Things that I hate during sex

  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 03, 2011 5:26 PM GMT
    I hate it when the guy keeps asking every 2 minutes if "are you alright" nervously as if it is some performance and he has to keep a tab on it. It adds an element of anxiety to the situation which is completely a 180 from the feeling of sexual excitement and fun. It's so annoying...and you can't say anything cuz then it will ALSO kill the moment.
    I also hate it when the other guy is so out of sync with the other person that he doesn't pick up on any cues as to how they are feeling; as he is so absorbed in pleasing just himself and getting himself off. That is a major turn off.

    "Ok, let's move to another room" ......... is a comment that absolutely kills the moment - when foreplay and making out is at its climax...and the room we are in is just FINE.just let it go....its not a VHS tape. You can't hit ( II ) and then resume it just like that. Passion doesn't work like that. Passion is all about the moment. Instant boner kill....

    or when a guy speeds through sex like he is madly driven to get his rocks off blindly by desire.


    Ughhhhh. Sorry to sound bitchy, RJ... but this happened to me last night. This guy did all of these things, and it was just a major letdown.

    Feel free to discuss this if it is/has ever applied to you.

  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 03, 2011 5:29 PM GMT
    geez, sorry, it was my first time with you...............................icon_redface.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 03, 2011 6:09 PM GMT
    We all make mistakes dude. Sex is a learning curve. And sometimes its a matter of discovering what makes you compatible... some people love talking, others dont.

    If you can get through a great session without saying a word, I say thats one thing that makes great sex. The moment you start talking its kind of sobers you up from the experience, and makes it less animalistic.

    I had the most amazing pash session on new years day, we never said a word to eachother the whole time, it was so slow and wet..... THAT is what turns me on. And as for turn offs....... bad kissers.... if ya cant get that right, its unlikely I will feel the urge to do anything more.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 03, 2011 6:32 PM GMT
    I'm looking forward to the part where you tell us about the things you love during sex, Sylas. icon_razz.gif
  • UnluckyTitan

    Posts: 106

    Jan 03, 2011 7:20 PM GMT
    Well, maybe you didn't have mind blowing sex last night, but at least you had sex. It's better than what I got last night (nothing).

    I agree with all of your points in theory, I just wonder how practicle they are. Now if you'd like to prove me wrong a time or two or 10 or 12 then I'd be more than happy to play alongicon_wink.gif.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 03, 2011 7:59 PM GMT
    With emphasis on the *I* pronoun, because these things may be OK for someone else, just not for me. In no particular order:

    - The Director: this guy likes to prearrange a fantasy scene that's hot to him. What, I've gotta learn lines and act, in order to get this guy into bed?

    I had one who'd sit on a wooden bedroom chair wearing gym clothes, while I had to shower, then I'd come out wearing a towel and pretend to start dressing. This was followed by a scripted locker room "conversation" while he "cruised" me. then he'd slip my towel off, while I was supposed to pull his gym shorts down, and start blowing him. When he was ready we finally got into bed (where that came from in the "locker room" I have no idea). Simply too contrived and artificial for me, I'm not into fantasy scenes.

    - The Gymnast: this guy wants to change positions on the bed every 30 seconds, usually taking more time to get us into each new contortion than the time we actually spend enjoying it, before he wants another. I like some variety, too, but ya can overdo it.

    - The Motor Mouth: usually giving explicit descriptions of the very things we're doing, he typically wants me to outdo him in talking "dirty" back to him, at which I'm not very good. Lacking multi-tasking skills, I'm trying to come up with hot things to say for his pleasure while also trying to please his body. I end up doing both tasks inadequately.

    - The Mute: opposite of the Motor Mouth, he doesn't make a sound, nothing that might let me know what he likes, not even a little moan, which is all I need. His total silence denies me part of the fun in pleasing a man: knowing that I'm actually pleasing him, and how best to do it. So that prompts me to ask him, one of the things the OP complains about.

    - The Musical Director: he's gotta have his special song playing in the background. Hey, this is sex in a bedroom, not cardio in his gym. Not only don't I care for the distraction, and want to hear HIS sounds, not a CD, but it probably isn't even something I like. Nor does he usually ask me first.

    - The Porn Addict: he's got the bedroom TV playing a damn porn film the whole time, with the sound up. And he's looking at it every now & then. Talk about making someone feel inadequate! I can't even compete with a TV screen. And periodically he may want us to mirror the scene playing, so now I gotta switch gears and try to copy somebody else's idea of good sex. That one is perhaps at the top of my hate list.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 03, 2011 8:54 PM GMT
    At least he didn't text or answer his phone.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 03, 2011 9:28 PM GMT
    When the guy you are with is doing poppers and they have rolled off and the frantic search begins...
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 03, 2011 9:46 PM GMT
    Thinking "Ah, shit. I hope he doesn't have an STI".
  • Space_Cowboy_...

