What do you define as "crossing the line" in a club?

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    Jan 05, 2011 11:05 PM GMT
    Just wondering where people stood on what is acceptable versus what is sexual harassment, i.e. grabbing your ass versus shoving their arm down your pants. Does this change if you have a significant other?
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    Jan 05, 2011 11:07 PM GMT
    I went to Salvation for new years day... this dude grabbed my cock through my jeans, I knocked his hand away, and he went for seconds... looking back I kinda wish I grabbed his fingers and crushed them with my tight grip. Fucken wanker!
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    Jan 05, 2011 11:09 PM GMT
    If I don't crush the person's hand, it's not invasive.
    If I do crush the person's hand, he was probably not my type.
    No, it does not change if I have a significant other, because I only accept open relationships.
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    Jan 05, 2011 11:20 PM GMT
    FearTheFall saidWhat do you define as "crossing the line" in a club?


    The DJ playing Gaga, Kesha, or Katy Perry.
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    Jan 05, 2011 11:26 PM GMT
    Oh, Feathefall, you do post these things. OK...

    In places where I'm known, as monogamously partnered, nobody would dare shove his arm down my pants in the first place. If I didn't deck him first, my partner probably would.

    When I was single, an ass pinch could be cute. A grope down my pants was still unacceptable, as he would quickly find out to his dismay. Touch me without my permission and prepare to kiss the floor.

    I may have been a slut in my day, by my choice, but I was never a toy for anybody's amusement. I could turn the "Touch me and die" look on you, and you wouldn't dare even attempt it. Do you guys not know how to do that?

    Anyway, sexual harassment is defined by the place and the circumstances. If you're in a gay bar, I'm not sure if anything is harassment -- it's just what you reject. I presume we all have honed our rejection skills?
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    Jan 05, 2011 11:55 PM GMT
    HeartRobb said
    FearTheFall saidWhat do you define as "crossing the line" in a club?


    The DJ playing Gaga, Kesha, or Katy Perry.

    ^ This.
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    Jan 06, 2011 12:20 AM GMT
    To the Ke$ha haters: Stop tal-tal-talkin that blah blah blah!
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    Jan 06, 2011 12:26 AM GMT
    The only time I had to ask for security was when this guy was staring at me, with his arms crossed, and followed me to the bar,and back to the dance floor again- I know it sounds quite harmless but the guy looked really sketchy. I mean, if you wanna dance, then dance but staring at people like a madman and following them around is a little psycho.

    I mean it's not physical harrasment but I feel like its even worse coz I had absolutely no peace of mind while he was there.
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    Jan 06, 2011 12:32 AM GMT
    crossing the line is any unsolicited contact with you. No one has the right to touch u, especially if u dont want that person to.


    If its a hot guy touching, fine, it wont bother me, but if its a vcreepy looking dude it'll be considered "crossing the line" when he first touches me.
  • prime02

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    Jan 06, 2011 12:39 AM GMT
    Grabbing your crotch or ass is where I draw the line, or mouth raping you is pretty bad. Feeling your arm or chest, that's fine with me, a bit flirtatious, but still within the boundaries. This one guy literally, in one swoop, put his hand down my pants and grabbed my D. Just play it chill and everything should be fine
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    Jan 06, 2011 12:43 AM GMT
    Pyrotech said
    HeartRobb said
    FearTheFall saidWhat do you define as "crossing the line" in a club?


    The DJ playing Gaga, Kesha, or Katy Perry.

    ^ This.


    ^ This x 2
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    Jan 06, 2011 12:58 AM GMT
    The better the person looks to me the more they can get away with molestering me. Once in a while some old ugly guy will grab my ass when I walk by. Without a flinch I grab his hand and twist enough to make him not like me, but not enough to put him in pain.
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    Jan 06, 2011 3:44 AM GMT
    HeartRobb said
    FearTheFall saidWhat do you define as "crossing the line" in a club?


    The DJ playing Gaga, Kesha, or Katy Perry.



