"Another Sign of the Times" COMFORT & PROFESSIONALISM TALKING GAY

  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 24, 2008 8:18 PM GMT
    I feel a little embarassed about even talking about this... it shouldn't be anything but commonplace.
    I was pleased it happened.

    Had to visit a potential new client this morning, a public school employee and talked to her during a break, in her classroom. She was about 25 or 26, very attractive and meeting her for the first time.

    Although I was a little concerned about the lack of eye contact and open behavior to start, she warmed up quickly and we had a good conversation going.

    She quickly mentioned her "wife" (never called the woman her "partner") and discussed some of the issues they together have and some of what they are trying to achieve. She explained that the wife had her own concerns that they are trying to address including adoption. It was very comfortable and I was pleased that we could have a converation like this in an elementary school in Kansas and it was like an everyday event.... and why shouldn't it be???

    In case you are wondering, "who I am" never came up and it should be irrelevant to this business meeting.
    I was there to address her concerns.

    I'm just pleased it happened.
  • asupas

    Posts: 234

    Mar 24, 2008 9:05 PM GMT
    I handle conversations with my coworkers in much the same way. I discuss my sexuality and dating when it comes up and its acceptable. After all, I have to hear them drone on about their wives day-in and day-out so I might as well throw out a few anecdotes about my love interests.

    Honestly it was awkward the first couple of times that I said something about a guy that I was seeing. Now they are all very interested and have tons of questions about how the whole 'gay thing' works.
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    Mar 24, 2008 10:36 PM GMT
    Funny. I had the same thing happen two days ago in a cafe. My buddy and I were joking with the waitress and she said something about having a headache and then followed that with "my wife says I say that way too much since we had our first kid." That of course led to a conversation about her 18 month old baby and it was all very natural. It was the first time I have met a lesbian who called her partner a "wife". Seemed oddly normal. I wonder if LesbianNet circulated a memo:

    To: All Lesbians
    From: HQ
    Re: "Partner" is now "Wife"

    Effective immediately, we have decided to stop saying "Partner" and start saying "Wife".

    Thank you,

    The Management.
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    Mar 27, 2008 3:22 AM GMT
    Haha - I've got somewhat the reverse situation. I was at a dinner with some people I'd just met. I got up to take a call from the 'other half.' I didn't say anything to anyone at the table, I just excused myself. When I came back, one of the women at the table asked, "Was that your husband?" So I think the memo has been circulating far and wide!
  • ShawnTX

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    Mar 27, 2008 3:59 AM GMT
    I still get amazed when the subject comes up in a easy, no drama, matter-of-fact way.

    Client - 'Shawn do you have a boyfriend?'

    Me - 'No'

    Clinet - 'I have a picture of my son in my purse. He's nice and owns his own company...you'd like him'

    It's just all so 'normal' sounding. It makes you almost forget the reasons why we were in the closet back in the day.
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    Mar 27, 2008 4:05 AM GMT
    Tell that bitch to back off...icon_eek.gif

    I mean...was he attractive in the photo, ShawnHO?
  • ShawnTX

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    Mar 27, 2008 4:20 AM GMT
    Caslon saidTell that bitch to back off...icon_eek.gif

    I mean...was he attractive in the photo, ShawnHO?


    Was that a typo, or are you calling my a ho?

    Sometimes they are attractive, most often they're not. Ah...a mothers love.