    Posts: 3738

    Jan 03, 2011 9:54 PM GMT
    I hate it when I guy asks "do you like it soft or rough?" The last time a guy asked me that I told him "how about you get it in first because you've been bullshitting for about an hour now" he got all pissy and left but seriously an hour or grinding cocks doesn't really do it for me.. icon_rolleyes.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 03, 2011 10:01 PM GMT
    1) Somebody mistaking facial grimaces and audible sounds of pain at nipples being bitten WAYYYY to hard for moans of pleasure....

    No matter HOW hard you try mr, milk will NOT be lactating from these icon_evil.gif

    2) The guy who just lies there, with a weird smile, never once moving, or breaking eye contact...No sound.....No blinking....Creepy

  • Nayro

    Posts: 1825

    Jan 03, 2011 10:08 PM GMT
    Somerandom saidWe all make mistakes dude. Sex is a learning curve. And sometimes its a matter of discovering what makes you compatible... some people love talking, others dont.


    I think this is very well put!
  • Webster666

    Posts: 9217

    Jan 03, 2011 11:11 PM GMT
    At least you're having sex ................ sorta...


    I hate it when a guy frantically says, "Don't cum yet," as if it's a once in a life time opportunity.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 03, 2011 11:31 PM GMT
    What I think is funny about this topic is guys can look to this for advice on whoever responds so maybe they can "hit that" icon_razz.gif haha
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 03, 2011 11:40 PM GMT
    _Sage_ said1) somebody mistaking facial grimaces and audible sounds of pain at nipples being bitten WAYYYY to hard for moans of pleasure....

    No matter HOW hard you try mr, milk will NOT be lactating from these icon_evil.gif

    hahahahahahahahahaha dear lord!!!!!!

    My mouth is not a regulator, my mouth does not go inside of yours... I feel like your trying to eat my face.. Not hot Hannibal

  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 03, 2011 11:48 PM GMT
    "You like that don't ya, yeah, you like that don't ya."

    Even if I'm being dominated in some erotic wrestling hold, and I'm loving it, I don't want to hear that.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 04, 2011 1:25 AM GMT
    I get compliments not complaints.
  • Bunjamon

    Posts: 3161

    Jan 04, 2011 1:27 AM GMT
    Why are so many guys here not down with communication in bed?

    Somerandom saidWe all make mistakes dude. Sex is a learning curve. And sometimes its a matter of discovering what makes you compatible... some people love talking, others dont.

    If you can get through a great session without saying a word, I say thats one thing that makes great sex. The moment you start talking its kind of sobers you up from the experience, and makes it less animalistic.


    Sure, that's hot, but if it's the first time you're having sex, it's doubtful that you're going to so in tune to each other's visual/physical cues to make for a flawless encounter. You can say what you want in a sexy way.

    For example:
    Space_Cowboy_89 saidI hate it when I guy asks "do you like it soft or rough?" The last time a guy asked me that I told him "how about you get it in first because you've been bullshitting for about an hour now" he got all pissy and left but seriously an hour or grinding cocks doesn't really do it for me.. icon_rolleyes.gif


    This is nothing that a sexy "Oh god I want you to fuck me [hard] so bad right now" couldn't have fixed thirty minutes into it. There is no guy on the planet who would be turned off hearing such words.

    You guys might never get what you want if you don't ask for it. So ask for it. Sheesh!
  • Space_Cowboy_...

    Posts: 3738

    Jan 04, 2011 1:29 AM GMT
    Bunjamon saidWhy are so many guys here not down with communication in bed?

    Somerandom saidWe all make mistakes dude. Sex is a learning curve. And sometimes its a matter of discovering what makes you compatible... some people love talking, others dont.

    If you can get through a great session without saying a word, I say thats one thing that makes great sex. The moment you start talking its kind of sobers you up from the experience, and makes it less animalistic.


    Sure, that's hot, but if it's the first time you're having sex, it's doubtful that you're going to so in tune to each other's visual/physical cues to make for a flawless encounter. You can say what you want in a sexy way.

    For example:
    Space_Cowboy_89 saidI hate it when I guy asks "do you like it soft or rough?" The last time a guy asked me that I told him "how about you get it in first because you've been bullshitting for about an hour now" he got all pissy and left but seriously an hour or grinding cocks doesn't really do it for me.. icon_rolleyes.gif


    This is nothing that a sexy "Oh god I want you to fuck me [hard] so bad right now" couldn't have fixed thirty minutes into it. There is no guy on the planet who would be turned off hearing such words.

