i've fallen in love with my straight roommate

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    Jan 02, 2011 8:47 AM GMT
    what should i do? i have totally fallen for him.
    he is straight but he is treating me so differently than the others
    he wakes me up almost every morning and he basically spend everyday in my room just laying there doing nothing
    and when i asked him why is he always in my room he said he just feels like chilling with me
    the other day he woke me up as usual, made us breakfast(which i didn't even ask him to do) and ate with me in my room
    i mean normally no one would do all these to a roommate if you have nothing for him right?
    but he did
    do u guys think he is interested in me and do i have a chance? should i do something?
    but the things is he's a straight guy and i don't wanna to do anything stupid to scared him away and ruin what we have right now
    what sould i do?
    please help i really need some advice from u guys thx
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    Jan 02, 2011 9:03 AM GMT
    WHY are there so many threads posted by people who have only posted ONCE?
  • Bunjamon

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    Jan 02, 2011 9:56 AM GMT
    He's straight, you're not. He will never feel the same way about you as you feel about him, so leave it alone. If you need to move out, move out.

    I make breakfast for my roommate and we sit together and eat and laugh and smile and make eye contact but he's STRAIGHT and nothing will ever happen there. Don't read into the fact that he's friendly to you as a romantic advance.
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    Jan 02, 2011 10:25 AM GMT
    Bunjamon saidHe's straight, you're not. He will never feel the same way about you as you feel about him, so leave it alone. If you need to move out, move out.

    I make breakfast for my roommate and we sit together and eat and laugh and smile and make eye contact but he's STRAIGHT and nothing will ever happen there. Don't read into the fact that he's friendly to you as a romantic advance.


    What he said.
    He's straight and he's absolutely cool with you so I personally wouldn't jeopardise the friendship by mistaking his friendliness for romantic intentions.

    It's actually good that you found a straight guy that's completely fine with hanging out the way he does with you, big prize there.
    Unless he specifies something more than friendship, and by that I mean the words literally come out of his mouth, I would just see him as an awesome straight guy who is a good friend and completely okay with who you are.

    Keep that if you can, that's hard to find.
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    Jan 02, 2011 11:48 AM GMT
    jake_tm saidwhat should i do? i have totally fallen for him.
    he is straight but he is treating me so differently than the others
    he wakes me up almost every morning and he basically spend everyday in my room just laying there doing nothing
    and when i asked him why is he always in my room he said he just feels like chilling with me
    the other day he woke me up as usual, made us breakfast(which i didn't even ask him to do) and ate with me in my room
    i mean normally no one would do all these to a roommate if you have nothing for him right?
    but he did
    do u guys think he is interested in me and do i have a chance? should i do something?
    but the things is he's a straight guy and i don't wanna to do anything stupid to scared him away and ruin what we have right now
    what sould i do?
    please help i really need some advice from u guys thx


    Now be careful and don't do anything stupid. He cares about you, obviously, but he's not interested in you.

    I have a roommate who tickles me, takes care of me when I'm sick, gives me food, and he takes advantage of any occasion to kiss me on the cheek. But I've been in this situation in high school also, I made a move and it wasn't the best decision.

    I say you stay put and enjoy him as a friend ;-)
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    Jan 02, 2011 11:54 AM GMT
    yeah...im going to have to agree with all of them. by all of them i mean the people that say dont read into it. been there done that, he's straight and cool with being just friends. IF he wanted to be something more he wouldve made the first move, and that does not include making breakfast.
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    Jan 03, 2011 5:20 AM GMT
    jake_tm saidwhat should i do? i have totally fallen for him.
    he is straight but he is treating me so differently than the others
    he wakes me up almost every morning and he basically spend everyday in my room just laying there doing nothing
    and when i asked him why is he always in my room he said he just feels like chilling with me
    the other day he woke me up as usual, made us breakfast(which i didn't even ask him to do) and ate with me in my room
    i mean normally no one would do all these to a roommate if you have nothing for him right?
    but he did
    do u guys think he is interested in me and do i have a chance? should i do something?
    but the things is he's a straight guy and i don't wanna to do anything stupid to scared him away and ruin what we have right now
    what sould i do?
    please help i really need some advice from u guys thx


    if you are starting to develop feelings for him, stop being roommates asap. Save your friendship - the most valuable thing in the world.
  • lozano86

