New gym... Kinnda gay, younger OR very straight, older

  • prime02

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    Jan 04, 2011 12:36 AM GMT
    So here is my dilemma. I recently graduated college this past May, but took a couple classes this past semester to boost my grad school application.. so as of December, I am now in the real, working world.

    So now that I'm done, I am now gym less and have just been doing pushups and crunches at home each night. I have a World Gym that is 5 mins from my house, but is super straight (working class), good looking guys (but very straight/come with their GFs), older guys in their mid 30s +, and not that many guys my age at all. It's sorta filled with Dads who used to work out in the 80s, and talk about their lifting regime to guys in their 30s.. they all seem to know each other. The few guys my age or in their late 20s, mostly keep to themselves.

    The second gym is a 24, but a 25 min drive, younger guys, some guys that I'm pretty sure are gay, and some good looking guys.. better facilities, and more machines/weights.

    I really don't care about how nice the gym is, or how many gay guys I can work out with or how much eye candy there is.. I'm there to get a great work out... get in, get out.

    I used to work out at my school's gym, which was dominated by frat guys (which was fine cause I always went with my frat) and sorority girls. But since I graduated, and now how the opportunity to be more open with who I am, I'm ready to broaden my friends, and meet some gay guys my age.. get out there and start dating. I don't have that many gay friends, and my dating is mostly centered around chatting with guys online and going on the date from there

    So should I keep the gym that's by my house, which is more convenient because of the proximity, or go to the 24 which is farther away, BUT has a greater chance to meet other gay guys my age.

    Also, not much experience at all approaching gay guys at the gym, and making some new friends (not for sex). I've met other closeted guys in frats in the weight room at school, and made a few friends.. but that's different I think cause we had the whole being closeted and in a frat in common.

    The advice would be much appreciated icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 04, 2011 12:54 AM GMT
    I'd go to the one that's farther away. You may not know how to approach guys, but at least it sounds like the opportunity is there. More opportunity= higher probability of clicking with another fruit cake.
  • prime02

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    Jan 04, 2011 1:04 AM GMT
    I saw a gay guy at the gym today, but he was very feminine but in his mid 30s. So there are some in my current gym, but very very sparse
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    Jan 04, 2011 1:25 AM GMT
    Go to the one you'll actually use. See if the farther one works for you and see if you can get a trial membership to see if it fits with your life. Personally, I'm not a big fan of commuting to my gym (that's basically an hour's commute--25 minutes each way). If you don't mind spending an 50 minutes to an hour in your car on top of what you already spend, then try it. Mind you, it could be on your way to work for all I know.
  • prime02

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    Jan 04, 2011 1:34 AM GMT
    I was a member at the 24 two years ago, and I joined World Gym for a 3 month membership this past summer. So I've been to both.. but yes, LA traffic was annoying because I go in the afternoons, so I would catch the 5pm rush hour traffic on the way back home
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    Jan 04, 2011 1:35 AM GMT
    If you're committed to bodybuilding, go for the close gym. A 1 hour round trip could eventually become a stumbling block.

    I had a similar situation, my old gym was 20 minutes away with a more diverse sexual preference. And the gym in town, 5 minutes away is filled with mostly fat moms and old men, older than me...LOL.

    I found my commitment to the gym further away dwindled because of distance. I've been a member to the gym in town for 2 years and still have the 5-6 day commitment.

    Just try a month membership at each and decide.
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    Jan 04, 2011 1:40 AM GMT
    prime02 said
    I really don't care about how nice the gym is, or how many gay guys I can work out with or how much eye candy there is.. I'm there to get a great work out... get in, get out.
  • prime02

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    Jan 04, 2011 1:42 AM GMT
    maine1057 saidIf you're committed to bodybuilding, go for the close gym. A 1 hour round trip could eventually become a stumbling block.

    I had a similar situation, my old gym was 20 minutes away with a more diverse sexual preference. And the gym in town, 5 minutes away is filled with mostly fat moms and old men, older than me...LOL.

