Guilty Feeling

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    Jan 06, 2011 3:28 PM GMT
    After sleeping with some1 i get a guilty feeling
    and keep on getting thoughts what i did was not right i shoud not be doin this not only that even if i jerk off watchin gay porn
    i feel guilty and its beacuse of that reason i ddient get physical for more then 4 years now is it only me or are there others who get this kinda feeling
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    Jan 06, 2011 4:12 PM GMT
    When I was younger I would feel guilty about anything pertaining to sex. I'd abstain for so long I'd do something and then feel horrible later. Self acceptance and a core of good supportive friends will diminish the guilt. In the meantime play smart and play safe! This feeling will pass. (hopefully)
  • prime02

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    Jan 06, 2011 7:32 PM GMT
    I have no clue what you're saying.. you would probably get more responses if you wrote full sentences that aren't abbreviated in a way a 12 yr old would write
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    Jan 06, 2011 8:15 PM GMT
    prime02 saidI have no clue what you're saying.. you would probably get more responses if you wrote full sentences that aren't abbreviated in a way a 12 yr old would write


    Maybe his keyboard is old and needs to be replaced.... like some of the keys don't work... or maybe, English is NOT his first language.... icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jan 06, 2011 8:22 PM GMT
    romeohot saidis it only me or nt1 else exp dis after sleepin wid a guy i feel guilty as in i sudnt be doin this n all even after watchin gay porn n jerkin off i g de same feeling


    There's nothing wrong having sex with someone if it's done properly and safely.

    I tink turs mor imprtant tings 2 feel glty of... icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jan 06, 2011 8:23 PM GMT
    Maybe he texted from his phone..

    But anyway, yes, I feel the same way after hookups with people I don't really know or like, hence I don't do that any more. Hated the way it made me feel.

    But when I was with men I knew and loved, totally different. Did not feel guilty or regret or disgust; my problem is not guilt because I'm gay; but that I personally feel better when I'm sharing something intimate with someone when I love them.

    I can watch gay porn and j/o and not feel guilty in the least. It's a healthy release when the alternative is hookups off of craig's list. icon_eek.gif

    If it doesn't sit well with you, then don't do it. Not all of us are hooking up nightly (though there are nights when me and my hand and my toys and being alone really gets old...).

    If you're feeling guilty because you are gay, well, self-acceptance will help with that. Nothing wrong with being gay.
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    Jan 06, 2011 8:57 PM GMT
    Sex is nothing to feel guilty about.
    Society should feel guilty for making sex taboo.
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    Jan 06, 2011 11:13 PM GMT
    thx every1
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    Jan 06, 2011 11:25 PM GMT
    I was like that too... your guilty feeling is probably a reaction to your social upbringing/values...

    one good thing is you will be a very loyal companion... one bad thing is sex or thoughts of sex will occupy too much of your life because of the inhibitions...

    I had to redraw my boundaries after giving careful thought to all aspects which bothered me
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    Jan 06, 2011 11:29 PM GMT
    romeohot saidAfter sleeping with some1 i get a guilty feeling
    and keep on getting thoughts what i did was not right i shoud not be doin this not only that even if i jerk off watchin gay porn
    i feel guilty and its beacuse of that reason i ddient get physical for more then 4 years now is it only me or are there others who get this kinda feeling

    What is causing your guilt? The mere fact of having gay sex (as I presume this was)? Or was this person already in a committed relationship with someone else? Or are you?

    Otherwise, I cannot think of any reason for guilt. If it were me, I'd feel pretty happy.
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    Jan 06, 2011 11:36 PM GMT
    I went through the same thing year ago, I was raised in a very religious family and educated at private christian schools and they seem to instill in young people a feeling that anything fun is wrong. Staying out late was wrong, touching was wrong, they were actually against something so simple as open toe shoes and sleeveless dresses back then, Masterbation was totally wrong too. When your raised in such environments (if you were) then a person cannot help but be affected in a negative way. Once you accept that sex is healthy and natural you'll lose some of those rediculous taboo's. Hang in there and don't hold it against yourself for enjoying some sex.
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    Jan 07, 2011 12:01 AM GMT
    Two of you above made light of this young man, because his use of english wasn't as good as yours. I dare say that if you were to have to write in someone elses language, that you would hope for more tolerance than what little you've shown him.

