I would do anything to gain you back!

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    Jan 07, 2011 7:26 PM GMT
    I just stopped seeing this guy that treated me really bad and although I've started seeing other people, a part of me still stupidly wants him to call and ask If there is anything he could do to make things work, I've already thought what I would ask!! icon_sad.gif

    my question is: does it happen @Real life? Have you ever been told someone would do anything to have you back? Have you ever said it yourself? Or is it totally wrong to believe someone, no matter who, would say such a thing
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    Jan 07, 2011 7:30 PM GMT
    If he treated you that badly, why go back?
    I've never broken up with someone I liked enough to warrant that sentence.
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    Jan 07, 2011 7:44 PM GMT
    Let me tell you now - dont bother with it, it only puts you through more rejection.

    If somebody genuinely does not want to be with you, they will NOT be willing to "keep trying and see if feeling develop further"... because really, why bother with somebody you do not have feelings for if you already are keen on somebody else, for instance?

    All you can do is focus on bettering yourself, making yourself more appealing to others, become a stronger individual, gain some confidence, and this problem is less likely to come up again icon_smile.gif Remember... you arent changing for HIM, you are changing for YOURSELF. Take it as a learning curve, and as motivation to gain some wisdom. I have done this before (to a much lesser degree) and i find that unless you have a great deal of history with the person, this sort of "seeing if we can make things work" idea sounds too relationshippy and can be desperate/off-putting - move on!!

    Oh and the prick treated you badly? Just look at him in a negative light and that will help you get over him!
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    Jan 07, 2011 7:55 PM GMT
    Absolutely forget about him. If he treated you badly, trying to get him back will only lead to two possible scenarios:

    1. More rejection because he doesn't really want you.
    2. More bad treatment because he thinks he can get away with it.
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    Jan 07, 2011 8:44 PM GMT
    Yes it does happen in real life.

    I was told by someone that cheated he'd do anything to get me back, and he did, so we tried until he cheated again.

    I said it to a couple of guys, one who loved me the same way he loved ketchup and clean socks, and another that couldn't follow the rules in an open relationship (way back when I tried open relationships) and barebacked when it was expressly taboo. The first one looked at me like I was crazy. The second one I gave up having sex with because I didn't want to end up in a VD clinic.

    icon_wink.gif -Doug



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    Jan 07, 2011 9:01 PM GMT
    Leave that can of worms closed, move on and forget him as best as you can. If he treats you badly that behavior is most likely to continue you're just in a vulnerable state and it's best to keep strong and do not contact him even if he tries to contact you.
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    Jan 08, 2011 1:10 AM GMT
    Leave the loser and move on.
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    Jan 08, 2011 1:12 AM GMT
    you have beaten wife syndrome.....move on......................Keithicon_wink.gif
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    Jan 08, 2011 1:23 AM GMT
    Yea if you go back to a guy who treated you poorly you're essentially telling him that it's fine and dandy that he does whatever he was doing.

    I have had a similar line pulled on me...

    "I was a fool to let you go." I got suckered in, and I wound up being the fool for letting him manipulate me like that.

    People can change, but usually only when motivated by extreme hardship that forces them to evaluate their behavior.

    Don't hold your breath, move on, and don't settle for less than you deserve just because it's familiar.
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    Jan 08, 2011 4:58 AM GMT
    vetteset saidyou have beaten wife syndrome.....move on......................Keithicon_wink.gif


    well, "love the way you lie part2 has become a new favorite of mine" :S
    thanks guys, really really thank U all, your comments always help... Btw, went on a date (new guy) today it went awsome!!
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    Jan 08, 2011 5:00 AM GMT
    Writrboi said

    well, "love the way you lie part2 has become a new favorite of mine" :S
    thanks guys, really really thank U all, your comments always help... Btw, went on a date (new guy) today it went awsome!!

    Good to hear icon_razz.gif
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    Jan 08, 2011 5:12 AM GMT
    Ask yourself this:

    Do I miss him or do I really miss being in a relationship?