My Parents Found My RJ

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    Dec 31, 2010 8:21 AM GMT
    So my parents googled my "stuff I don't care if people see" username, which is for stuff like eBay and here. They thought this was a hookup site and went through my forum posts. *facepalm* It's like, my profile says I'm in a relationship and hubby's right there. (my parents have yet to meet hubby btw - might not go so well?)
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    Dec 31, 2010 8:24 AM GMT
    That's terrible. I hope all goes well.

    That's why I usually go by my alter ego: The Kuntster

    No one professional will ever find me.
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    Dec 31, 2010 8:46 AM GMT
    I have so many freaking user names across the internet I'm shocked that my family hasn't run into one of them. Even my youtube one since my mom is on it all the time watching scrapbooking stuff.

    Sucks to hear it's happened to you dude, I'm glad though all of my posts are hidden if you search them while offline. Well they were going to find out about your guy eventually better earlier than later I think icon_razz.gif. However hope that everything goes well for you and him with the folks
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    Dec 31, 2010 9:09 AM GMT
    Thanks guys - they know about hubby, but they disapprove of me dating a guy even though they know I can't get it up for a bloodspout. I'm still tempted to just delete my RJ and be like, you can't e-stalk me anymore other than on Facebook (I'm friends with their shared account, not a big deal since I rarely use Facebook).
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    Dec 31, 2010 9:11 AM GMT
    use the hidden account button (?) so only people signed on can see you and just say you deleted it icon_razz.gif unless you think they might become apart of the network than that might be strange haha icon_razz.gif
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    Dec 31, 2010 9:58 AM GMT
    navi_saiyan saiduse the hidden account button (?) so only people signed on can see you and just say you deleted it icon_razz.gif unless you think they might become apart of the network than that might be strange haha icon_razz.gif

    None of the preferences stops google from searching RJ. Everything, including your profile, shows up.
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    Dec 31, 2010 10:00 AM GMT
    FearTheFall saidSo my parents googled my "stuff I don't care if people see" username, which is for stuff like eBay and here. They thought this was a hookup site and went through my forum posts. *facepalm* It's like, my profile says I'm in a relationship and hubby's right there. (my parents have yet to meet hubby btw - might not go so well?)

    Why were your parents googling that?
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    Dec 31, 2010 10:00 AM GMT
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    navi_saiyan saiduse the hidden account button (?) so only people signed on can see you and just say you deleted it icon_razz.gif unless you think they might become apart of the network than that might be strange haha icon_razz.gif

    None of the preferences stops google from searching RJ. Everything, including your profile, shows up.

    checked and mine didn't icon_razz.gif (profile that is and no pics of mine either)
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    Dec 31, 2010 10:17 AM GMT
    I have my profile hidden to the outside and occasionally search for myself, even cut and pasting some of my posts... The only thing I found was a reference to when i set my profile public so I could be eligible for MOTD. But I only use my user name here... no other Lostboy anywhere on the net has anything to do with me....

    Instead of delete you can just make your profile private and change your name.
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    Dec 31, 2010 10:35 AM GMT
    navi_saiyan said
    Caslon17000 said
    navi_saiyan saiduse the hidden account button (?) so only people signed on can see you and just say you deleted it icon_razz.gif unless you think they might become apart of the network than that might be strange haha icon_razz.gif

    None of the preferences stops google from searching RJ. Everything, including your profile, shows up.

    checked and mine didn't icon_razz.gif (profile that is and no pics of mine either)

    only a couple of your postings and your pic show ip. But someone can just sign up as a member and access your profile then.
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    Dec 31, 2010 11:05 AM GMT
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    FearTheFall saidSo my parents googled my "stuff I don't care if people see" username, which is for stuff like eBay and here. They thought this was a hookup site and went through my forum posts. *facepalm* It's like, my profile says I'm in a relationship and hubby's right there. (my parents have yet to meet hubby btw - might not go so well?)

    Well, dude, that actually does suck. Us geri's didn't have that problem when we were your age (transistors hadn't been invented yet and we were too busy being kindling at witch trials, I guess.)

