I can only masturbate in bed under blankets..?

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    Jan 06, 2011 1:49 PM GMT
    When I was 14 and first started masturbating I tried different methods but preferred doing it in bed lying down under the blankets. Maybe because I liked the sensation of masturbating into a surface, and also it was discreet and comfy. Five years later I've rarely done it any other way and the last year or so it's always been the same way, in bed under the covers. When I try to masturbate with nothing over me (like in the open air in any position) it is uncomfortable and does not work. So I always return to under the blankets... It's not as easy as saying "practise masturbating without blankets etc", have tried that route loads of times. This is a problem because with the guys I've met as dates and got intimate with, the only way I can get off is to masturbate myself and me only and under the blankets, which is really impersonal and annoying.

    Is this normal? It would be interesting to hear similar stories. Also my foreskin does not go back as far as it should, which I think is why I'm so sensitive and unable to get pleasure from someone else masturbating me. icon_redface.gif

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    Jan 06, 2011 1:52 PM GMT
    We need video to make a proper assessment of your improper masturbatory techniques.
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    Jan 06, 2011 2:10 PM GMT
    zblue24 saidIs this normal? It would be interesting to hear similar stories. Also my foreskin does not go back as far as it should, which I think is why I'm so sensitive and unable to get pleasure from someone else masturbating me. icon_redface.gif

    I've not heard this one before, but it wouldn't surprise me. Early sexual activities often set a permanent pattern for later life. My first masturbation experiences were while shimmying up trees in the woods (I was always very outdoorsy, believe it or not) -- thank gawd I got over THAT habit! Otherwise I suppose I'd be humping guys' legs like a dog. Because it actually took me a while to learn how to use my hand, but I just kept trying, until I master(bat)ed it. Sorry, bad joke. icon_redface.gif

    BTW, I had to learn your under-sheet technique when I lived in US Army enlisted barracks. Although I've heard of stories, particularly in the Navy, of guys openly wanking in their cots, no one did that in my peer group in the 1960s. So you whacked under wraps, at night when you assumed the other guys were sleeping.

    What's actually happened, I think, is that you've conditioned yourself to this response. To change it you'll just have to force yourself to try another way. You say you've tried that unsuccessfully. Well, try again; there isn't a pill for it. Do this:

    Make sure you have absolute privacy, nobody home, your door locked. Fear of detection will hold you back, perhaps one reason why at 14 you began doing this. (To this day when I get myself off I like a sheet on my legs, from my teen days when I'd have to quickly cover myself if I heard my parents approaching. But with another guy I need nothing over me)

    Next, never let yourself masturbate the old way, only the new, uncovered way. At your age, if you're forced to go without for more than a week you'll probably be able to pop while jerking on a public park bench at high noon.

    Hope this works for you. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 06, 2011 3:42 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said... but I just kept trying, until I master(bat)ed it. Sorry, bad joke...


    hahahaha..a phunny phellow!

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    Jan 06, 2011 11:08 PM GMT
    I get way too hot under the covers and the closer I get to ejaculating the faster the covers (and clothes, if I'm wearing them) come off!!

    I agree with exploring your body more. And yes, you will discover great things. While it's nice to know exactly how to get yourself off fast, sometimes the pleasure is in taking the slow road...
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    Jan 07, 2011 2:13 AM GMT
    That's quite of skill, I'd say!icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 08, 2011 4:42 AM GMT
    Thanks for all the replies... I'll try and keep away from the blankets. But the temptation to have the blankets is sooo strong, it's like a super-comfort zone that I need to break out of.
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    Jan 08, 2011 4:59 AM GMT
    zblue24 saidThanks for all the replies... I'll try and keep away from the blankets. But the temptation to have the blankets is sooo strong, it's like a super-comfort zone that I need to break out of.
    Try having a hot guy lay on top of you and frotting with him.
    That's kinda like having a blanket, only much heavier...and funner. icon_razz.gif
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    Jan 08, 2011 3:20 PM GMT
    So is that what frottage is? I've seen the word just don't know what it means.
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    Jan 08, 2011 3:38 PM GMT
    It's normal for you. But doesn't it mess up your sheets and blankets. By the end of the week they must be stiff as a board! ... icon_eek.gif

