Muscle Prejudice?

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    Mar 23, 2008 10:22 AM GMT
    Questions to the well-built muscle-bound guys here:

    1) How often do people misjudge your character, personality and intelligence based on how you look?

    2) Has your physique been a definite advantage for you in finding partners?

    3) Do you sometimes feel objectified?

    4) How has your physique affected your association with average-looking people? Has it been more of a detriment or more of an advantage?

    5) What's the best and worst part of having the physique you have now?
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    Mar 23, 2008 2:40 PM GMT
    I dont think im that big but a lot of people say that I am so...

    1. People misjudge my character all the time...I have a mean looking face (when im not smiling). Its not my fault it my eyebrows that make me look mean.

    2. I think it may have had something to do with it. You have to first be initially attracted to a person but it was my personality that kept them with me.

    3. I like the word admired more..just sounds better to me.

    4. I think my friends like having me around when we go out. Some say I can look intimidating. I dont think so. Im a teddy bear.


    5. The best part of my physique is I love the way I look. Before I started lifting I just didnt like the way I looked. Lifting has boosted my confidence so much. The worst part...the maintenance. I used to work out 6 days a week. All I did was work and lift. Now I work out only 3 days a week with cardio 4-5 days a week.
  • Squarejaw

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    Mar 23, 2008 4:33 PM GMT
    1. People sometimes mistakenly think I'm athletic. I wish that were true, but I can't catch or throw (well, not in the traditional sense). When I was younger and prettier, some people assumed I was a shallow circuit boy.

    2. Hell yes.

    3. Yes. I was mocked and ridiculed enough in adolesence that I get a big kick out of being objectified.

    4. Yes, unfortunately, but only when it comes to sexual relationships, not friendships. I do feel like I've missed out on some great potential partners because I'm only attracted to guys with lean builds. I'm working on that.

    5. The worst part is the pressure I put on myself to maintain my build. I can get too invested in it and begin to feel like if I'm not well-built then no one will like me. Working on that, too.
  • GQjock

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    Mar 24, 2008 1:16 AM GMT
    1. All the time... What makes it worse
    Is that I'm from NY and still have that NY defensive thing goin on... and my friends tell me that it translates to some as attitude icon_confused.gif

    2. Affirmatively... icon_wink.gif

    3. Most of the times it's fun... but when it's not asked for can be annoying sometimes

    4. No I don't think so. I think on the whole it's always been an advantage

    5. Best is the doors that it opens for you
    The worst is that it can become obsessive if you let it
    We Caps can get that way icon_rolleyes.gif
  • Timbales

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    Mar 24, 2008 1:24 AM GMT
    1) How often do people misjudge your character, personality and intelligence based on how you look? - not often

    2) Has your physique been a definite advantage for you in finding partners?- no

    3) Do you sometimes feel objectified?- no

    4) How has your physique affected your association with average-looking people? Has it been more of a detriment or more of an advantage? - I make them feel pretty.

    5) What's the best and worst part of having the physique you have now?
    - I'm often mistaken for John Candy, but he's dead.
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    Mar 24, 2008 2:07 AM GMT
    1) Misjudged...based on how you look?
    I don't see myself in the mirror well...it actually catches me by surprise when I see myself on video near other people, then the difference is striking. So, yeah, I feel I get treated like the guy in the video has a good physique: he's not too bright, and he's a little scary or unapproachable. But it surprises me all the same, because the mirror guy is who I am, and he doesn't have those qualities.

    2) Advantage for you in finding partners?
    I get some double-takes. That usually makes me think my fly is down and it detracts from how cool I could look if I just went with the moment. So no, number 1 above interferes with number 2.

    3) Objectified?
    Hell yes. And that's okay. Don't mind being that piece of meat; then, I tend to catch the others off-guard if I pretend I'm well-spoken.

    4) Average-looking associations? Detriment or advantage?

    I've always been attracted to the meat-heads. My average-looking friends are exactly like me.