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    Jan 03, 2011 5:26 AM GMT
    dont put it out there. it messes up a friendship. i fell for my straight friend. Really cool italian guy. But oh man. when i told him. things changed. we're still friends but not as close as we use to be.

    dont fuck shit up
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    Jan 03, 2011 5:27 AM GMT
    JAKEBENSON saidWHY are there so many threads posted by people who have only posted ONCE?


    because I have many many personalities..... jks
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    Jan 03, 2011 5:28 AM GMT
    JAKEBENSON saidWHY are there so many threads posted by people who have only posted ONCE?

    I was just wondering that myself...
  • needleninja

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    Jan 03, 2011 5:28 AM GMT
    hmmmm, i have two possibilities here:

    1. this is fake

    2. this is very unheard of and interesting, in fact it could be that hes not out or that he is straight and that u just need to move on.
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    Jan 03, 2011 5:30 AM GMT
    Ugh this is a dangerous road I try to avoid. When I was deep in the back corner of the closet, I would secretly fall for several straight guys then try to become really close to them because I wanted to spend time with them.

    The worst was when I started college. Me and my crush because best friends and I was literally obsessed with him. For almost 2 years. It was ridiculous. Now that my crush has subsided, we are still good friends, but I wonder why I am even friends with him anymore. Its a bad road to go down, trust me.
  • needleninja

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    Jan 03, 2011 6:13 AM GMT
    angelite saidNo one here's gonna tell you what you'd like to hear: He's only treating you this way because he could possibly feel the same way as you do for him. Go ahead! Make that first move.

    No one will tell you this because we've all been there and done that. We've all met some particular guy in our lives with whom we've had deep, meaningful conversations late at night with no one else around. We've all had a certain guy who finds pleasure in our company, whether it's just chilling on his couch watching TV or going to a local coffee shop and working on our laptops together. This same guy would send you text messages out of the blue asking "What's up?" We've all had this certain guy who'd show some physical affection to make us wonder, as in an embrace which lasts too long. Using your example, we've all had a guy to go out of his way to treat us special, like making us breakfast on a few occaisions. This "special" attention and more gets us all googly-eyed because "Why else would he treat me this way?"

    Although we kept looking for signs to let us know otherwise; we all knew this guy, who had unknowingly stolen our hearts, was straight. We knew this and would still get sucked in; their kind ways toward "only" us would cause the emotional affinity toward them to grow more and more. And we all had to make the same choice of coming clean about or feelings or shutting him out of our lives because it all became too much to bear at some point.

    The thing is, since you have developed feelings for your roommate, your mind tends to skew toward the wishful thinking of him possibly being interested in you as more than a friend. The truth of the matter is he does see you as more than a friend - a good friend. Your roommate values your friendship, moreso than just a mere acquaintance, and is treating you like a good friend would. Also, you guys are roommates; of course he will do extra special things like hang out with you and cook you breakfast because that's what good roommates/friends do.

    If you know for a fact of him being straight - and you seem pretty sure - then there can be nothing more. Accept his gestures of friendship for what they are, gestures of friendship, and move along. If you cannot not, then prepare to be hurt from the silent pining while wishing for something more or from losing his friendship by laying your hand on the table.

    Wow, it's past my bedtime.


    ill have to disagree with this since i havent been though this experiance before.
  • Little_Spoon

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    Jan 03, 2011 6:14 AM GMT
    Ignore all the above and give him a blowjob.



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    Jan 03, 2011 6:15 AM GMT
    Little_Spoon saidIgnore all the above and give him a blowjob.





    lol
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    Jan 03, 2011 6:16 AM GMT
    Been there, done that.

    Some straight guys love the attention...they may even be desperate for it.