    Other than the mess, what the problem with wanking under the covers if that's what you like? Why change?
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    Jan 08, 2011 3:49 PM GMT
    UpperCdn saidtake your time and use lotion. explore the sensations. Don't make climax the goal - the goal is to awaken your awareness of the variety of sensations you can experience. caress and stroke your dick with a finger, two fingers, the flat of your palm, the back of your hand, the back of your wrist or arm (where there is arm hair). explore the sensation of tickling, and tugging your balls (stretching your perineum).

    like art_deco said, you are in a habitual technique. You have not truly explored your body. Find and get to know your body's areas of sensitivity - your nipples. apply pressure and massage your perineum (the area behind your balls) and experience the indirect pressure on your prostate (from the outside).


    you vill discover great things, liebshoen.

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    Be careful taking advice from this guy. He owns stock in the lotion company. He will have you using the stuff for butter, salad dressing, motor oil, you name it! ... icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 08, 2011 4:00 PM GMT
    QUOTE AUTHOR GOES HEREIt's normal for you. But doesn't it mess up your sheets and blankets. By the end of the week they must be stiff as a board! ...

    Other than the mess, what the problem with wanking under the covers if that's what you like? Why change?


    Yeah I don't care about the sheets and blankets etc. I am really particular about hygiene but that aspect doesn't bother me at all. Well wanking under the covers is a big problem because as I described when I have been with a guy doing mutual masturbation I can't get any pleasure or comfort from it (I actually had to tell them to stop it was so uncomfortable and almost sore because my foreskin doesn't go back much), the only way I can orgasm is if I do it by myself only and under the blankets...instead I want to be able to wank normally and also get pleasure from having it done to me. It's been ages (over a year) since I've seen myself cum icon_confused.gif
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    Jan 08, 2011 4:05 PM GMT
    zblue24 said
    QUOTE AUTHOR GOES HEREIt's normal for you. But doesn't it mess up your sheets and blankets. By the end of the week they must be stiff as a board! ...

    Other than the mess, what the problem with wanking under the covers if that's what you like? Why change?


    Yeah I don't care about the sheets and blankets etc. I am really particular about hygiene but that aspect doesn't bother me at all. Well wanking under the covers is a big problem because as I described when I have been with a guy doing mutual masturbation I can't get any pleasure or comfort from it (I actually had to tell them to stop it was so uncomfortable and almost sore because my foreskin doesn't go back much), the only way I can orgasm is if I do it by myself only and under the blankets...instead I want to be able to wank normally and also get pleasure from having it done to me. It's been ages (over a year) since I've seen myself cum icon_confused.gif

    Do blowjobs work for you? Can you just let the other guy blow you and forget about wanking when you are with someone?
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    Jan 08, 2011 4:09 PM GMT
    CalsonDo blowjobs work for you? Can you just let the other guy blow you and forget about wanking when you are with someone?


    Probably not. I've only had one and I can't say I liked it.


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    Jan 09, 2011 12:47 PM GMT
    Well anyway I didn't use the blankets and it worked icon_eek.gif now I just have to stay away from them...the hard part.
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    Jan 09, 2011 1:23 PM GMT
    I only like to masturbate sitting on a couch or a chair and when I get really horny I lift up from the chair and remain standing on my knees in a sitting position. It reaaally turns me on a lot : ))
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    Jan 09, 2011 1:42 PM GMT
    zblue24 saidSo is that what frottage is? I've seen the word just don't know what it means.
    Google is a wonderful tool. icon_wink.gif
    PS. I may be doing a frottage scene this week (porn). I'll post a video pic.
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    Jan 09, 2011 2:44 PM GMT
    i can only imagine the spotty mess and 3 day later smell coming from masturbating under the covers...

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    Jan 09, 2011 3:01 PM GMT
    QUOTE AUTHOR GOES HEREi can only imagine the spotty mess and 3 day later smell coming from masturbating under the covers...


    None of that at all haha. Cream sheets + invisible odourless mess. icon_cool.gif