    5) Best and worst part of having the physique?
    Best: I love to have the slimmest glimmer of a chance of being noticed. Worst: I wonder...will I break down sooner than someone who has not taxed their body like I have?
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    Mar 24, 2008 2:48 AM GMT
    This is an interesting thread. I have an informal resolution to approach intimidating muscular men when I am out and about. My basic theory is that people generally are too intimidated to talk to them or assume that they're mean, and that they must feel a little bit lonely as a result. It's a good exercise for me because I am quite shy and I figure it catches them off guard in a good way. It generally works - I find that even the sternest-looking muscular guys kind of light up and smile big when you talk to them. Though this is here in LA, maybe it is different elsewhere.
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    Mar 24, 2008 2:52 AM GMT
    carverhouse saidQuestions to the well-built muscle-bound guys here:

    1) How often do people misjudge your character, personality and intelligence based on how you look?

    Not very often, but I have had "average" type guys assume I'm an asshole or circuit-party type of guy just because I appear like a gym boy. Appearance is one thing, but to categorize me into a class of guys and associations I find appalling and not my scene troubles me.

    2) Has your physique been a definite advantage for you in finding partners?

    The way I look STILL has NOT been advantageous for me. Most muscle-guys, I've discovered, seemingly don't know what they want. Once more, they don't communicate effectively as to what they could want, leaving me in wonderment if they would ever be interested. So since my last date 6 years ago, I just don't bother with this anymore. I believe most muscular guys want a dude with a fresh-faced Abercrombie look with a roided-out physique. If they claim otherwise, they're lying!

    3) Do you sometimes feel objectified?

    By older, smarmy guys, yes.

    4) How has your physique affected your association with average-looking people? Has it been more of a detriment or more of an advantage?

    I think my bigger build has been to a disadvantage with average-looking guys. There could be a so-called average type guy I maybe attracted to, but he adamantly believes I could never be into him. Once more, a new dawning of insecurities develops from him, and this only stagnates any progress toward getting to know one another.

    5) What's the best and worst part of having the physique you have now?


    Best part is being healthy. Worst is my weight can fluctuate sometimes.
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    Mar 24, 2008 3:18 AM GMT
    carverhouse saidQuestions to the well-built muscle-bound guys here:

    1) How often do people misjudge your character, personality and intelligence based on how you look?

    2) Has your physique been a definite advantage for you in finding partners?

    3) Do you sometimes feel objectified?

    4) How has your physique affected your association with average-looking people? Has it been more of a detriment or more of an advantage?

    5) What's the best and worst part of having the physique you have now?



    1.) always, but it's goes beyond my physique and which makes me look less able than I really.

    2.) yes, but sometimes it attracts the wrongs, and sometimes they think I'm their next chew toy... >(

    3.) oh yeah... I even wear clothes that hides my physique so that people won't have a distraction when I feel I may have to make a point, like at work, or giving a presentation in class.

    4.) I've found that it's a lot easier to talk to some people, and like 'days of our lives' when I try speaking to others. So, I just stick to the one person I can trust in class and work and don't let people distract me from my objectives.

    5.) Best, I'm healthy and though I don't care I don't get snotty comments about my weight shot at me.
    Worst part is people assume that I'm stupid and easy, and that I live at the gym and have no other interests. But it doesn't bother me too long, I don't bother socializing with people like that.
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    Mar 24, 2008 2:55 PM GMT
    1. People misjudge in that many guys think I will only be interested in guys built like me. I get comments that I can be intimidating or unapproachable (which is why I got rid of the goatee)

    2. Well, sort of in that it attracts people who like how I look

    3. Yes, more so because I am Latin. Some guys have a fantasy about a muscle-bound Latino guy (I'm not sure if they expect me to talk like Ricky Ricardo...)

    4. Yes, and for work, and advantage. I tend to be a pretty commanding person at work normally, but having a muscular physique definitely makes vendors pay more attention to me. (I also think my boss' boss, whom I hate, is scared of me...lol)

    5. Best: I like the way I look; I like to see the effort I've put into it.
    Worst: I think it scares some people off that I'd like to get to know.
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    Mar 24, 2008 5:54 PM GMT


    1) How often do people misjudge your character, personality and intelligence based on how you look?
    I dont really know how ppl judge me on the way I look. I think they see my rank first.

    2) Has your physique been a definite advantage for you in finding partners?
    No! I'm really shy about meeting new guys, it's really bad if i think they are really hot. And they just never seem interested in talking to me.

