Do you not leave a comment or send an email to a guy you've looked at because you're afraid you don't stand a chance?

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    Jan 03, 2011 5:49 AM GMT
    I wonder if this becomes a thing where two people check out each other's pictures, secretly like each other, but are too afraid to email. So they both go away thinking the other is not interested.
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    Jan 03, 2011 5:51 AM GMT
    no, i don't message them because I've no interest in most of the people I view, I like interacting with people on the forum and for a few people I'll happily talk to them in private messages but otherwise I don't send them a message simply because I've no desire to.
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    Jan 03, 2011 5:58 AM GMT
    def sometimes....................................................................Keithicon_cool.gif
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    Jan 03, 2011 6:38 AM GMT
    Nope they don't stand a chance icon_razz.gif. No I don't leave comments cause they have too many on their profile all it would be is white noise to them. As for messages well just send them after forum posts I'm like so you said I'm a 5out of 10... you're a 2.5 out of 5 how do you like that icon_razz.gif
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    Jan 03, 2011 12:46 PM GMT
    Are you writing romantic gay comedies? where they're always checking the profile and wind up being set up on a blind date, and immediately go into a bollywood style wedding with gay male choirs and pink champagne fountains ready on the fly, like in sex in the city or something nad we all shed tears of happiness and our insides turn to warm mush?
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    Jan 03, 2011 2:41 PM GMT
    usually only look at a profile if something they said makes me wonder about which city or state they are talking about or they refer to stature etc. I read profiles but it does not necessarily mean I want to communicate with them.
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    Jan 03, 2011 2:43 PM GMT
    I used to be that way, but now I just don't give a fuck.
    If I think someone is hot and I want to sex him, I'll let him know.
    If the feeling is not mutual, there's more out there.
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    Jan 03, 2011 2:45 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidI used to be that way, but now I just don't give a fuck.
    If I think someone is hot and I want to sex him, I'll let him know.
    If the feeling is not mutual, there's more out there.



    Ha. Funny.
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    Jan 03, 2011 3:04 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidno, i don't message them because I've no interest in most of the people I view, I like interacting with people on the forum and for a few people I'll happily talk to them in private messages but otherwise I don't send them a message simply because I've no desire to.


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  • owen19832006

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    Jan 03, 2011 3:18 PM GMT
    a chance at what? most people here are in america, im in the uk! so a chance at what? i hardly ever leave comments, but when i have they always come back to say thanks or something sweet.icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 03, 2011 3:18 PM GMT
    yourname2000 said
    lilTanker saidno, i don't message them because I've no interest in most of the people I view, I like interacting with people on the forum and for a few people I'll happily talk to them in private messages but otherwise I don't send them a message simply because I've no desire to.


    ^ This.

    And there's just too much distance between 99.99% of us to be thinking in terms of being interested in someone physically, anyway.

    This is a big chatroom to me. And a place to wash the thoughts in my head, maybe learn a few men's health tips along the way. The experiences of gays guys from around the world are intoxicating all on their own.


    Agreed. There's a lot of guys I find attractive on here, but nothing can really serious can come of it, so I don't usually bother. The only time I'll message people is if I think we could get along as friends, or if they complimented me in some way first (message, gayt, etc).
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    Jan 03, 2011 3:28 PM GMT
    No. If I don't email someone it is out of pure laziness. I only email people usually if they area REALLY good looking or I have seen something in their profile or in their forum posts that stood out to me.

    If I emailed everyone that I thought was cute, I would be sitting on this site way more than I am now
  • wander2340

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    Jan 03, 2011 3:36 PM GMT
    UpperCanadian saidusually only look at a profile if something they said makes me wonder about which city or state they are talking about or they refer to stature etc. I read profiles but it does not necessarily mean I want to communicate with them.



    Same for me.

    Although I do enjoy getting to know my fellow RJers.
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    Jan 03, 2011 8:11 PM GMT
    i'll message one here , one there, depending what mood i'm in,never just because of pictures . I tend to consider the whole package.
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    Jan 03, 2011 8:35 PM GMT
    No, I just leave one anyway. Life's too fuckin' short to worry about my chances with some guy.
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    Jan 03, 2011 8:36 PM GMT
    It really depends but I have to admit that sometimes I don't comment or message because I figure the guy may not be friendly or interested icon_redface.gif.
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    Jan 03, 2011 8:40 PM GMT
    I only email if something really stands out about them. Maybe a pic, something in their profile, or something they posted in a forum.
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    Jan 03, 2011 8:44 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidAt a chance at what?

    Bagging them, sexing them?

    I leave comments for guys mainly just to compliment something I find attractive about them.

    That is about it.

    I look at RJ as a social site. Although today I was a bit flirty with one guy but I know it is not possible due to distance.

    I tend to just socially roll with my bitchuz in the forums. icon_razz.gif


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  • JDean

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    Jan 03, 2011 8:56 PM GMT
    I do that alot. I'm horribly intimidated by attractive men. It's a little pathetic
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jan 03, 2011 8:57 PM GMT
    Nope

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    Jan 03, 2011 10:25 PM GMT
    i usually look at people's profile when they post something that is either funny or makes absolutely no sense to me- so I check their profiles with no intention of messaging them in the first place.

    but if i find someone I like, I probably won't message them anyway only because I don't see the point
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    Jan 03, 2011 10:51 PM GMT
    wrestlervic saidI wonder if this becomes a thing where two people check out each other's pictures, secretly like each other, but are too afraid to email. So they both go away thinking the other is not interested.


    Oo clever! Um, let's see...I only ever email people that I think are down to earth and may be a personality match for me (either for friends or for relationship). I do get a fear that they won't respond or won't acknowledge me...but then that proves that they obviously aren't the right person! I almost never email the popular guys on here (unless they are humble) cos I think they get enough attention as it is LOL. Too much attention makes the head grow bigger ya know...icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 04, 2011 12:55 AM GMT
    I usually don't, I mean of course I look at people profiles- usually because I like the picture or something they posted, but rarely do I message or comment on their page. I guess because I think they would think I'm trying to start something or they'd think I was creeping on them, which doesn't make sense to think since they have these profiles out there for people to look at in the first place... hmmm I think I just solved my own qualm.
    Anyway. No, I usually don't comment or message people after I look at their pages, should I start?
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    Jan 04, 2011 1:08 AM GMT
    Jd22639 saidI do that alot. I'm horribly intimidated by attractive men. It's a little pathetic


    oh yes, I feel the same, well sometimes.... when I'm sober.
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    Jan 05, 2011 4:55 AM GMT
    Gbob said
    wrestlervic saidI wonder if this becomes a thing where two people check out each other's pictures, secretly like each other, but are too afraid to email. So they both go away thinking the other is not interested.


    Oo clever! Um, let's see...I only ever email people that I think are down to earth and may be a personality match for me (either for friends or for relationship). I do get a fear that they won't respond or won't acknowledge me...but then that proves that they obviously aren't the right person! I almost never email the popular guys on here (unless they are humble) cos I think they get enough attention as it is LOL. Too much attention makes the head grow bigger ya know...icon_wink.gif


    Mhmmm. :3 yes. I do too. XD icon_eek.gif