Which is the more important, character or a pretty face?

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    Jan 03, 2011 10:51 PM GMT
    Good afternoon,

    I've noticed something most peculiar in these parts. Why do people new to this site hot-list 200 men in 2 days. It's as though they're actively hoping to catch herpes or something equally unbecoming.

    What do people look for in a companion? Is it just where they lie on the Richter Scale of Darling-you-look-absolutely-fabulousness or someone with a bit of spice in their personality?

    This is just a survey sort of thing, not a criticism, so please forgive my quirky Brit humour ;).

    Cheers,
    Brit.
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    Jan 03, 2011 10:54 PM GMT
    Character is far more important in the long run, but lets be honest nobody wants to date someone they don't find physically attractive.
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    Jan 04, 2011 12:18 AM GMT
    Character. I'm not only talking about personality though. I also think people's faces can have character. I find them a lot more interesting than someone who looks like a plastic Ken doll.
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    Jan 04, 2011 12:38 AM GMT
    Vancouverite2004 saidCharacter. I'm not only talking about personality though. I also think people's faces can have character. I find them a lot more interesting than someone who looks like a plastic Ken doll.


    What you mean I look plastic, Vancouverite? I wish I did look like Ken, he's quite dishy ;).
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    Jan 04, 2011 5:09 AM GMT
    Character is more important if I plan to develop the relationship beyond anonymity.

    Pretty face is more important if all I want is head.
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    Jan 04, 2011 7:19 AM GMT
    Most gay guys will tell you their list of priorities is:

    1. Character
    2. Face
    3. Body

    The truth is, for most gay guys, their list of priorities is:

    1. Body
    2. Face
    3. Character
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    Jan 04, 2011 7:22 AM GMT
    Looks get my attention personality/character make them a keeper.
  • Abc123456

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    Jan 04, 2011 7:30 AM GMT
    Uh... One's more important than the other?

    I think i know why I'm still single....
  • activeboy90

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    Jan 04, 2011 7:38 AM GMT
    Tho I do like great looks, I always fall for relatively unattractive people but because they have beautiful character and heart they end up looking like a god to me I don't know why.
    Also just because you met them ugly doen't mean they'll always be, there are no ugly people only careless people
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    Jan 04, 2011 7:52 AM GMT
    For this site, I check their 'about me' section of their profile. What brings me there is interest in their body (from picture) or interesting forum post that shows their belief/character. But in reality at where I live, I usually look to guys with the face/body. I don't sit down with every guy I see and talk to them to figure out what their character is... I guess it's a chance kind of thing. Lucky if you hit a good looking guy with good character.
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    Jan 04, 2011 7:56 AM GMT
    character for sure, it will always stay that way, as for the face it will fade away with time, so i rather be stuck with a character....
  • DKnight

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    Jan 04, 2011 9:06 AM GMT
    Before digging one's character, most of the ppl would get lured by pretty face.

    But there is one thing I wanna say--- The definition of "pretty" for everyone is different!
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    Jan 04, 2011 9:09 AM GMT
    I don't like these because, on some level, they assume you can't have both.
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    Jan 04, 2011 9:20 AM GMT
    muscles4muscles saidMost gay guys will tell you their list of priorities is:

    1. Character
    2. Face
    3. Body

    The truth is, for most gay guys, their list of priorities is:

    1. Body
    2. Face
    3. Character


    How jaded of you M4M........seriously........icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 04, 2011 10:59 AM GMT
    Character is the deal breaker for me. There's a ton of hot guys, but character is what I find attractive.
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    Jan 04, 2011 11:04 AM GMT
    yourname2000 saidCharacter for sure...I think of character as seeing a guy's face "in action" --reading the emotions, what he stands for, what takes the wind out of his sails...that's what is really interesting in a guy's face to me. I can get a pretty face in a mag, online, in a vid...2 dimensional is 2 dimensional is 2 dimensional; I need more than that just to tweak my interest.

    I've had the hots for some guys who are arguably butt-ugly, but the look in their eyes just ignites something.

    Mark Messier, for one...not exactly a pretty guy, but when he talked: conviction, drive, playfulness, sex appeal...oooh, man.
    Mark+Messier+Bridgestone+Leadership+Awar


    Do you remember those Lays commercials he was in? Those were good.
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    Jan 04, 2011 11:17 AM GMT
    staple_ saidThere's a ton of hot guys, but character is what I find attractive.


    Exactly this.
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    Jan 04, 2011 2:54 PM GMT
    I don't think it's shallow to be attracted to objectively attractive guys. What makes a person shallow is when he finds himself attracted to someone below his "standard." And instead of taking that attraction further to see how things could possibly work out, he deems that person not objectively attractive enough to give him the time of day. I've never dated a guy with a six-pack, and I say that not because I'm attempting to tout my own virtuousness but because all I care is that the guy turns me on. Great bodies and faces are a dime a dozen in comparison to a well-formed mind. So it's a little too quick on the trigger to assume someone who is hot listing a bunch of guys in a short period of time is automatically shallow. We all have our ideal visual aesthetic and a person's Hot List gives you an understanding of what that is. When I glance at a guy's Hot List, it just serves as a window into what kind of guy he would ideally go for if he were to have his pick of the litter.
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    Jan 04, 2011 2:58 PM GMT
    More important to me, personally, is character. I care more about what people do and if they do what they say they're going to do rather than how they look (which makes me a minority in Los Angeles)
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    Jan 04, 2011 3:00 PM GMT
    Chase21 saidCharacter is far more important in the long run, but lets be honest nobody wants to date someone they don't find physically attractive.


    Agreed! Character is always more important in the long run. If you are just looking for fun, then anything goes.
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    Jan 04, 2011 3:04 PM GMT
    what does hotlisting have to do with importance of character vs. pretty face?
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    Jan 04, 2011 3:04 PM GMT
    muscles4muscles saidMost gay guys will tell you their list of priorities is:

    1. Character
    2. Face
    3. Body

    The truth is, for most gay guys, their list of priorities is:

    1. Body
    2. Face
    3. Character
    I have no problem admitting the second list is mine.
    Well, sorta...reverse numbers 2 and 3. Body and character trump face. icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 04, 2011 4:38 PM GMT
    The people you're talking about (those on a hotlisting rampage) are just probably excited

    As for what's more important- to me it's the person's attitude, the way he carries himself etc., but I mean how can you resist a pretty face?!?
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    Jan 04, 2011 7:02 PM GMT
    Voice22 saidwhat does hotlisting have to do with importance of character vs. pretty face?


    Because if you hot-list 200 men in 2 days it is doubtful you have got to know them before deciding you like them. I agree with many on here, that character is the clincher between beauty and ugliness. No matter how "cute" someone may look, if they turn out to be a mass molester of children they suddenly look ugly to me.
  • madhatter131

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    Jan 04, 2011 7:14 PM GMT
    Personality and character should be tops on the list, but they are not.

    However, as far as looks go...a pretty face is more important than a hot body. A body can come/go and be changed with trips to the gym/diet. A face is forever.

    I'd say there is probably a good balance. You have to have a priority list of important character traits, which ones are a "must have" and which ones are a "ooo that'd be icing on the cake" and find the best looking person who fits the bill. And, if you don't care about character....that makes your equation pretty simple.