    3) Do you sometimes feel objectified?
    In the gym constanly!!! guys are always staring at me and watching every move I make.... but Objectified??? no.


    4) How has your physique affected your association with average-looking people? Has it been more of a detriment or more of an advantage?
    I'd say its a detriment, cause those are the kind of guys im most attracted to, but yet they seem to ignore me... unless its the internet.

    5) What's the best and worst part of having the physique you have now?
    best- I feel better about my self esteem
    worst- It's never good enough.. never big enough... still to fat... always something still
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    Mar 24, 2008 8:05 PM GMT
    Hello all! Thanks to y'all for answering.

    The tally so far:

    1) How often do people misjudge your character, personality and intelligence based on how you look?

    OFTEN : 4
    mickeytopogigio: "So, yeah, I feel I get treated like the guy [who] has a good physique: he's not too bright, and he's a little scary or unapproachable."

    SOMETIMES: 3
    cadudesf: "Appearance is one thing, but to categorize me into a class of guys and associations I find appalling and not my scene troubles me."

    NOT OFTEN: 1
    UNSURE: 1

    2) Has your physique been a definite advantage for you in finding partners?

    YES: 4
    gymguy1: "You have to first be initially attracted to a person but it was my personality that kept them with me."

    NO: 4
    rileydp: "No! I'm really shy about meeting new guys, it's really bad if i think they are really hot. And they just never seem interested in talking to me."

    SORT OF: 1

    3) Do you sometimes feel objectified?

    YES: 7
    kidcourageous1348: "Oh yeah... I even wear clothes that hides my physique so that people won't have a distraction when I feel I may have to make a point, like at work, or giving a presentation in class. "

    NO: 2

    4) How has your physique affected your association with average-looking people? Has it been more of a detriment or more of an advantage?

    MORE AN ADVANTAGE: 3
    LatinMuscleSF: "Yes, and for work, and advantage. I tend to be a pretty commanding person at work normally, but having a muscular physique definitely makes vendors pay more attention to me."

    MORE A DETRIMENT: 4
    cadudesf: "I think my bigger build has been to a disadvantage with average-looking guys. There could be a so-called average type guy I maybe attracted to, but he adamantly believes I could never be into him."

    MIDDLE OF THE ROAD: 2

    5) What's the best and worst part of having the physique you have now?

    BEST
    Admiration of Results 2
    Overall Health 2
    Greater Chance of Being Noticed 1
    Self-Esteem 1
    Opens Opportunities 1

    WORST
    Pressure to Maintain: 2
    Tendency of Be Obsessive: 2
    Stereotyping By Others 2
    Chance of Wearing Out Early 1
    Weight Fluctuation 1


    Comments and insights, and more answers, please! :-)
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    Mar 24, 2008 8:11 PM GMT
    1) How often do people misjudge your character, personality and intelligence based on how you look?

    I have no clue, but from some of the comments I've received, I think some guys assume I'm into leather (not!), am slutty (not!), and am mean (not!).

    2) Has your physique been a definite advantage for you in finding partners?

    Not so far.

    3) Do you sometimes feel objectified?

    Not at all.

    4) How has your physique affected your association with average-looking people? Has it been more of a detriment or more of an advantage?

    "Average looking people"??? I consider myself an average guy, and I associate just fine with myself.

    5) What's the best and worst part of having the physique you have now?

    Best part: I feel awesome!
    Worst part: Nothing...cause I FEEL AWESOME!!!

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    Mar 25, 2008 10:43 AM GMT

    Erm... I am NOT a well built musclebound guy... YET. Hehe. But I wanna answer! Sue me!

    1) How often do people misjudge your character, personality and intelligence based on how you look?

    They take one look at me and are stricken dumb with awe. It must be the way I radiate the aura of love, intelligence, peace, freedom, and good will.

    (Translation: They take one look at me and think: GEEK!)

    2) Has your physique been a definite advantage for you in finding partners?

    Yes, I can shimmy through really narrow ventilation ducts and rescue hot musclebound guys trapped by a door locked from the outside.