    You're better off finding a guy who knows what he wants and knows he wants you. Trust me. Don't pursue him. He'll pursue you if he wants you.
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    Jan 03, 2011 6:43 AM GMT
    JAKEBENSON saidWHY are there so many threads posted by people who have only posted ONCE?


    Yeah, I'm starting to smell a rat with these first time posts about unrequited love for a friend/acquaintance/roommate.

    OP, if you are genuine, just go to the previous threads on this subject and check out all the advice therein.
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    Jan 03, 2011 6:46 AM GMT
    he sounds bottom-curious, deliver him to me. mmmhh waaahahah!


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  • prime02

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    Jan 03, 2011 7:10 AM GMT
    if you know he's straight, then don't even bother going down that path

    I recently just graduated, and was in a frat. Guys would always come and lie on my bed just to hang out, even lie right next to me like we were cuddling. Guys look for affirmation from guys that are like themselves, it helps support our male ago that we're "legit". He likes to spend time with you... because HEY, he's your roommate.. which means you guys were friends before (unless you were matched randomly through craigslist roommates or something) You guys are buds, so be happy that you guys are close roommates, and not one of those pairs who hate each other cause they left the milk out, or forgot to take out the trash lol
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    Jan 03, 2011 12:25 PM GMT
    JAKEBENSON saidWHY are there so many threads posted by people who have only posted ONCE?

    I think they are already members, but they want to be anonymous for these personal postings.
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    Jan 03, 2011 12:41 PM GMT
    BuckYou said
    jake_tm saidwhat should i do? i have totally fallen for him.
    he is straight but he is treating me so differently than the others
    he wakes me up almost every morning and he basically spend everyday in my room just laying there doing nothing
    and when i asked him why is he always in my room he said he just feels like chilling with me
    the other day he woke me up as usual, made us breakfast(which i didn't even ask him to do) and ate with me in my room
    i mean normally no one would do all these to a roommate if you have nothing for him right?
    but he did
    do u guys think he is interested in me and do i have a chance? should i do something?
    but the things is he's a straight guy and i don't wanna to do anything stupid to scared him away and ruin what we have right now
    what sould i do?
    please help i really need some advice from u guys thx


    Now be careful and don't do anything stupid. He cares about you, obviously, but he's not interested in you.

    I have a roommate who tickles me, takes care of me when I'm sick, gives me food, and he takes advantage of any occasion to kiss me on the cheek. But I've been in this situation in high school also, I made a move and it wasn't the best decision.

    I say you stay put and enjoy him as a friend ;-)


    Had a roommate kind of like that too yeah... never make a move indeed.. incidentally buckyou is def adorable enough to want to be the rommate for =)
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    Jan 03, 2011 12:42 PM GMT
    insatiablelover206 saidhe sounds bottom-curious, deliver him to me. mmmhh waaahahah!


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    Shit, my evilness is being won over...

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    Jan 03, 2011 12:50 PM GMT
    Maybe if we could see a picture of him, we could help...icon_redface.gif
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    Jan 03, 2011 1:19 PM GMT
    I wonder if there's such a thing as a male fag hag (a term for women I don't like, BTW). Gay men can simply make good friends, and just like some straight women like to hang out with us, maybe some straight men do, too.

    Course it's always assumed, and the women will even tell you, that they like the fact they can be with a man without the usual sexual pressures going on with us. Maybe for a straight guy it would be their feeling less threatened by the competition that some other males are always generating around them. Not to mention our being cleaner & neater in many cases -- hanging out with piggy straight guys wouldn't seem very pleasant, unless one yourself.

    Well, whatever the reason, it could just be this roommate feels more comfortable around the OP. But I agree the romantic thoughts have got to go.
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    Jan 03, 2011 1:37 PM GMT
    Bunjamon saidHe's straight, you're not. He will never feel the same way about you as you feel about him, so leave it alone. If you need to move out, move out.

    I make breakfast for my roommate and we sit together and eat and laugh and smile and make eye contact but he's STRAIGHT and nothing will ever happen there. Don't read into the fact that he's friendly to you as a romantic advance.


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