    You guys might never get what you want if you don't ask for it. So ask for it. Sheesh!



    Oh Roro asked for it, believe me I asked.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 04, 2011 1:31 AM GMT
    Well I usually find when you start out with someone its about discovering how they tick... once you do you can get synced in to tehm and the whole process flows easily..

    a turn-off, someone that totally has no idea how to "sync in" with you... as in they really arent paying attention to how what they are doing with you is affecting you... i told this one guy that when he would touch me it felt like a cloth or a towel was brazin g my skin.. its annoying.. use some force and just hold, i told him.. he then said "o wow, you have a manual" i thought... get with the program man, EVERYBODY has a manual!
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 04, 2011 1:34 AM GMT
    Mr Art-Deco.. you should REALLY write a book!!! It would sell! I am certain!!! your writing is so good ... it really reads like a book

    Art_Deco saidWith emphasis on the *I* pronoun, because these things may be OK for someone else, just not for me. In no particular order:

    - The Director: this guy likes to prearrange a fantasy scene that's hot to him. What, I've gotta learn lines and act, in order to get this guy into bed?

    I had one who'd sit on a wooden bedroom chair wearing gym clothes, while I had to shower, then I'd come out wearing a towel and pretend to start dressing. This was followed by a scripted locker room "conversation" while he "cruised" me. then he'd slip my towel off, while I was supposed to pull his gym shorts down, and start blowing him. When he was ready we finally got into bed (where that came from in the "locker room" I have no idea). Simply too contrived and artificial for me, I'm not into fantasy scenes.

    - The Gymnast: this guy wants to change positions on the bed every 30 seconds, usually taking more time to get us into each new contortion than the time we actually spend enjoying it, before he wants another. I like some variety, too, but ya can overdo it.

    - The Motor Mouth: usually giving explicit descriptions of the very things we're doing, he typically wants me to outdo him in talking "dirty" back to him, at which I'm not very good. Lacking multi-tasking skills, I'm trying to come up with hot things to say for his pleasure while also trying to please his body. I end up doing both tasks inadequately.

    - The Mute: opposite of the Motor Mouth, he doesn't make a sound, nothing that might let me know what he likes, not even a little moan, which is all I need. His total silence denies me part of the fun in pleasing a man: knowing that I'm actually pleasing him, and how best to do it. So that prompts me to ask him, one of the things the OP complains about.

    - The Musical Director: he's gotta have his special song playing in the background. Hey, this is sex in a bedroom, not cardio in his gym. Not only don't I care for the distraction, and want to hear HIS sounds, not a CD, but it probably isn't even something I like. Nor does he usually ask me first.

    - The Porn Addict: he's got the bedroom TV playing a damn porn film the whole time, with the sound up. And he's looking at it every now & then. Talk about making someone feel inadequate! I can't even compete with a TV screen. And periodically he may want us to mirror the scene playing, so now I gotta switch gears and try to copy somebody else's idea of good sex. That one is perhaps at the top of my hate list.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 04, 2011 1:40 AM GMT
    When someone moans annoyingly
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 04, 2011 1:43 AM GMT
    I hate bad kissers. I can work with a guy who just isn't doing it right, but I want to punch the guys who try too hard to be sexual by sticking their tongue so far in my throat they feel my uvula or sucking the life out of my tongue (I actually stopped kissing with tongue once cause the guy would not stop sucking my tongue every time it was in his mouth).

    But I think my biggest pet peeve is the mute. As I have stated in a previous thread, I once had to ask a guy if he came because he mysteriously stopped going at the business. Plus he didn't give a shit that I didn't finish. I spent the night with him that night and he asked me the next morning if I wanted to do it again and I said "no thanks" and left.
  • Timbales

    Posts: 13993

    Jan 04, 2011 1:44 AM GMT
    when they ask "what was your name again?"
  • Space_Cowboy_...

    Posts: 3738

    Jan 04, 2011 1:45 AM GMT
    KSUOWL saidI hate bad kissers. I can work with a guy who just isn't doing it right, but I want to punch the guys who try too hard to be sexual by sticking their tongue so far in my throat they feel my uvula or sucking the life out of my tongue (I actually stopped kissing with tongue once cause the guy would not stop sucking my tongue every time it was in his mouth).

    But I think my biggest pet peeve is the mute. As I have stated in a previous thread, I once had to ask a guy if he came because he mysteriously stopped going at the business. Plus he didn't give a shit that I didn't finish. I spent the night with him that night and he asked me the next morning if I wanted to do it again and I said "no thanks" and left.



    Ah-ha he got denied!