    Still, based on some of our past 'chats', I had to chuckle that your parents read your RJ profile (and presumably your website) and your forum posts...and the worst thing that happend is that it might be ackward about the hubby? --where would that be, at the next clan rally??? ---they didn't have a problem with your racist, antisemetic, homophobic rants????

    Jeezus!?! icon_eek.gif

    And I'm actually saying all of this with a smile on my face and not trying to start a fight with you at all tonight, FTF...I've read enough of your posts to know that you're a little more multidimensional then your ED site.

    But ya gotta admit, that's gonna be pretty weird for some of us lefty, pinko, Canadian, socialist, butt-fucking homos to relate too. icon_lol.gif

    Hugs! icon_wink.gif


    LOL. The ED is a JOKE. It's just humor that is not PC, so liberals see it as racism when really, it's about don't-give-a-fuck fun. ED makes fun of everyone equally. There is a huge difference between http://www.encyclopediadramatica.com/Gay and http://www.godhatesfags.com. Also, the website in my profile headline isn't mine, it's just informative.
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    Dec 31, 2010 11:05 AM GMT
    Caslon17000 said
    FearTheFall saidSo my parents googled my "stuff I don't care if people see" username, which is for stuff like eBay and here. They thought this was a hookup site and went through my forum posts. *facepalm* It's like, my profile says I'm in a relationship and hubby's right there. (my parents have yet to meet hubby btw - might not go so well?)

    Why were your parents googling that?


    They wanted to look at my ebay stuff, I think, and they found this.
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    Dec 31, 2010 11:09 AM GMT
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    navi_saiyan saiduse the hidden account button (?) so only people signed on can see you and just say you deleted it icon_razz.gif unless you think they might become apart of the network than that might be strange haha icon_razz.gif

    None of the preferences stops google from searching RJ. Everything, including your profile, shows up.

    Last August I changed from public viewable to only view if logged on. For a couple of months google would find the old public version that it caches, but after a few months, no profile appears.

    So FTF, don't delete your account. Just make it viewable only if logged on. No difference from the google perspective.
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    Dec 31, 2010 11:12 AM GMT
    socalfitness said
    Caslon17000 said
    navi_saiyan saiduse the hidden account button (?) so only people signed on can see you and just say you deleted it icon_razz.gif unless you think they might become apart of the network than that might be strange haha icon_razz.gif

    None of the preferences stops google from searching RJ. Everything, including your profile, shows up.

    Last August I changed from public viewable to only view if logged on. For a couple of months google would find the old public version that it caches, but after a few months, no profile appears.

    So FTF, don't delete your account. Just make it viewable only if logged on. No difference from the google perspective.


    I did that over a month ago but it still shows up in google. Maybe it'll take longer to get erased from the cache...
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    Dec 31, 2010 12:24 PM GMT
    I don't know what kind of relationship you have with your parents, be it good or bad, however, if they question this tell them you are old enough to make your own decisions and what you view online is your own business.

    Besides, you are well liked here and would be greatly missed if you left alltogether.
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    Dec 31, 2010 12:33 PM GMT
    FearTheFall saidSo my parents googled my "stuff I don't care if people see" username, which is for stuff like eBay and here. They thought this was a hookup site and went through my forum posts. *facepalm* It's like, my profile says I'm in a relationship and hubby's right there. (my parents have yet to meet hubby btw - might not go so well?)


    I will address this in number form

    1. Why the fuck would they google your handle?
    2. What assholes
    3. I hope they read this post and know that I called them assholes.
    4. You can adopt my mother. She loves EVERYONE.
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    Dec 31, 2010 12:39 PM GMT
    icon_eek.gifdamn... I am gonna change my username which is my real surname. I don't my family track me downicon_lol.gif
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    Dec 31, 2010 12:41 PM GMT
    I constantly cuss, talk about my sexual activities (or lack of), make plenty of ad hominem attacks, and refer to my pooping adventures profusely on facebook. And my mom is my friend on it. *shrug*
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    Dec 31, 2010 1:17 PM GMT
    Well at least you don't have any nude pics. Some hot as hell ones but not nude.
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    Dec 31, 2010 1:20 PM GMT
    FearTheFall saidSo my parents googled my "stuff I don't care if people see" username, which is for stuff like eBay and here. They thought this was a hookup site and went through my forum posts. *facepalm* It's like, my profile says I'm in a relationship and hubby's right there. (my parents have yet to meet hubby btw - might not go so well?)