    (Of course the reason why they were trapped was BECAUSE of them being such hot musclebound guys... if you get my drift. *wiggles eyebrows*)

    3) Do you sometimes feel objectified?

    Hm. Yeah. I think I ought to be in a museum labeled "Perfectly preserved specimen of Homo sapiens superioris" when I die. I've had a few offers, but I'm waiting for the Smithsonian one.

    4) How has your physique affected your association with average-looking people? Has it been more of a detriment or more of an advantage?

    They try to steal my cookies. My preciousssssss. Mine!

    5) What's the best and worst part of having the physique you have now?

    Worst: I blow away in a stiff gale. I break when my buddies try the friendly masculine shoulderpunch greeting on me.

    Best: Having to rely on my gray matter to survive my wartorn teens and my l33t monkey skillz. I can dress like a ninja and actually BE one. MWAHAHA.

    Okay... that wasn't serious. LOL. But yeah, guys who weren't always ripped tend to be real sweethearts once you get to know them. It's those guys who were perfect all their lives you have to watch out for.
  • jgymnast733

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    Feb 22, 2009 1:24 AM GMT
    1.Always
    2.Yes
    3.Yes
    4.Yes/an advantage
    5.Having sex with str8 curious guys/Guys getting to clingy.
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    Feb 22, 2009 1:48 AM GMT


    1) How often do people misjudge your character, personality and intelligence based on how you look?

    Depends on the city. In redneck county georgia, people judge me because im a minority. Some people assume im an asshole because of my demeanor and decent looks (and they're right in assuming that).

    2) Has your physique been a definite advantage for you in finding partners?

    Yes. Gay men seem to be attracted to the superficial.

    3) Do you sometimes feel objectified?

    No. I dont give people a chance to do it. Yes I work out a lot AND I'm also in medical school. Judge at your own risk.

    4) How has your physique affected your association with average-looking people? Has it been more of a detriment or more of an advantage?

    Mixed. Some people seem to be intimidated, others see it as inspiration to improve their own fitness.

    5) What's the best and worst part of having the physique you have now?

    Best- After all these years of working towards it, I'm completely satisfied with my body. I wouldn't trade it for anyone else's.

    Worst- none.
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    Feb 25, 2009 8:40 PM GMT
    Gee, I hope I'm qualified to even answer this question ("well-built muscle-bound guys"?).

    1) How often do people misjudge your character, personality and intelligence based on how you look?

    Quite often, I think. It's not just that I have muscles, but I'm black, I look younger than my age, and I have muscles. So even though I'm a college graduate and a published author, people often mistake me for young and dumb (because obviously, an intelligent middle aged man wouldn't take the time to keep in shape, right?).

    2) Has your physique been a definite advantage for you in finding partners?

    Of course it has. Pecs will get you laid. Ask any man who's got 'em.

    3) Do you sometimes feel objectified? Yes, but I like it. When you're 52 years old, it's a major compliment to be considered a hot piece of meat.

    4) How has your physique affected your association with average-looking people? Has it been more of a detriment or more of an advantage? I think my looks are inviting rather than off-putting. Rather than being intimidated, people approach me. Total strangers touch me (men, women, children). So, since I'm pretty much of a "people person", I'd say advantage.

    5) What's the best and worst part of having the physique you have now?

    Best part? See 2 above. I guess if there's a worse part, it's the ever-increasing effort to maintain this physique.
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    Feb 25, 2009 9:28 PM GMT
    carverhouse saidQuestions to the well-built muscle-bound guys here:

    14) How has your physique affected your association with average-looking people? Has it been more of a detriment or more of an advantage?



    Whoah, I think this question really tells a little about how you see yourself. You have to remember, not everyone likes really muscular people. Some people think it's outright gross.

    I LOVE IT!

    Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so I would be careful when saying something like "average-looking" people. You also have to consider what average-looking is. To me, you can be very muscular and still average looking because I judge that by someone's face.
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    Feb 25, 2009 11:06 PM GMT
    I love the way this thread plays to people's vanity.
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    Feb 27, 2009 1:33 AM GMT
    When I was a goofy teenager full of acne, people would say so easily that I was intelligent. As soon as I figured the democratic prejudice behind the compliment, I felt offended with it. icon_razz.gif