    I found my commitment to the gym further away dwindled because of distance. I've been a member to the gym in town for 2 years and still have the 5-6 day commitment.

    Just try a month membership at each and decide.


    the gym that's close to my house, has a ton of older guys who are know each other's name and seem to be going there for a couple years.. so yea, pretty hard to be social. I got a 2 month membership so I can take time and decide. I rarely see someone my age, but during the summer there was a group of guys that recently graduated HS and heading to college, but I don't see them anymore. They were pretty hot too haha
  • prime02

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    Jan 04, 2011 1:43 AM GMT
    A1EX said
    prime02 said
    I really don't care about how nice the gym is, or how many gay guys I can work out with or how much eye candy there is.. I'm there to get a great work out... get in, get out.


    Thanks A1EX, but if you read further down the post, you'll see the point to my question
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    Jan 04, 2011 1:46 AM GMT
    Convenience is key.
  • TrentGrad

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    Jan 04, 2011 1:48 AM GMT
    It's kind of an odd question that you're asking us, isn't it? I mean, on the one hand you make it clear that you want to be in and out of the gym, and are looking for a good workout; however everything you've said outside of this is suggestive of the idea that you actually do want more connection than just saying "hello" when you're in for your workout.

    Which gym is better stocked? Which gym is less busy when you're available to work out? What are you really looking for at your gym?

    You see, if it does matter to you that there are younger gay men your age at the gym because, now that you're out of college, you'd like to make friends and it seems like a logical place to start, then I'd say go to the 24. You're not wrong to be interested in interacting with men around your age, and gay men who share your interests...and who knows who you'll meet there.

    However if you are steadfast in that you're not interested in people outside of a casual acquaintance, then I'd say pick whichever gym better works for your schedule, has the better equipment, etc...
  • LuckyGuyKC

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    Jan 04, 2011 1:59 AM GMT
    Definitely join the gym that you will visit the most.
  • prime02

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    Jan 04, 2011 2:01 AM GMT
    TrentGrad saidIt's kind of an odd question that you're asking us, isn't it? I mean, on the one hand you make it clear that you want to be in and out of the gym, and are looking for a good workout; however everything you've said outside of this is suggestive of the idea that you actually do want more connection than just saying "hello" when you're in for your workout.

    Which gym is better stocked? Which gym is less busy when you're available to work out? What are you really looking for at your gym?

    You see, if it does matter to you that there are younger gay men your age at the gym because, now that you're out of college, you'd like to make friends and it seems like a logical place to start, then I'd say go to the 24. You're not wrong to be interested in interacting with men around your age, and gay men who share your interests...and who knows who you'll meet there.

    However if you are steadfast in that you're not interested in people outside of a casual acquaintance, then I'd say pick whichever gym better works for your schedule, has the better equipment, etc...


    I got in midafternoons around 2 or 3 majority of the time, so the gym being crowded isn't really an issue. I go around 9 if I have plans that day though, but that's once in a while.

    I'd say I would want a balance of get in, get out 50%, and being social 50%.. it used to be get in, get out, but now that I can finally be more open, I want to start meeting people my age and stuff. I would be open to older guys, but they seem to hang out with the other older guys and stuff
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    Jan 04, 2011 2:06 AM GMT
    The bottom line is you are there to lift and workout. Whereas I understand your desire to meet more guys like you, if I were in your shoes I would head to the closer World Gym and make the most of the workout. Just be yourself and enjoy the convenience (which I think in the grand scheme is a huge part of staying successful at the gym).
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    Jan 04, 2011 2:36 AM GMT
    Are you talking about World Gym in SD? Theres a lot more queens there then you think...I go there and my trainer is gay and he points out every single one of them. I'd say it's 30/70 gay/straight.
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    Jan 04, 2011 2:37 AM GMT
    Oh but to answer your question...I had a 24 hour membership too just couldn't get as motivated there as World Gym. People straight/gay were just more into their workouts.
  • prime02

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    Jan 04, 2011 2:55 AM GMT
    lgswimr saidAre you talking about World Gym in SD? Theres a lot more queens there then you think...I go there and my trainer is gay and he points out every single one of them. I'd say it's 30/70 gay/straight.


