Found out something disturbing

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    Jan 03, 2011 1:02 AM GMT
    So to lay the story down.

    I've logging happening on my fancy router that logs all requests via every port on the router, all coming in and all going out, I'm always interested in how is going where, I even have pretty little graphs to show me how much bandwidth each site I visit regularly in a week uses, it's kinda fun.. but anyway.

    It breaks it down to each device and shit, along with gives a list of all URL's and what not..

    So, this is what I found disturbing.

    The guy I'm seeing has a profile on here.. but that's not whats really disturbing.. whats really disturbing is he isn't using his photo, he's using someone elses.

    I found URL requests coming from the mac address of his ipad.

    This I do not like, fine if he wants to get an account here but fucking naaaa he's not on here to find out advice with someone elses photo, hes on here to watch me!!!

    NOT FUCKING HAPPY
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    Jan 03, 2011 1:04 AM GMT
    Honey. Sweetie. Darling. This is too complicated. You know what that may mean. We'll be here with beer (or low carb liquor options, if you prefer).
  • GQjock

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    Jan 03, 2011 1:08 AM GMT
    That's always been a big NFW as far as I'm concerned

    I've seen it a number of times and even had it done to me
    I know a lot of this internet stuff is anonymous and guys can sometimes get away with it but
    damn ... unless you look like Dick Cheney there's no reason to use another photo other than of yourself

    it's pathetic and passive aggressive sh*t icon_neutral.gif
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    Jan 03, 2011 1:13 AM GMT
    Well I guess he'll know now after reading this
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    Jan 03, 2011 1:15 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidSo to lay the story down.

    I've logging happening on my fancy router that logs all requests via every port on the router, all coming in and all going out, I'm always interested in how is going where, I even have pretty little graphs to show me how much bandwidth each site I visit regularly in a week uses, it's kinda fun.. but anyway.

    It breaks it down to each device and shit, along with gives a list of all URL's and what not..

    So, this is what I found disturbing.

    The guy I'm seeing has a profile on here.. but that's not whats really disturbing.. whats really disturbing is he isn't using his photo, he's using someone elses.

    I found URL requests coming from the mac address of his ipad.

    This I do not like, fine if he wants to get an account here but fucking naaaa he's not on here to find out advice with someone elses photo, hes on here to watch me!!!

    NOT FUCKING HAPPY

    OK, you're totally smarter than me about computer stuff, I've always deferred to you here, but I'm not sure about the main issue with this, since I kinda lost you with the URL requests thing, which I guess means you were able to trace him back to his iPad?

    So you've actually met this guy in person? And he's using a phony pic on RJ? And you think his motive is to spy on you here, no other reason for it?

    Not maybe to hide his presence here from you, so he can say stuff anonymously without you realizing it's him, and he can perhaps hook up with other guys? Well, I suppose not very reassuring to you either way. I don't much care for guys who use phony pics myself.

    But what made you suspicious that you checked this? Has he used his iPad at your place via your WiFi, leaving this history? I'm so backward about these things... icon_redface.gif
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    Jan 03, 2011 1:34 AM GMT
    Deco, we were dating, we were in a relationship together, I just confronted him and it's true, he claimed he did it once, felt bad and didn't log back in.

    anyway, we just broke up.
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    Jan 03, 2011 1:52 AM GMT
    lilTanker said...
    I've logging happening on my fancy router that logs all requests via every port on the router, all coming in and all going out, I'm always interested in how is going where, I even have pretty little graphs to show me how much bandwidth each site I visit regularly in a week uses, it's kinda fun.. but anyway.

    It breaks it down to each device and shit, along with gives a list of all URL's and what not..

    So, this is what I found disturbing.

    The guy I'm seeing has a profile on here.. ...


    Dude, traffic sniffing on your bf? Tsk. Tsk. icon_lol.gif

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    Jan 03, 2011 1:59 AM GMT
    Oh no.
    Why didn't he just say he was going to join RJ and then do so?
    Oh well..*hugs lilTanker*
    -Doug
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    Jan 03, 2011 2:00 AM GMT
    GAMRican saidDude, traffic sniffing on your bf? Tsk. Tsk. icon_lol.gif


    I'm logging my own network, my own router, not his and I only record the accessible information of URL accessed, time, duration, packages sent/received and the like, HTTPS requests and the like are only tagged as having been accessed, I certainly don't store any sensitive information since that would leave my bank account details out in the open as well as anyone elses who logged on and I have a LOT of mates who login on my network.
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    Jan 03, 2011 2:56 AM GMT
    5ebastian saidCan I ask u something

    If u suspect ur lover is cheating on u, do u think it's justified to set up a dummy profile and contact him ... See how they respond. I'm not talking about being suggestive, just a simple hello.

    Or is that violating his privacy?

    no I don't think it's appropriate.

    If you suspect him of cheating then you talk to him, ask him, express your concerns. If this doesn't ease your worries and your searching for proof (because you certainly aren't searching to clear his name) then you leave.

    If it's that difficult to talk to him and trust him and he hasn't adequately eased your worries nothing you find will put an end to it and if you don't find solid proof you'll most likely not redevelop trust in him anyway.

    And if you find proof what are you going to do?
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    Jan 03, 2011 3:03 AM GMT
    Modern technology makes stalking so easy.... but also reveals alot. Sorry
  • UnluckyTitan

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    Jan 03, 2011 3:45 AM GMT
    First off, I thought I was the only one geeky enough to do something like that. Second. your ex is lame. There's no need to use someone elses pictures, especially on RJ. You can totally stock someone on here without ever going to their profile. Oh well, at least your rid of him.
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    Jan 03, 2011 4:00 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidDeco, we were dating, we were in a relationship together, I just confronted him and it's true, he claimed he did it once, felt bad and didn't log back in.

    anyway, we just broke up.

    ooooohhhh... Tanker!

    How many guys have I known you to break up with since I've been on this site? Shit... you deserve better.

    You're smart, you're funny (if a bit warped, not a bad thing), you're good looking... Damn it, damn it, damn it!

    OK, I just get frustrated, because there's nothing I can do about it. I just want to believe you're overdue for a change of fortune. I sure hope so.
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    Jan 03, 2011 5:59 AM GMT
    It's kewl mate, I'm just pissed off at him.. childish behavior.

    Shouldn't go out with young guys, they haven't had enough life experience, they haven't found there own sense of self and most of them haven't found a sense of integrity either.. but you can say that about a lot of guys though..