Are you a stalker?

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    Mar 25, 2008 1:38 AM GMT
    I've been on RJ for about 3-4 months now. I have looked at MORE then my fair share of the guys here, I have left comments on peoples pictures, a few testimonials, and have been TRYING to have conversations with some guys. So why, when I'm trying to talk to someone outside of the chat room, do I always feel like the fat guy stalker who only wants to gaze at hot muscled men? I am overweight, I'll give you that one lol, but trying to get lean and (not so)mean.

    Also have you ever considered yourself stalkerish? Or is it just showing that the person piques your intrest or just turns you on?
  • Timbales

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    Mar 25, 2008 1:40 AM GMT
    There's a fine like between eye contact and the piercing stare of a psychopath.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 25, 2008 2:41 AM GMT
    I've had stalkers, but friendly stalkers. Actually one of them is a very good friend now.

    I doubt if anyone could ever call me a stalker. I tend to get criticism that I'm not diligent enough in most cases.
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    Mar 25, 2008 3:52 AM GMT
    I will admit to being stalker-ish.

    I just really like some people and I can't get enough of them (you know who you are).
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    Mar 25, 2008 3:59 AM GMT
    gigman17b saidI will admit to being stalker-ish.

    I just really like some people and I can't get enough of them (you know who you are).


    Can you stalk me, Gigman?

    Thanks.

    K
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    Mar 25, 2008 4:03 AM GMT

    I'm one of your stalkers HndsmKansan.
    I have no qualms admitting that! But, do I usually need to stalk, ofcourse not. As far as looks, I don't want for much, but intellectually, i'm somewhat limited, eeergh. SO while I never have to stalk guys who are hotter than me, I sometimes allow myself to stalk guys that are smarter, eeergh. Cause I don't want some dum-dum.
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    Mar 25, 2008 4:03 AM GMT
    You seem nice iguana, but I am stalking a guy that I know pretty well. I don't usually stalk guys that I don't know.

    I will stalk that picture of you. Man look at those back muscles. I wish I had those.

    Just promise you wont call the cops on me if you see me outside of your window...
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    Mar 25, 2008 5:10 AM GMT
    GuiltyGear said
    I sometimes allow myself to stalk guys that are smarter, eeergh. Cause I don't want some dum-dum.


    You mean dumdedum, right?
    http://www.realjock.com/profile/?id=44280
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    Mar 25, 2008 6:08 AM GMT
    I've read about stalking behavior in beginning romantic relationships. I think that if people are truly interested in one another, "stalking" doesn't generally bother them and quickly dissipates. From what I've been told, stalking behaviors can be quite normal, but if unwelcomed, can be detrimental to possible friedships.

    When people ignore others, it might be better than involving themselves in a relationship that neither they nor the other person will not be happy with. I think most people appreciate candor, and for them, clear signals often are best. Not everyone is endowed with skills to direct, and some don't follow direction well. I think it's unfortunate that often those who like attention don't care much for it when it's offered.

    I'm personally neither for nor against stalking behaviors and definitely wouldn't appreciate being stalked in the extreme sense of it. At the same time, I'm not offended when someone has a strong interest and likes to interact a lot, and I love candor. I know that most people don't have much time for it, myself included, and when quite a few people begin to attempt to engage in it at the same time, it can become overwhelming. I remember a time when there were "pen pals" instead of chat rooms and forums. How much simpler a time that was...
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Mar 25, 2008 6:19 AM GMT
    I hate to quote Glenn Close in "Fatal Attraction" but, unless you want a rabbit in your stew, then "I will NOT be ignored"!
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    Mar 25, 2008 6:30 AM GMT
    internet social networking promotes stalking.
    but then again, so does leaving the house.

    yeah sometimes i feel like a stalker cause i cant ever think of a good way to start convo with a stranger over the net.
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    Mar 25, 2008 7:30 AM GMT
    It's odd. Reading this thread again. I've realized that I've fallen for two self-identified stalkers. It was one of the things I really liked about them both.

    I think I find stalkers kind of hot.

    Can someone please analyze that for me? ObsceneWish? You're qualified. I'm actually not joking for once.

    K
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    Mar 25, 2008 7:58 AM GMT
    Hahahaha. This is a funny thread and I have to say thank you, Freaky, for this entertaining and rather realistic thread.

    No. I wouldn't call myself a stalker. I have, however, been stalked online and in person before. They approached me as anyone else would and it seemed harmless. They didn't really turn stalkerish until they took the conversation south of the border, in which case, I humbly declined their advances. That's when they went all stalker on me.