    I go to the World gym in La.. specifically in The Valley. The 24 I used to go to is Pasadena Sport.. not super gay or anything, but I do notice guys when their eyes trail off lol
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    Jan 04, 2011 3:06 AM GMT
    I used to go to the big box gyms (golds/one life) and Bally's but last year I found a small local gym that I love. A young guy and his family owns it, nice group of regular folks, and it's not that crowded.

    I like it so much that I get more accomplished and stay focused.

    The only drawback is the shorter hours on the weekends but I can work around it.
  • prime02

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    Jan 04, 2011 3:33 AM GMT
    DivotMan saidI used to go to the big box gyms (golds/one life) and Bally's but last year I found a small local gym that I love. A young guy and his family owns it, nice group of regular folks, and it's not that crowded.

    I like it so much that I get more accomplished and stay focused.

    The only drawback is the shorter hours on the weekends but I can work around it.



    Yea, I feel ya on that one.. there's time where I want to blow off steam late at night, and 24 gets that done.. the world gym closes at 11 I think. World gym is a very "locals" type place, and I can really tell they're from around the area.. I like it cause it's smaller and I get what I want done.. just not really social which I'm sorta looking to do now
  • jlly_rnchr

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    Jan 04, 2011 4:05 AM GMT
    There are gay guys at every gym. I would not let that dictate your decision. Go with the closer gym, or the one that is cheaper. Those are more reasonable variables to consider.

    If you want to be social with fitness-minded gay guys, join a gay sports league. I endorse kickball, I just did kickball in the fall and it was a blast.
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    Jan 04, 2011 4:17 AM GMT
    You should go to the close one...
    Because then on those days when you have less energy or that you are hangover you wont want to do the whole drive to the other gym
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    Jan 04, 2011 4:32 AM GMT
    Can you get a trial membership at the further one? 24 hr right? They should work with you even if you have to pay a months dues. See how it goes with the traffic.

    I normally would say go to a gym and only focus on your workout, not meeting guys. So convenience would make the difference. But recently, I have met a couple of great guys and can work out seriously and still enjoy the social aspect. Which 24 hr Fitness are you talking about?
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    Jan 04, 2011 4:42 AM GMT
    I don't really know anyone at my gym, and I've been going there for 10 years. But, I go to the gym to work out and get in shape, not to date or socialize. But, maybe that's just me. I don't hang out in the locker room and I don't use the steam room either. My gym is not very clean in the men's locker room area.

    There are many guys at my gym who seem to know each other and are friendly with each other. I try to be pleasant when I look, and I smile, but rarely get any kind of friendly response back. There are also many super hot guys at my gym, and guys of all ages. Women too.

    If it were me, I'd choose the gym closer to where I live/work.
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    Jan 04, 2011 4:45 AM GMT
    uh you live in LA. Why do you need to goto the gym to find gay friends? Gyms aren't hangout places. You are supposed to goto the gym to workout and then leave. Don't be hanging around the equipment chit chatting while other people are waiting. There are tons of other places you can go to meet gay guys, like bars and clubs. Unless you're socially awkward then I can understand why you would have trouble. Anyways, goto World Gym so there would be one less person to crowd up 24hr.
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    Jan 04, 2011 4:46 AM GMT
    socalfitness saidCan you get a trial membership at the further one? 24 hr right? They should work with you even if you have to pay a months dues. See how it goes with the traffic.

    I normally would say go to a gym and only focus on your workout, not meeting guys. So convenience would make the difference. But recently, I have met a couple of great guys and can work out seriously and still enjoy the social aspect. Which 24 hr Fitness are you talking about?


    No, don't listen to this guy. Goto World Gym and take him with you.