    Well, it could be worse, they could have seen your private pics..... Did they know you were gay beofre finding this? If so, shouldn't be a problem...If not, well, at least it's all out in the open now eh, tell them to respect your privacy in future though and threaten to hack their computers to find out what they have been searching to make sure they do......Most parents have no accurate idea of the real level of hacker skill their kids have, so they will probably assume you can do this regardless....Introduce them to your bf....Make your profile private....


    That is all.

    Sage has spoken.
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    Dec 31, 2010 1:25 PM GMT
    FearTheFall saidSo my parents googled my "stuff I don't care if people see" username, which is for stuff like eBay and here. They thought this was a hookup site and went through my forum posts. *facepalm* It's like, my profile says I'm in a relationship and hubby's right there. (my parents have yet to meet hubby btw - might not go so well?)

    You're 21 and your parents are going through your online posts? Do they mind if you go through theirs, if they have their own online accounts?

    If it were me I might be tempted to prowl around on them online in retaliation, maybe find some embarrassing things, or at least threaten them with it to bring them to their senses, but 2 wrongs don't make a right. Hell, I don't even think about looking at my husband's stuff, not his e-mails, not his posts, nothing.

    He knows I avert my eyes when I walk into the room and he's using his computer, it would be like opening his mail. I trust him, but there would be no trust if I looked over his shoulder at the screen. When he wants to show me something he calls me over to look, otherwise my eyes see nothing.

    To me that's a definition of respect. Don't want to be too hard on your parents, whom I'm sure you love, but I don't think they've transitioned to the point of respecting their fully-grown adult son. If you're living at home that may be making it harder for them to let go.
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    Dec 31, 2010 1:27 PM GMT
    How unfortunate that you have parents that feel they have to go to such lengths to invade your "stuff" and your privacy. I've often wondered what it would be like to have parent's who did that kind of thing... go through my room when I lived at home, giving me the 3rd degree on things that were my business and none of theirs. Glad I've never had to go there.
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    Dec 31, 2010 1:31 PM GMT
    Surely after browsing for more than 5 minutes your parents realized that this is not a "hook up site." Hell, if you were after getting laid on this site it would seem that your best option would be to turn your politics around 180 degrees, and post slightly more liberal thoughts in order to fit in better (which, naturally, leads to more sex with strangers.icon_smile.gif ) It seems that if they have read your 700 posts, they probably know everything they care to (and some stuff they probably would prefer not to.) You may as well keep the account- this can be the part of your social network with your parents that makes them feel awkward.icon_twisted.gif Next phone call ask if they read your latest post on the joys of anal sex!

    You can google West77 all day long and not find me... use the emial address that I have connected to this account and search my birthday listed here (same year, different month.) West77 was actually chosen from a 1977 VW Westy that I own (I couldn't think of a username not connected to me and was working on the van earlier in the day when I registered.)

    Anyhow, hope you keep your account... and give some serious consideration to the topics that you can now include in those phone calls (and family dinners!)
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    Dec 31, 2010 1:31 PM GMT
    Look, that's a pretty gross invasion of privacy. You're angry. Tell them that they have no right.

    What kind of Republican are you anyway, the apologist for power abuser type or the don't tread on me type?

    The line has been drawn in the sand, Hoss.

    LOL.
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    Dec 31, 2010 2:32 PM GMT
    It's funny how some of the older folks have forgotten about the whole child/parent relationship. The guy is only 21 and still in college. Parents check up on their kids, thats what they do, he isn't old. They don't stop caring when you reach the legal age limit. I don't think its considered an invasion of privacy. Especially if he is still under their payroll.