GMT
    I have read and re-read your post and still can not make heads or tails of it. Right off the bat you say that coming out is out of the question. You also identify yourself as straight and attracted to guys which really is not likely (don't worry, I hit the same point awhile back.)

    Are you asking if you should find yourself a nice little lady, get married and later divorced? If so, I would say that you need to re-read your post. Are you asking if you should find a "cause" commit yourself and be open to whatever comes down the pike? If that is the question, I would say go for it, but you need to be open to whatever relationship you find or I think you risk being a rather unhappy person in future years (and making somebody else unhappy in the process.) What advice exactly is it that you are after? (I get the feeling most of the advice your find here will be "come out" regardless of the fact that you say it is out of the question.)

    Anyhow, enjoy your stay here...
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    Dec 29, 2010 11:21 AM GMT
    You are very entertaining!!
  • LJay

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    Dec 29, 2010 2:06 PM GMT
    You don't go from being interested in science to being a Nobel physicist in one step.

    There is no need to confront coming out at this time. Just explore your sexuality and see where you are lead.

    This sort of thing takes time.
  • calibro

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    Dec 29, 2010 4:48 PM GMT
    i will give a more thorough response once you've had more than one post and filled out your profile so i know that you're not a bored man's joke.
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    Dec 29, 2010 4:51 PM GMT
    You're not straight.
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    Dec 29, 2010 5:17 PM GMT
    Dey put de lemon in de Tidy Bowl, oh ya....................................Kicon_cool.gif
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    Dec 29, 2010 5:23 PM GMT
    You've wathced too much, triumph the insult comic dog.
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    Dec 29, 2010 5:58 PM GMT
    Live a secret life of having sex with men in parks and airport restrooms. Problem solved!
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    Dec 29, 2010 6:13 PM GMT
    mahna mahna... do doo do do do
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    Dec 29, 2010 6:24 PM GMT


    "Speak now or I shall forever hold my peace!"


    ...did you mean piece? icon_wink.gif


    If you don't come out at all, not even a little, you'll be holding your piece fairly often.

    -Doug
    PS you're not straight. icon_eek.gif

  • wellwell

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    Dec 29, 2010 6:26 PM GMT
    ...Hate to burst-your-bubble like Otter did, but I will.


    YOU ARE NOT STR8 !!
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    Dec 29, 2010 6:28 PM GMT
    The way you wrote this topic you are no way straight
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    Dec 29, 2010 6:30 PM GMT
    You just won the Nobel prize for incoherent blabber
  • wellwell

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    Dec 29, 2010 6:47 PM GMT
    mavriq said But "realistically" I risk losing everyone...EVERYONE that is important in my life.



    Dood, you are being ANYTHING but "realistic."

    If "everyone" important to you is incapable of embracing the truth, they are NOT worth your bother (including Wife / Parents, etc.); in-other-words, you are wasting your time w/ them; you are barking up the wrong trees . . .

    Think about it: If your "friends" cannot handle the non-heterosexuality that you have, it becomes a qualification for alleged-friendship. How phoney!
    Essentially, you are telling us that you do not believe in the power of the truth.
    The "closet" is a very uncomfortable place to be; it is full of deception.
    COME OUT COME OUT (to anyone who asks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!).

    Better yet, come to N.M. & show me your 4skin (...twang, hyperventilating...).

    W W
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    Dec 29, 2010 6:52 PM GMT
    Another fake first poster thread

    You guys will fall for anything
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    Dec 29, 2010 6:54 PM GMT
    I said it before and I will say it again.... what to do in your situation is really your choice, but whatever you do, be grown up about it 'cuz you still have to look in the mirror every morning and decide if you can live with yourself.
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    Dec 29, 2010 7:01 PM GMT
    unfounded7 saidLive a secret life of having sex with men in parks and airport restrooms. Problem solved!




    WAIT! ...i could have jsut done this instead of comeing out? ... PISS!
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    Dec 29, 2010 7:06 PM GMT
    I'm guessing closeted, scared and secretly knowing better each day that you're gay! Many of us have been there and when you come to terms with who you are then you can address how to handle it. One thing for sure, str8 guys are NOT attracted to guys. Yeah, yeah, yeah there are bi guys who like it all but nothing in your post (which admittedly is extremely confusing to follow - try just saying what it is you want) would reflect anything bi what-so-ever.
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    Dec 29, 2010 7:09 PM GMT
    You sir are a little bitch.
    Man up and do something I did when I was 12.
  • Karnage

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    Dec 29, 2010 7:10 PM GMT
    beneful1 saidAnother fake first poster thread

    You guys will fall for anything


    Yeah, I'm gonna have to agree with you here
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    Dec 29, 2010 7:40 PM GMT

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    Dec 29, 2010 7:43 PM GMT
    First of all you are not straight or gay for that matter you are a bisexual, neither or either; it's as simple as that really.
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    Dec 29, 2010 7:44 PM GMT
    OtterJoq saidYou're not straight.


    Nor is he Gay!!!