ItsMyLife saidThanks for all the responses. If gay is not a lifestyle then there shouldn't be any choice. But in other forums I have heard guys talk about bi-sexualality and other ideas as preference. Also guys have said they can have sex with women but they want to have sex with men? Is that a choice? I mean if it came down to it I could probably make myself do it too, but I don't want to. But when I say that my sexuallity is not a choice I feel like I am contradicting myself.
And its hard not to be either a race or a lifestyle because we are treated like both by people who dont accept us. Anti gay movements treat us as liek a group of poeple who are like a race, and descriminate against us like we are. Then they tell us its a choice and that we dont have to be this way.
And if it is all just being homosexual, and only about sex then why aren't we just one of the guys. We actually dont want to be treated equall when we sometimes austrisize( that is spelled so wrong but i dont have spell check on this computer) oourselves from other people.
You know what I have so many issues that I have to deal with on my own and I feel that i wont stay on topic and neither will this forum. So thanks for the input everyone
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ened text above. Go question. I took me years to figure this one out. I believe that if a man is straight, than he has feelings for Mostly women - no 'choice'. If a man is gay, than he has feelings mostly for men - no 'choice'. And if someone is bisexual, than they believe that they have equal desire to love &/or have sex with people of both sexes - still no choice. Sure, there have been a few cases when a straight guy in 'forced' into a situation where he has the option of having sex with another man. Either be it cause he owes a gay/bi drug dealer money, is in prison, or does it to get a whole Lot of Money; but in the case of they straight man having gay sex, I say it's a choice. Whereas the bisexual person happens to be attracted to both, or lacks a 'moral compass'; in which case they're both like straights and gays, and don't have choice really, when it's either biology or a need to piss someone off (that overpowers his desire to be with women stictly).
In my case, I feel that I discovered something that was already there. No part of me simply decided I could flip a switch to accept a life where I'd be the scorn of society and a kid on my own wanting to be made fun of and ostricized from my peers. If it were the case I'd switch back the first year after coming out to everyone. And though I tried for a month, nothing could change how I felt towards other guys, and nothing could make my feelings change. I accepted myself completely, but never felt I had any choice in it anymore than I could of chosen my family.