"You look 40"

  • NerdLifter

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    Jan 07, 2011 5:49 AM GMT
    Some random dude just sent me this on Grindr.

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    And you may remember when I posted on the forums when this happened to me a few months ago:

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    These are not profile-less people and they have pictures of themselves up and everything. Has anyone else experienced this on Grindr? Where someone just out-of-the-blue sends you some really nasty message as the opening line?

  • NerdLifter

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    Jan 07, 2011 6:10 AM GMT
    Contrary to popular mythology, Grindr isn't only used by people looking for sex/hookups. Its use can widely vary depending on location.

    I've found friends through the app whom I would otherwise never know were also gay.

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    Jan 07, 2011 6:13 AM GMT
    Could be a number of things; a straight guy causing drama, a jealous guy causing drama. But the main point is to not let it bother you, when you know that you haven;t done anything to offend those guys.

    I'm sorry that it happened to you, but just brush them off. icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 07, 2011 6:16 AM GMT
    faggotbitch saidWell, your face does look older than 21, but what can ya do? Smile more..
    I think your neck looks a bit too thick for your face, maybe stop exercising it?



    And I think when you have no pics you have a lot of nerve critiquing the looks of someone else.
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    Jan 07, 2011 6:17 AM GMT
    The only one with the power to hurt you is you...if you allow his words to do so. Please don't.
  • NerdLifter

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    Jan 07, 2011 6:21 AM GMT
    Ah trust me, it doesn't bother me when it comes to how I think about myself. But it does however fascinate me to the nature of what is colloquially known as: "trolling."

    Even with lessened anonymity, as aforementioned they had profiles up with pictures, they still choose to pursue these types of messages towards other people. The question then becomes "why?" I just have trouble wrapping my head around why do people chose to seethe such negativity purposefully. Think my next research paper might have to be on this topic of "trolling."
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    Jan 07, 2011 6:23 AM GMT
    lol.

    Yeah.. I've been told that before....... sigh.
    Some people just have nothing better to do than to pick on others.

    ...believe me... I know.

  • tajsreve

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    Jan 07, 2011 6:32 AM GMT
    I would not have been offended with the first one "You look 40" comment.
    After all there are alot of hawks out there who post a profile a lie that they are younger hoping to pick up a chicken. It could have been some one just checking your validity
    the second one, well no need to get worried about that one either.
    Assholes are Assholes. There are always those people who just want to be hateful because they feel bad about themselves.

    Tank77The only one with the power to hurt you is you..


    THIS!!!!!
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    Jan 07, 2011 6:33 AM GMT
    I've only had weird guys hit me up on Grindr. I deleted the app on my iPhone a few months ago.

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  • wander2340

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    Jan 07, 2011 10:40 AM GMT
    One of my best friends sends messages like that to people all the time. He's actually a very nice guy but he is completely ruthless on grindr. When he sends this type of message he is usually out drinking with his friends and the whole gang (not me) is encouraging him to say wild stuff. Most of the stuff they make up doesn't even really have anything to do with the person. They are just messing around and having fun.

    Seriously, you can't read too much into it.
  • bolero_of_fir...

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    Jan 07, 2011 10:42 AM GMT
    "ur looks offend me"

    this guy is pro
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    Jan 07, 2011 10:55 AM GMT
    Studinprogress saidSome random dude just sent me this on Grindr.


    kill him

    People say horrendous shit on Grindr all the time. It's like the internet for the internet. And the internet is pretty bad as it is.
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    Jan 07, 2011 10:56 AM GMT
    sxydrkhair saidNo, I am way too good for Grindr... Why are you wasting your time talking to those losers?


    I found a Muslim on Grindr once. We've been friends since. You can do it. I have faith in your Koran.
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    Jan 07, 2011 10:59 AM GMT
    To reiterate what others have said, it sounds like some guys trying to deal with their own insecurities. I wouldn't give it a second thought.
  • mynyun

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    Jan 07, 2011 11:02 AM GMT
    Sashaman your looks offend me. You always wear too much clothes. icon_cool.gif
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    Jan 07, 2011 1:07 PM GMT
    If my looks offend someone, they should close their eyes while sucking my dick.
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    Jan 07, 2011 1:11 PM GMT
    All of the above...

    THIS
  • Nayro

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    Jan 07, 2011 1:12 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidIf my looks offend someone, they should close their eyes while sucking my dick.


    you have a solution to everything don't you?
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    Jan 07, 2011 1:20 PM GMT
    All I can say is, "thank god I'm married and I don't have to deal with people like that!"

    To the OP: Don't sweat it. ANYONE who'd go out of their way just to express their own opinion to a total stranger on whether or not they found you attractive is an ASS!
  • Celticmusl

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    Jan 07, 2011 1:25 PM GMT
    For the most part Grindr has been the most hostile and unfriendly gay chat site I've been to(although gay.com had it's moments). Good to hear it's not just me. Also, just because a guy has a pic up of someone with a face doesn't mean it's his pic.

    I had to laugh at your feedback from Grindr users, because it doesn't surprise me one bit. I suggest not to use grindr anymore and use jack'd, it's getting more popular.
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    Jan 07, 2011 1:26 PM GMT
    Daelin said
    paulflexes saidIf my looks offend someone, they should close their eyes while sucking my dick.


    you have a solution to everything don't you?
    In theory, yes.
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    Jan 07, 2011 1:39 PM GMT
    Could you forward that, "You look 40." comment to me, please? I need a little boost, today! icon_redface.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jan 07, 2011 2:00 PM GMT
    Only a loser would do that kind of thing. I would have told him so and moved on. Don't spend time thinking about what some immature slob
    says, seriously. Your pics show a guy who's very active and involved.
    Age shouldn't matter.
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    Jan 07, 2011 2:01 PM GMT
    Funny... I just had a guy earlier tonight randomly message me making cracks at me about how short I was.... I let him know that I am travel size, bite size, fun size, pocket sized... but I am not short. Then he proceeded to tell me that he was at a hotel downtown. I told him to order room service. He said he wanted to order me. I told him I wasn't on the menu. He blocked me. lol
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    Jan 07, 2011 2:07 PM GMT
    It's the whole little boy "insult the girl you actually like" behavior. Some men, straight or gay but always stupid, never outgrow it.