Falling in love or lust?

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    Jan 03, 2011 6:59 AM GMT
    I can't differentiate between them, how can you tell which is which?
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    Jan 03, 2011 7:11 AM GMT
    one you stomach twitches (butterflies), the other your dick does icon_razz.gif at least that's how I differentiate between them
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    Jan 03, 2011 9:43 AM GMT
    generally I imagine that 'first sight' is lust because you can't really know a person from first sight.

    when you get to know them and become attracted to the person they are, that's when I think it's love.

    but I wouldn't be an expert, never been in love before or had a relationship.
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    Jan 03, 2011 12:06 PM GMT
    navi_saiyan saidone you stomach twitches (butterflies), the other your dick does icon_razz.gif at least that's how I differentiate between them


    Thats it... lust doth not your stomach flutter make!!!
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    Jan 03, 2011 12:43 PM GMT
    EBan saidgenerally I imagine that 'first sight' is lust because you can't really know a person from first sight.

    when you get to know them and become attracted to the person they are, that's when I think it's love.

    but I wouldn't be an expert, never been in love before or had a relationship.


    You may not 'know' them, but the connection may already be there. Ya know how with some people it's so easy to talk to, as if you've been friends for life when you've never even spoken to them? I like it when that happens icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 03, 2011 2:40 PM GMT
    Lust is a physical reaction, and is based on sexual urges.
    Love is emotional, and has nothing to do with sexual urges.

    Examples:
    When having sex, if you say "oh baby I love you so much!" that's lust - not love - because the feeling is brought on by sexual activity.
    If your best friend is not your "type" yet you still feel butterflies in your stomach when he's around, that's love.

    The type of love associated with relationships is not love. It's a combination of love and lust, and the English language does not have a descriptive word for it.
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    Jan 03, 2011 3:58 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidLust is a physical reaction, and is based on sexual urges.
    Love is emotional, and has nothing to do with sexual urges.

    Examples:
    When having sex, if you say "oh baby I love you so much!" that's lust - not love - because the feeling is brought on by sexual activity.
    If your best friend is not your "type" yet you still feel butterflies in your stomach when he's around, that's love.

    The type of love associated with relationships is not love. It's a combination of love and lust, and the English language does not have a descriptive word for it.



    ...'in love' is the term I think you're looking for Paul. I'll disagree with this part,

    "When having sex, if you say "oh baby I love you so much!" that's lust - not love - because the feeling is brought on by sexual activity."

    ...because for some of us, sex is a consummation/physical expression/demonstration of how we feel. As well, consider that desire is a little more encompassing than lust, as it adds, for some of us, an emotional trigger for sex.

    -Doug
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    Jan 03, 2011 4:00 PM GMT
    in lust -> you just want to shag/fuck until your hearts content
    in love-> you want to do things together, you like talking, watching tv, listening to music going shopping, you are friends and lovers, you can help the other person in their time of need, and viceversa...you care
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    Jan 03, 2011 4:18 PM GMT
    EBan saidgenerally I imagine that 'first sight' is lust because you can't really know a person from first sight.

    when you get to know them and become attracted to the person they are, that's when I think it's love.

    but I wouldn't be an expert, never been in love before or had a relationship.
    I think EBan has it down, despite the lack of experience .

    Lust is that 'look appeal' that we have when we first meet someone. The feel of 'funness'. It's all about the good things, the looks, the feel, the sex. Then after a bit, you hit the love stage.

    Love is that time you enjoy just having the person nearby. Watching TV together, going to the grocery store, shopping, running errands. Dinner out after a day of work or cooking a routine meal at home. When you just enjoy the person with you no matter what, even after they stink up the bathroom, make a mess in the kitchen sink, change the channel in the middle of your show. After getting a little pissed, you still like having them around. I think that's love.
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    Jan 03, 2011 6:49 PM GMT
    When you want to hold the guys hand and hug him in public just because...
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    Jan 03, 2011 10:22 PM GMT
    They are so easy to differentiate:

    "Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance." 1 Corinthians 13, 4-7 (New Living Translation)

    They will read this text in my wedding icon_smile.gif

    (If you feel uncomfortable with the source, I could have quoted some other book from the Shakespeare canon to freaking Harry Potter... but this relaying comes to mind more easily)
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    Jan 03, 2011 11:29 PM GMT
    Allathlete saidWhen you want to hold the guys hand and hug him in public just because...


    ^THIS
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    Jan 03, 2011 11:43 PM GMT
    There's lust, there's love, and then there's being IN love. It's different from the first two, but requires the second; the first is sometimes optional, depending on the couple. icon_wink.gif

    -Doug
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    Jan 03, 2011 11:44 PM GMT
    DR2K saidI can't differentiate between them, how can you tell which is which?


    Haha, perfect explanation.
  • Crucializer

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    Jan 04, 2011 12:15 AM GMT
    For me ...

    LUST = GETTING

    LOVE = GIVING
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    Jan 04, 2011 12:20 AM GMT
    DR2K saidI can't differentiate between them, how can you tell which is which?


    Love is something that you have with someone that is committed, serious, and truthful. Lust is the opposite with aggressiveness, foolishness, and pity
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    Jan 04, 2011 12:52 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidLust is a physical reaction, and is based on sexual urges.
    Love is emotional, and has nothing to do with sexual urges.

    Examples:
    When having sex, if you say "oh baby I love you so much!" that's lust - not love - because the feeling is brought on by sexual activity.
    If your best friend is not your "type" yet you still feel butterflies in your stomach when he's around, that's love.

    The type of love associated with relationships is not love. It's a combination of love and lust, and the English language does not have a descriptive word for it.


    Agreed. Its more simple than most people think! lets loose the complication..
  • Jessie_Lee

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    Jan 04, 2011 12:55 AM GMT
    Crucializer saidFor me ...

    LUST = GETTING

    LOVE = GIVING


    +1

    That's the simplest way you can put it. But it's not really that simple.

    Love is more about how you can make the other person happy without expecting much back. Lust is about how you want them to make you happy.
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    Jan 04, 2011 12:58 AM GMT
    I'll admit I'm a big luster OK haha, so many great looking guys on here, but my V-card is still in tact.icon_lol.gif