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  • Caguy10

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    Dec 30, 2010 4:54 AM GMT
    why do we want who we can't have? Like ones that aren't single or "out of league"... And so many people on here are looking for relationships, why are you still single with so many attractive guys who are surely in your areas? I'm single by choice...too busy. Although I like to entertain the idea of being in a relationship, ive proven myself incapable! (haven't tried since college...) Thoughts?
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    Dec 30, 2010 8:59 AM GMT
    I'm alone by choice usually cause my last ex. But it's time I move on so I'm back on the market until the next deuce bag makes me go back to preferring being single
  • Caguy10

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    Jan 03, 2011 8:45 AM GMT
    See i kinda miss the relationship my ex and i had which is why I want a relationship when I do...but thinking of my priorities I choose single. Sucks sometimes...
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    Jan 03, 2011 9:15 AM GMT
    I've simply got no one to choose from! Saskatoon (Saskatchewan in general) is too small to offer a wide selection of potential dates. The gay men that I meet at the club tend to be only looking to hook up, so unfortunately online dating is the most effective way for me to meet people as there just isn't much of a "community" here. Even so, I'm sure there are a lot of decent gay men that live here that aren't into the scene, but also don't like the idea of online dating. So I'm basically waiting for that chance encounter that will bring a decent guy into my life icon_smile.gif
  • Caguy10

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    Jan 03, 2011 9:21 AM GMT
    Yeah, I don't like that idea either but its a nice n fun distraction I think. Im not actively searching but meeting people is always fun to me... Ive never known a couple who met online that had a great relationship...
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    Jan 03, 2011 9:34 AM GMT
    well what I've noticed is that a lot of people around my age are into hookups which is something I'm not into at all.
    To be honest, I'm not into the bar or club scene either nor would I think that to be the best place to look since I imagine would be hook up central.

    I've become good friends with some people I've chatted to online, nobody where I live, and they are considerably older than me. The age doesn't bother me though, I'm always up for making new friends and I ideally would like to be friends first with someone before considering a potential relationship.
    I'm old fashioned I guess.

    Also, when I first joined not too long ago, I didn't really know what to do with my profile so I looked up a few and just followed accordingly, so I think my profile might be a little misleading into the character or personality I actually am and that's something I've got to fix up hopefully soon.
  • Caguy10

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    Jan 03, 2011 9:42 AM GMT
    And see, thats what im getting at! For example you n I: we have the same feelings about people our age only wanting hookups...amongst other things, and we're single. With so many of us looking for the same things, I'm lead to believe that out comes down to much more than our priorities, but our preferences...no? Yes?
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    Jan 03, 2011 9:50 AM GMT
    Caguy10 saidAnd see, thats what im getting at! For example you n I: we have the same feelings about people our age only wanting hookups...amongst other things, and we're single. With so many of us looking for the same things, I'm lead to believe that out comes down to much more than our priorities, but our preferences...no? Yes?


    Well for me I don't particularly have a preference, but I take that as meaning a 'type'.
    Apart from that, wanting the same things is a start but as I was saying before I'd have to be friends first with someone before considering a relationship.
    Location can often be a problem too.
    But as for others, I can't really say. They might have a type of person in specific they are looking for, whether it's a specific personality, age, appearance etc.

    So to a degree I guess it comes down to preference, I guess it depends on how picky the person is.
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    Jan 03, 2011 10:36 AM GMT
    I'm waiting for Superman.
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    Jan 03, 2011 10:37 AM GMT
    If he doesn't show up.........I'm going with Robin. icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 03, 2011 10:57 AM GMT
    Some guys don't want relationships because they give in to temptation (aka Grindr) too easily. Other guys are too busy. Others are obese. Others can't find anyone who's on the same page. Others are flakes. And so on.
  • cromi

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    Jan 03, 2011 11:20 AM GMT
    FearTheFall saidSome guys don't want relationships because they give in to temptation (aka Grindr) too easily. Other guys are too busy. Others are obese. Others can't find anyone who's on the same page. Others are flakes. And so on.


    harsh but true *sigh*.
  • Caguy10

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    Jan 04, 2011 8:56 AM GMT
    I think we just need to suck it up and go with the fact that we should go with or priorities rather than our preferences...