    Hahaha!!!! Lol... I totally agreeicon_wink.gif
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    Jan 06, 2011 3:46 AM GMT
    Somerandom saidI went to Salvation for new years day... this dude grabbed my cock through my jeans, I knocked his hand away, and he went for seconds... looking back I kinda wish I grabbed his fingers and crushed them with my tight grip. Fucken wanker!


    That is crossing the line, why do some guys think that is exceptional Behavior, especially when you don't even know them!

    I would have bent his fingers back, he wants aggressive...I'll show him aggressive.

    Good for you bud
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    Jan 06, 2011 4:04 AM GMT
    I think everyone's generally of the opinion that such behavior is rude, and it's likely to be met with some physical rebuff.

    So, step out of conformity and try some creative thwarting:

    1. Grab in return. Squeeze like you want lemonade.
    2. Smile and say, "Oh, you can have it if you can afford it." $50,000 should do, right?
    3. Charge 2 drinks for each grab (you have a partner, right?).
    4. Wear a cup when you go out. Post-grab, pull it out and thump him on the head with it.
    5. Point behind him and exclaim, "Look, it's your mom! I told her she could find you here."
    6. Wet yourself.
  • Celticmusl

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    Jan 06, 2011 4:10 AM GMT
    If it's not a friend, usually any kind of handling of the goods is a big mistake. There really is nothing you can do to deter them from it, but it seems the guys that do this are very unpopular, regardless of looks. pariahs.
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    Jan 06, 2011 4:15 AM GMT
    HeartRobb said

    The DJ playing Gaga, Kesha, or Katy Perry.


    Katy Perry is freakin AWESOME!
  • pushingit

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    Jan 06, 2011 4:27 AM GMT
    For me, grabbing of the front or the back is a ticket to getting punched, regardless of the situation or person. ESPECIALLY because I find grabbing to be very uncomfortable.
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    Jan 06, 2011 4:28 AM GMT
    ass grabbing would be more "okay" since it could be accidental, but a guy shoving their arm down your pants is too far. Best bet keep your hands to yourself icon_razz.gif
  • omgazn

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    Jan 06, 2011 4:36 AM GMT
    Lol at the club splash in new york city someone tapped me whiles i was at the bar. I just turn stare and went back to getting my drink. The second time he grab my ass then try to put me to him and i ran away. Touching without permission is definetly crossing the line for me. I might try the crushing finger thing next time.
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    Jan 06, 2011 4:42 AM GMT
    I easily draw the line when a guy starts to just unnecessarily touch me, such as touching my butt, crotch, or even my face. I'll just simply cock an eyebrow, and walk away. icon_lol.gif
  • calibro

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    Jan 06, 2011 4:50 AM GMT
    i get my chesticles grabbed all the time... a few times i really wasn't in the mood, and in the words of velma kelly... Well, I was in such a state of shock, I completely blacked out. I can't remember a thing. It wasn't until later, when I was washing the blood off my hands I even knew they were dead...

    but seriously, i have reflexively thrown a few punches when i wasn't in the mood. nobody touches me without me saying it's ok, and though i try to be polite about it when it happens, if i'm tired and it's been a rough week... icon_redface.gif
  • FredMG

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    Jan 06, 2011 5:02 AM GMT
    After putting his hand twice on my knee and being told "No" I decked a guy who ran his hand up my kilt.

    So, go to far and even a guy wearing a skirt will kick your f'n ass. icon_razz.gif
  • ohioguy12

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    Jan 06, 2011 5:10 AM GMT
    JAKEBENSON saidThe better the person looks to me the more they can get away with molestering me.


    I think this is true for most people.
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    Jan 06, 2011 5:34 AM GMT
    oh so i decided to feel a few guys up this weekend at the club because i was soo trashed and wanted to see what i could get away with. i was walking by one guy and felt up his chest and abs and he just caressed my hand. then there was this huge muscle black guy with the thickest ass ever so i slapped it. he just smiled and slapped my ass back. then there was this tall football player type guy that i've seen around before, who also has a profile on RJ, me and my friend groped him and he just stood there and watched us. we were poking at it and he didn't even make a movement. maybe since it was new years weekend people are a little more tolerant. fun times. i swear this is my first time copping feels.