Jan 02, 2011 1:51 PM GMT
Hey guys...planning to come out to friends in the next few days. Figured I'd just make it simple and sweet. Could definitely use a little encouragement though...when you came out, how did it go? What's your story?
Dantheman79 saidMy story is a bit different for most guys my age, as I came out a bit later than most of my peers (around 25/26).
I honestly didn't have an inkling that I was attracted to men until right about then; I'd always dated girls, and my family and friends were used to this.
Soooooo, it was a bit of a shock to them when I drove home one day, aged 25/26, and told all of my family that I was gay. The initial reaction was mixed; although my parents and extended family reaffirmed their love for me, not a single one was happy about "what" I turned out to be. My dad took it the hardest, and I know that he had bouts of insomnia for quite a while afterwards (cuz mom told me about them).
That was 6ish years ago, and I must say that my parents (and I) have come a long way. Even though they still struggle with it, we can talk about it casually and with a sense of humor! My extended family is cool with it now, and my friends and coworkers were never an issue. I suspect that with the passage of time things will get even better.
All this to say, everyone's coming out story is unique. Some have an easier time of it, some have a more difficult time with it, but all of us would agree (and it's not often that I speak for ALL of us ) that it is truly liberating. Now that you are comfortable enough to give people the whole picture of who you are, there'll never be any fear about "what might so-and-so think about my homo-ness", and you can be as free with them as you want.
Congratulations, and I look forward to seeing your post after you tell them!
3blahs saidIt'll be liberating. It's a bigger deal in your head than it will be for them. I had huge amounts of anxiety before telling some of my best friends and family but they were like "cool... no biggie!" They were happy for me and realized it was a big step.
You'll be fine.
Desmondlug saidI came out before I was ready to lol. I was around the age of 14. I had begun exploring my sexuality and what it meant to be gay, until my brother found my stash of porn lol. Until one day we got in an argument and he used that against me and told the world, and showed them my stash. It was hard on me because I remember fighting with him until he said he was gonna tell everyone I was gay, the last thing I said was "please don't im not ready". It didn't stop him.....
I really wasn't ready to come out so it was difficult for me. Questions were thrown out everywhere I was not ready to respond, I didn't even know much about the gay world especially gay sex. It was to hard for me, every insult thrown at me because I was gay I didn't know how to respond back to. I stood there and took all the insults about gay men, that I know are not true today.
All i can say is that if you feel ready and I am sure you are then go for it!