    For him to write as well as he does is to his credit, a show of inteligence, and you two would show more inteligence if when reading a post like his to either shut up if you don't understand, or respond in a more accepting way to what you did understand, maybe inquire in a decent way as to what was meant. Try a little more tolerance, it doesn't hurt at all

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    Jan 07, 2011 4:33 AM GMT
    realifedad said Two of you above made light of this young man, because his use of english wasn't as good as yours. I dare say that if you were to have to write in someone elses language, that you would hope for more tolerance than what little you've shown him.

    For him to write as well as he does is to his credit, a show of inteligence, and you two would show more inteligence if when reading a post like his to either shut up if you don't understand, or respond in a more accepting way to what you did understand, maybe inquire in a decent way as to what was meant. Try a little more tolerance, it doesn't hurt at all



    Actually, I think the OP edited his message after our remarks. The original message was not showing any stranger making an effort to speak a language he didn't know (what I do everyday here as a francophone), but used what's commonly named "the internet languagezzz".

    I show some respect to those who tried, but not for the lazy ones ;)
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    Jan 07, 2011 4:35 AM GMT
    i get this feeling all the time icon_sad.gif
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    Jan 07, 2011 4:39 AM GMT
    Been there dude, we all have, it comes form a lifetime of having been told your feelings are wrong... it takes a lot to learn to accept yourself that way and to stop feeling guilty.. and to do that, I could not have done it without my friends... so hang around people that accept you, you dont need to have sex with gay people to hang with gay people, just make friends... people you can talk to and trust... thats the way I got this far... peace bro, and luck!!
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    Jan 07, 2011 4:44 AM GMT
    romeohot saidAfter sleeping with some1 i get a guilty feeling
    and keep on getting thoughts what i did was not right i shoud not be doin this not only that even if i jerk off watchin gay porn
    i feel guilty and its beacuse of that reason i ddient get physical for more then 4 years now is it only me or are there others who get this kinda feeling


    I used to feel like that in high school. When I used to hook up with my skater buddy, I always felt guilty and that I wouldn't do it again... Never say that to yourself, because you do it again and again...


    Until you are truly comfortable with yourself, then you feel no guilt...
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    Jan 07, 2011 5:01 AM GMT
    romeohot saidAfter sleeping with some1 i get a guilty feeling
    and keep on getting thoughts what i did was not right i shoud not be doin this not only that even if i jerk off watchin gay porn
    i feel guilty and its beacuse of that reason i ddient get physical for more then 4 years now is it only me or are there others who get this kinda feeling


    I used to be ashamed of watching porn and I still am. It's like I don't want my parents, or roommate to know I watch porn, so I do it quietly..lol... But I definitely don't feel guilty doing it...Porn definitely helps when you need a quick release.

    As for sleeping with someone, like a previous poster commented, you're not alone in your guilty feelings. I sometimes feel guilty with random hookups... especially with guys I don't see myself with. It usually happens during the moments of horniness...you sleep with guys who you don't really want to sleep with. But you have to release somehow...I guess if you really do feel guilty about hooking up and watching porn...then it's back to the old ways of jerking off when you were young and don't have access to these things---imagining yourself with a really hot guy :p
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    Jan 07, 2011 4:36 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidSex is nothing to feel guilty about.


    This.
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    Jan 07, 2011 4:51 PM GMT
    prime02 saidI have no clue what you're saying.. you would probably get more responses if you wrote full sentences that aren't abbreviated in a way a 12 yr old would write


    Why would you bother to post this?

    I don't understand, there are so many different threads to contribute to, why not just pass over the ones that don't interest you?
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    Jan 07, 2011 5:09 PM GMT
    guilt used to come from even watching gay porn.....since i have become comfortable with my sexuality and know who i am...the guilt is gone,..completely.................................................................Keithicon_wink.gif
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    Jan 09, 2011 12:10 AM GMT
    realifedad said Two of you above made light of this young man, because his use of english wasn't as good as yours. I dare say that if you were to have to write in someone elses language, that you would hope for more tolerance than what little you've shown him.

    For him to write as well as he does is to his credit, a show of inteligence, and you two would show more inteligence if when reading a post like his to either shut up if you don't understand, or respond in a more accepting way to what you did understand, maybe inquire in a decent way as to what was meant. Try a little more tolerance, it doesn't hurt at all




    hey thx alot man
  • Syphon

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    Jan 09, 2011 12:24 AM GMT
    Just do it more often and eventually the guilt will go away as you realise how awesome it is.