    You would think after gently rejecting them things would go normal but I was terribly wrong. For starters, they were nowhere near my type and after telling them down they still figured it was ok to playfully joke with me in a sexual manner. I swatted them down each time and each time they become more persistent. One of them actually saw me in public and followed me and conveinently "bumped" into me like we were best friends. It was ridiculous. I ended up having to practically threaten him and told him if he didn't leave me alone that I wouldn't be the one needing cops. He got the hint (finally) and left me alone.

    Stalkers are losers.
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    Mar 25, 2008 8:44 AM GMT
    I would not stalk anyone but I was stalked once by a guy who parked down the street - watching my house. I discovered him one morning early when I went for my run. It was creepy as I ran past his car. He pretended to be reading the newspaper - only thing was, it was still dark outside. Another night when I ran my dogs, I came back to my house and there he was, hiding in the bushes, peering into my windows. Turned out to be a guy from my company whom I didn't know at all. I got him to stop it by confronting him at the office one day. I just said something like, "Hey man - knock it off right now before it becomes an H.R. issue." Makes your blood turn cold when you see a face looking into your windows. Eeeeuuuu!
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    Mar 25, 2008 9:24 AM GMT
    Freakyninjamonkey saidI've been on RJ for about 3-4 months now. I have looked at MORE then my fair share of the guys here, I have left comments on peoples pictures, a few testimonials, and have been TRYING to have conversations with some guys. So why, when I'm trying to talk to someone outside of the chat room, do I always feel like the fat guy stalker who only wants to gaze at hot muscled men? I am overweight, I'll give you that one lol, but trying to get lean and (not so)mean.

    Also have you ever considered yourself stalkerish? Or is it just showing that the person piques your intrest or just turns you on?



    I get the opposite feeling about myself here. I have no problem sending guys quick comments at their mail or at the board. I feel a little overwhelmed though when I go to the chat area. I feel like the dirty old man that a few of the younger guys here described hitting on them at the clubs. (for the record, I would never do that). icon_redface.gif
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    Mar 25, 2008 9:32 AM GMT
    WELL JUST DON'T SEND WEIRD LETTERS..

    I saw one guy who sent a knife and condoms in the letter.. (not to me lol )

    it was pretty scary..lol

    you are fine it's just natural thing. icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 25, 2008 10:28 AM GMT
    Is stalking defined as staring at profiles for minutes and dreamily sighing all the time? Hehe.

    Nope, I don't think I'm stalkerish. icon_wink.gif

    Well.... even if I were, why would I admit it?! icon_twisted.gif
  • zakariahzol

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    Mar 25, 2008 1:13 PM GMT
    Long ago, I was so attracted to this foreign construction worker that I just cant stop myself from stalking him. He have the most amzing body I have ever see, muscular, manly and his butt just drove me nut. He have casual sex with me twice but I was thinking of spending my whole life with him.

    I remember going to his construction cabin, waiting for him to come back. I come to his room uninvited. I kiss his hand when he dont appreciated it. Even his friend and fellow country men are kinda suspicion what is this crazy guy doing there.

    Looking back I am ashamed of what I have done. But I guess I learn and grow up. Now I cant hardly understand why I am so interested with him in the first place.
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    Mar 25, 2008 3:11 PM GMT
    i stalk some str8's on campus at times, because i cant get them, but i like looking at them, when im at the library, or the gym, or showering after the gym icon_razz.gif
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    Mar 25, 2008 3:16 PM GMT
    Jockbod48 saidAnother night when I ran my dogs, I came back to my house and there he was, hiding in the bushes, peering into my windows.


    That is so creepy, so unsettling. You handled it well.
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    Mar 25, 2008 4:26 PM GMT
    No I am not stalkerish. A friend of mine had a bit of an issue with an ex-boyfriend of his. We came out of the fitness facility to my friend's car one day and as we were about to get in, the window of the car next to us rolled down, and there was his ex. Very creepy.

    If you find you are starting to stalk someone who is gay and who you are interested in, and you are obsessing about him all the time, then I would suggest you should seek counselling. It is not healthy and is very upsetting to the person being stalked.
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    Mar 25, 2008 5:41 PM GMT
    Moudi saidi stalk some str8's on campus at times, because i cant get them, but i like looking at them, when im at the library, or the gym, or showering after the gym icon_razz.gif


    I agree. I'm totally the silent fanboy type.Photobucket
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    Mar 25, 2008 5:56 PM GMT
    I could never be a good stalker because I talk too much.
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    Mar 25, 2008 6:00 PM GMT
    zakariahzol said...But I guess I learn and grow up. Now I cant hardly understand why I am so interested with him in the first place.


    Growing up can be a powerful thing.

    One day I hope to.

    K
  • DiverScience

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    Mar 25, 2008 6:04 PM GMT
    Nope, can't say as I have.